A monologue letter to my brother

? I am a little entangled in writing this letter to you, or I am very entangled.

There are several reasons:

1 means that by your 14 birthday, your brother may have stopped talking to you several times and paid little attention to your growth. The objective reason is naturally to want to work. You are still young, still at the age of studying. My brother's ability to work can only support his family, support his family and worry about it. The subjective reason is what your sister-in-law often says: I still don't know how to comfort and care for others.

When writing a letter, I made up my mind not to ask you about your study. I just want to care whether you are full, warm and happy as a big brother. Ethically speaking, your study and life should be undertaken by your parents, but your parents are old and the society changes too fast, and they can't guide you how to meet the modern study and life. This is not only the source of your inner confusion now, but also your parents, including me and my brother, and three close relatives owe you something. Naturally, parents can't express such deep guilt to you. They only know how to work hard and plan your future: save money to study, get married and buy a house, and are eager to have your children like me. I hope you study hard.

3, from my brother's personal point of view, it is a bit selfish. Maybe when you grow up and become a parent, you will understand this. That's still hurrying to scold you, say you, and even want to hit you. Now I scold you, say you, and hit you, all for your own good. I hope that when you grow up, don't complain about us because no one forced you to study when you were a child. The complaint is that your family didn't tell you the importance of reading. In fact, in other words, when you grow up, your brother and parents make excuses to avoid complaining: at the beginning, you were forced to study, but now you don't blame us for a bad life!

Generally speaking, the above three items are also the main meanings I want to express and tell you. You may not understand or appreciate them now, but my brother knows it well. When you have a little experience, time will not wait for you, and society will not wait for you. This letter can be preserved for a long time in modern society. When you are 24, you can read it again if you want, and then when you are 34, you can read it again when you are my age. At that time, no matter how good or bad you are, you will naturally understand my parents and my fists.

Let's talk about the game that fascinates you first!

My brother is as old as you and always loves games. It's just that I was a good student at that time and my grades were not bad. I just love to play in summer vacation (the objective reason is that social networking is not as developed and convenient as it is now, and the environment you live in is not as good), and my parents have been working in Beijing, so I know less. This can prove that people who play games can get confirmation from my uncle's grandson Nie XX. But I am still an example in the mouth of my relatives and friends, and naturally I didn't attract the attention of my parents.

In high school, it was really because of the serious decline in learning. At that time, junior high school games were bullies, cards, Contra, tank battle and Super Mary, all played on black and white TV. My high school is in XX Middle School, Class 22, Grade 2006. The computer game I first came into contact with was called Red Alert, a stand-alone game. As for cs, it is similar to the mobile phone you are playing now. I played it several times and gave up because of dizziness. When I was a sophomore, I played Legend. I had to recharge my card at that time. I saved 10 yuan and 15 yuan's living expenses every week, and I also saved some money to go to Internet cafes to charge the internet fees. At that time, you were not born yet, and my parents were the only one, so the living expenses were relatively comfortable; Playing warcraft 3 in Senior Three: Frozen Throne. China's e-sports, but also from these two years began to cow force. Many children, like you, want to play games and win a championship or something. But the fact is that there are only a few celebrities who make money. Just like your idol TF-BOYS, only three people succeeded in China with a population of 654.38+0.3 billion. These games are still in the computers of Internet cafes, and old men of my age can still play them.

What effect does the game have on your study?

The first is time. 24 hours a day, no one can have one more second. If you play games for two hours, you lose two hours of study time. A year is 730 hours, that is, 30 days. You have a whole month less study time than others. This has nothing to do with memory and stupidity. Let's change our thinking, for example, table tennis, you like to play. A person who plays table tennis every day plays a person who plays table tennis occasionally. You will definitely say that people who can't play are terrible.

The second is energy. I will talk about how games affect people's energy later. I played games when I was in high school. In class, all I can think about is how to play. Where to upgrade monsters? To that intersection? What monster will explode and what kind of equipment? What's the equipment level? Take the legend as an example. Eight Wastes, Sabre (15), Agkistrodon (23), Silver Frost (2 1 8), Shura (18), Purgatory (25), Judgment (30), Dragon Slayer. Why? At that time, students discussed draft papers with each other in class or in the dormitory after class, and how much time they spent remembering these things, no matter how stupid they were, they could remember them and put all their energy on them. So you say you can't remember history or Chinese. You have to ask how much energy you have spent. You skillfully remember all kinds of levels and names in a game, but why can't you remember the knowledge in the book? Still didn't spend energy.

Finally, the psychological effect. This is the key to the game's influence and addiction! If you can't stop, you will become addicted over time. How can games be addictive? At the age of 29 or 30, I read several books carefully. As the book says, people are easily attracted by games.

Games are things that can be fed back in time in all directions of hearing, vision and touch. The technical term is called feedback mechanism. For example, when you play with Peggy's niece, you repeatedly head her, and she will repeatedly laugh happily (head swinging at her, mouth purring, stomach, these three are hearing, sight and touch). Peggy's basic feedback mechanism in the game is a little more complicated, but the basic structure is like this. This is also human nature and instinct.

What can we do to resist this instinctive temptation? It's hard. I know it's hard. But there is still a way, and the way is in the two points mentioned above: time and energy.

Spend time and energy reading, stop reading, jump rope and run, and change time and energy. This process needs self-control. We are a little disgusted with you. Because you're grown up now. When you were in primary school, your sister-in-law and I both ignored this. Unlike these two years, your sister-in-law is at home every day, and when she sees you playing, it's too much, so she says you hastily. I also checked a recent industry survey on e-sports, which requires academic qualifications; In addition, some universities have also set up game majors. You can think that playing games is not that simple and has a way out.

