How do you understand the saying "there is no turning back" in the speech?

As the saying goes: "There is no turning back arrow when you draw a bow." In social situations, when we deal with people, the first sentence we say is equivalent to this arrow (which cannot be taken back). It determines who you are. Your attitude towards the conversation also implies your motivation for the conversation. Especially when meeting someone for the first time, the first sentence is the first impression left on the other person and the first signal to the other person about the gist of the conversation. Therefore, getting your first sentence right matters a lot. There are 3 common ways.

1. Greeting

China has a history of 5,000 years of civilization, and politeness has become increasingly important in the development of society. For example, in daily life, "Have you eaten?" or "Hello" and so on. It is a way of greeting the other party and expressing friendliness. If we can use different greetings according to different objects and different times in daily life, the effect will be better. We say "Hello, old man" to the elders to show our respect; to those of the same age, it is more cordial to say "Hello, old × (surname)" or "Hello, classmate"; if the other person is named Teachers can say "Hello, Teacher Wang" to show respect for them. During festivals, saying "Happy Holidays" gives people a happy atmosphere and is often more appropriate. It is undeniable that speaking the first sentence well is crucial and creates a good atmosphere. This makes subsequent conversations go more smoothly and avoids embarrassment. No matter how interesting and interesting the conversation is during the conversation, then the conversation will be a smooth one. There are two points that should be paid attention to during the conversation:

First, there should be different topics during the conversation that can attract the interest of both parties. But sometimes how can two strangers share the same topic of interest? We live in the same era, on the same land, and receive the same education. As long as we observe carefully, why worry about not finding the same topic? A primary school teacher and a plasterer seemed to have nothing in common. However, if the plasterer is a parent of a primary school student, then the two can express their opinions and exchange views on how to educate the child. If the primary school teacher is building or repairing a house, then the two can discuss how to purchase building materials and choose a construction plan. Communicate information and discuss. As long as you pay attention to each other and test each other during the conversation, you will always find that the two have the same views on a certain topic, the same interests and hobbies in a certain aspect, or a certain type of things that everyone cares about. This will avoid the awkwardness and awkwardness you feel when you first meet. Second, during the conversation, we should pay attention to the words and expressions and grasp their psychology. In order to understand the other party's current situation and the issues that the other party is concerned about. In this way, you can understand the taboo topics of the other party and leave an indelible impression on the other party. For example, if you know that the other person's child failed the college entrance examination this year and the whole family is unhappy, you should comfort and enlighten the other person, talk about the principle of "no name on the list, but there is a path at your feet" and give some examples of self-taught talents. If the other person’s child decides to take the exam again next year, and you have experience in self-study and the college entrance exam, you can speak out about what you need to pay attention to when reviewing for the college entrance exam, and you can also offer some valuable reference books. On such occasions, be careful not to talk about the glory of being on the list. Even if your child has been admitted to a prestigious university, it is not appropriate to publicize it or show joy, which will make the other person's face feel dull. Be sure to pay attention to the methods and techniques during the conversation.

2. Climbing style

Among the three great joys in life, one of them is meeting an old friend in a foreign country. It can be seen that in social interactions, we feel more intimate with relatives, friends, fellow villagers, etc. During the Three Kingdoms period, during the Battle of Chibi, Lu Su's first words when he met Zhuge Liang were: "I am Tzuyu's friend." Tzuyu is Zhuge Liang's brother Zhuge Jin, who is Lu Su's colleague and best friend. This short sentence established the friendship between Lu Su and Zhuge Liang. In fact, as long as any two people pay attention to each other, it is not difficult to find that they have some kind of "family" or "friend" relationship. Of course, the concept of marriage can easily be misunderstood as a bad behavior. In the process of application, we should pay more attention to the skills. If it is self-defeating, it will be meaningless.

3. Admiration style

We should have the minimum etiquette for those we meet for the first time, show due respect and admiration, and appear to be warm and courteous.

For example:

"I have read your masterpiece many times and benefited a lot. I never thought that I could see the author here today!"

"Today is Teacher's Day. It's a great honor for me to meet such a famous teacher during this glorious festival. "Guilin's landscape is the best in the world. I'm very happy to see you here - the respected landscape painter." Apply this method in practice! During the process, you must pay attention, grasp the sense of proportion, and do it just right. Random flattery will only make the other party feel disgusted. Please note that it varies with time and place.