The hot spot of appearance anxiety has passed, but I still want to talk about my opinion.

I have been talking about my appearance for more than 20 years. Although I don't need the word ugly, I must not step into the ranks of beautiful women. I don't know myself, nor do I know the so-called ugliness.

The magical turning point appeared. One day, when I saw my friend capture the side view and bottom view of my face, my heart collapsed: although the audience's eyes are different, they have the same impression of beauty. Since then, every time I look in the mirror, I pay special attention to the imperfection of my five senses. The foothills are low, the double eyelids are asymmetrical, the eyebrows are different, the pores are thick and angular ... It is said that in ancient times, "the heaven is perfect and the earth pavilion is Fiona Fang" represents a good face. Now, the skin is firm and full, and the facial lines are smooth, which is the only standard for being a beautiful woman.

Then, as you can probably imagine, all the antonyms of this standard are vividly reflected in my face.

This face has been bothering me for a long time, so my topic today is appearance.

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If you want to express that a woman is beautiful, how to describe it.

"Face such as coagulate fat, eyes such as paint. Eyebrows are like distant mountains that don't draw, and sand lips don't draw. " This kind of imagination is full of women's faces, but it is obviously not direct and clear enough. Later, the word "Yan value" was popular on the Internet to evaluate a person's appearance. There are expressions such as "high face value", "off the charts face value", "low face value" and "steep face value" to describe how beautiful and ugly a person is.

Thanks to people's tireless pursuit of good things, people with high values are refreshing and happy wherever they go. Such people can give priority to choosing a spouse, giving priority to having job opportunities and getting more kind eyes and smiles. ...

On the other hand, the one with a lower face value, as the lyrics say: "There is no flower fragrance, no tree height, I am a grass that no one knows." They are ugly and hard to be noticed by the public. Few people praise them except their own family. You are really a beautiful and lovely child. They met with waterloo in the blind date market, got no priority in the workplace, and even some children were unwilling to be held by them. They always get the answer:

"We will let you know if there is any follow-up progress."

"Although you have a strong taste, you are very nice."

"In fact, you are a very good person." I (you) don't (face) like (value) like (too) you (low).

You said the examples I gave were extreme. Either beautiful or ugly. Ordinary people will not receive special treatment because of their face value. In fact, people with average face value are the most embarrassed and more anxious.

First of all, they are not ugly, so they will not be laughed at, but they will not be praised by others for their looks. Imagine that a person with average working ability will not be scolded by the leader often, but will also be rarely praised and will not be promoted. But people are self-motivated and yearn for a better life, so they want to do their work better, to be promoted and praised, just as they want to be more beautiful and handsome and to be recognized by others.

So in my opinion, people with average face value may be more anxious.

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A few years ago, the slogan "Yan value is justice" spread all over the media network platform. Behind the banter and ridicule, it reveals the fact that face value is really important. [ 1]

In the era of "looking at the face", people with low face value began to be anxious under the pressure of the big environment. Appearance anxiety is that many people are not confident about their appearance in the current environment of enlarging their face value.

Even if some people's original appearance is acceptable, they will choose to have their ideal face value through makeup or even plastic surgery because of anxiety, so that they can face others calmly and confidently.

In February this year, the media of Zhongqing School conducted a questionnaire survey on the topic of appearance anxiety among 2063 college students nationwide. The results show that 59.03% of college students have some appearance anxiety. [2]

Investigate its inducement has three [2]:

1. Mass media constantly transmits social aesthetics and constantly promotes standardized aesthetics.

There is no specific standard for people to interpret beauty, and everyone's aesthetic standard contains unique aesthetic taste. However, based on herd mentality, under the influence of public opinion and network environment, people acquiesce in the existence of specific views [3]. For example, the popular view defines beauty as "slapping the face", "A4 waist" and "clavicle killing", and also puts forward languages such as "backhand touching navel" and "clavicle putting coins" to prove slim figure. What's the problem here? It is the public's praise of meeting this standard and the abuse of not meeting this standard that form a very sharp contrast. Contrast hurts, and people who pay too much attention to appearance will be kidnapped by this single aesthetic. Many women set themselves up according to this standard, find their own "defects" and "regrets", and feel anxious.

2. Suffered from "Yan value economy".

Nowadays, with the development of social media and diversified information dissemination, personal judgment on appearance is easily influenced by the market environment. Handsome and beautiful boys and girls in the live broadcast room attract more attention, praise and reward, and employers prefer "high-value" candidates when recruiting. These have inadvertently boosted the development of "Yan value economy" and destroyed the self-confidence of many ordinary people.

3. Publicity and hype of the medical beauty industry.

The medical beauty industry was originally designed to meet the needs of some people to correct their physical defects, but with the expansion of its scope of application, it has continuously conveyed the concept that "the image can be shaped through self-efforts", hyped the effect of plastic surgery, and exaggerated the influence of appearance on money, employment and socialization. This kind of marketing implies, promotes and amplifies people's appearance anxiety.

If you are anxious about your appearance, what is the first measure?

Make up. Not satisfied with makeup?

Fitness, plastic surgery

Fitness shaping is a long process, not as fast as plastic surgery.

Many young ladies need plastic surgery to look good even if they borrow money. Of course, in fact, my point is that if the final result of plastic surgery makes me satisfied, it's actually nothing. After all, work and money can be obtained through their own efforts and means. Why not beauty? But I think we should pay more attention to the vanity hidden behind the anxiety of appearance.

Why are you anxious? Just because you like your looks. If you are not as good-looking as others, you want to be better than others. Work ability is almost the same, but you are not as good-looking as that beautiful woman, angry and sad; Seeing that all the beautiful women have Gao Fushuai, I am still single and hate myself for being too mediocre.

Contrast hurts, and the stronger the contrast, the greater the harm. If people who are anxious about their appearance, including me, want to tell them and me, if it hurts so much, then we don't want it. Filter out, don't care, focus on others, and make personality charm more important than appearance. If you can't judge a book by its cover, there is always something else.

I watched a program I want to invest today. An entrepreneur started a company and wanted to get an investment from a dreamer. Some people say this photo is unconvincing. Indeed, the boss of that company is not a handsome guy in the traditional sense, and his clothes are very simple. But those dreamers are very satisfied with him and give him high marks, saying that he has entrepreneurial spirit and strong personality charm. I never understood the way of company management and investment, but when he talked about his whole project and company team, I was so confident that he could be bigger and stronger. Although he is not tall, every moment he speaks is a bright moment.

The era of looking at faces has never passed, and beauty is still a big advantage. However, if we don't fully have this advantage, the anxiety about appearance will not be alleviated by beauty, even if there is, it will be temporary. Real inner self-confidence, rich knowledge and elegant speech will give us the strength to break through the barriers and gain shining bright spots again and again.

Reference article:

1.？ Huanjing, Yan value is right or wrong. Romantic Generation, 202 1(03): Page 12.

2.？ Zheng Guiling, solving "appearance anxiety". Taiyuan daily. Page 007

3.？ Dai Chen, the cultural differences behind the aesthetic standard of "appearance anxiety" Studying abroad, 202 1(02): pp. 67-69.

Written at the end, the above views only represent personal views except quoting articles. You can output different opinions, but be calm. Life is hard, be less bad-tempered.