Talk to you about family conditions again!

The overall condition of our family is very poor, just like your academic performance. There are 80 students in the class, counting from 50 to 20. Income, or simply money, is more than 80% of our family, regardless of relatives and friends, I know. Without money, what impact will it bring? Intuitively, what you want doesn't satisfy you. Think about your classmates carefully. Do some students have more new clothes and shoes? Of course, there are differences, but our goals can't be compared with differences.

Having no money at home or parents has several intuitive effects on me.

First, as long as I can remember, I have borrowed most of the money for studying; Borrowing money is my deep shame, deep shame, painful memories, painful memories. I remember 1999 when I was in the fifth grade of primary school, my parents quarreled on the basement dam at home because of my tuition: angry father and crying mother. Dad must have resented his incompetence and turned into anger, throwing corn all over the floor; Mother was helpless and could only hide her face and cry. That scene, whenever I think of it, I feel deeply ashamed and humiliated (later I got married, only to know how helpless the word helpless is. )!

Picked two bags of sun-dried corn kernels and sold them on the street, and changed them into tuition fees (at that time, a semester seemed to be more than 80 yuan). As a result, no one bought it and came back to quarrel; Behind him is Tan De X (the one sitting at the bottom of the yard below), who paid for it. I still remember what he said: Oh, stop arguing, there is still a lot of money to learn, and these buns are all sold to me! Finally, I don't know if I sold it to him. I didn't feel much about it at that time. Starting from junior high school, I am a little older and gradually realize the differences between people in society, which is a bitter shame!

There are many such sad memories in my mind. So I hate borrowing money, and I have always regarded borrowing money as a shame. I would rather not eat than borrow money from others. These things are related to human dignity, and you will never have a chance to experience them again. Only when you come from a society independently can you have the opportunity to experience that you have no money and therefore no dignity. What is dignity? Shame? Pain? You can't even feel it now.

Second, he is withdrawn. Although I was shy in primary school, I was the king among children in my hometown, and many children around me listened to me and played with me. After junior high school, I study and live alone, and only go home for one night on weekends. You can't feel this loneliness and loneliness. You have been with your parents for many years, and you have never felt this loneliness. Instead, I will always care about my parents and feel very annoyed.

Third, no one tells you what to do when you grow up. Always talking about reading, reading? What are you reading? Without goals and plans, you will have doubts about learning over time.

Fourth, poor family conditions and no resources and social resources; Not to mention this, you can't understand it now. It took your brother years to get married and have children before he understood this truth. It depends on your own future experience. You are lucky.

With these influences, we can deeply understand the importance of reading and learning, and so can your sister-in-law.

Therefore, family conditions will not give you much help in the future. You need independence and ability more.

Finally, talk about learning and not learning!

Good academic performance, the benefits are self-evident; But if you don't get good grades, you don't have to panic, or deny your value excessively and doubt your ability excessively. Don't give up on yourself because of poor academic performance, and you are addicted to games day by day. There are many occupations in this society, such as farming. Being a farmer like my parents will not starve to death. As long as you are willing, you can live a lifetime by picking up garbage. It depends on whether you can put yourself down. It is also possible to check the garbage life with the names of XX's son, XX's son and XX's brother. It is still a question of dignity, putting down the dignity of being a human being and not taking on social and humanistic roles.

The above is the extreme situation of being unlearned. There is a fundamental aspect of not studying. What does this mean? Is to basically reach the level of most people in society. What is the basic level of modern social education? High school is the foundation, and college is almost the foundation. What is the most obvious function of reading? It is a job that requires academic qualifications, which is the basic condition. A career that does not require academic qualifications can prove your learning ability. For example, if you ask a chef: a chef who went to college and a chef who graduated from junior high school go to the chef school at the same time, the teacher will think that the chef who went to college is better to teach; When going out to look for a job together, hotels and restaurants will think that the chefs who have studied in the university have learned more and have stronger expression and communication skills, and naturally they will be more inclined to choose the chefs who have studied in this university.

Therefore, I have repeatedly stressed that even if you don't want to study, you must meet the basic requirements and never waste your youth. Learning this thing is a test and assessment of one's ability. It's not simple manual labor, as long as you have the strength.

Having said a lot above, let me finally talk about my brother's purpose:

1, ? What is the minimum admission score for the senior high school entrance examination in previous years? According to their own strength, the lowest score of each subject, set a goal;

2, ? When playing games, you can set a time limit for yourself and always remind yourself to exercise restraint and not to exceed this time point and time limit; The same is true when you have the ability to earn money by yourself. If you want to set yourself a limit for playing games, how long to play and how much to charge, then you have to grasp it yourself;

As for your ambition to play a game, as I said, you can concentrate on playing for a month after this summer vacation, and you can try to see if you have that talent. Any game is in the top few to have a chance. This is the same as reading, the teacher will always remember the name of the first name;

4, ? Establish correct values, don't complain about society, don't complain about parents and don't complain about anyone. This kind of values is especially important when you are in pain, which can prevent you from entering an infinite cycle of self-indulgence; You should firmly believe that there is a solution to everything, and there is a way to survive in any environment. It is just a matter of whether you are willing or not. Don't complain about society, which will be discussed in detail later; If you don't complain about your parents, you won't blame them when you encounter any difficulties and disappointments. Don't blindly envy other people's families, which will be more and more understood and realized when you get older.

5, ? Never do anything that violates the law and discipline, and never do anything that borrows money by gambling. If you don't do these things, even if you don't study and work hard, your life will be less troublesome and painful.

? Written on February 29th, 2020, Shenzhen XXX Electric Appliance Co., Ltd..