Why do you feel that many young aunts or young aunts don't like going back to their parents' home?

Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "only charming daughters, no charming daughter-in-law". Aunt comes to the door, mother-in-law loves in every way, and mother and daughter are affectionate. If the sensible aunt is fine, the family will live in harmony and love each other. If my aunt's mother-in-law is extremely stubborn and selfish, and my aunt is an outsider, who will welcome my aunt back to her family?

I still remember a story: my mother-in-law gnashed her teeth outside and told her neighbors that her daughter-in-law was lazy and didn't know how to spend money frugally, but her son always protected her! Neighbors ask if your daughter is married? Mother-in-law immediately smiled, "my daughter! You can enjoy yourself! You don't have to do anything at your husband's house! This is really a meal. Shopping every day, there are so many new clothes that you can't wear them all in one day, and some don't need them yet! " Neighbors seem to intentionally or unintentionally "your daughter-in-law is also the charming daughter of other people's mothers;" "Your daughter is also a daughter-in-law!" My mother-in-law was stunned at that time, thoughtful and bowed her head.

Seeing such a mother-in-law, I wish my daughter were around. Daughter-in-law does not cook at home, not passive! Daughter-in-law cooking is not to her taste, she complained; When my daughter comes, she is full of energy. She can do whatever she wants and eat whatever she wants. In short, a daughter-in-law is not as good as a prostitute! Such a mother-in-law is very common in our generation, but now it is estimated that it is rare. Because our generation has suffered from mother-in-law, and most of them are only-child families, mother-in-law loves her daughter-in-law as much as her daughter.

In fact, everyone wants to be open, and when they enter a home, they are a family. Especially mother-in-law and sister-in-law, don't treat daughter-in-law and sister-in-law as outsiders. If your mother tells you that something is wrong with your aunt's aunt, don't interrupt. Tell as much as you can about your mother and make peace. Moreover, it is to straighten your position, get married, have a sister-in-law at home, and people are real housewives!

Many people don't like aunt or aunt going back to their parents' house, but they get along well. Sister-in-law and aunt are looking forward to their return. In the final analysis, the handling of these relationships is nothing more than the relationship between parents and daughters, and the relationship between sisters-in-law.

I am a sister. I took care of the baby at home the year before last. My sister-in-law and I spent more than three months together at my parents' house. My sister-in-law likes being with me and telling me everything because she knows me. I always treat things rather than people, and I don't like to take advantage. My mother is also quite good at handling our relationship. I want to eat chicken. First my mother killed one for my sister-in-law, and then I killed one for me in the back. Every time I eat, my mother always asks me to invite her to dinner. My mother not only cooks for me, but also cooks for my siblings. Cleaning the house is the same with bask in the quilt ... My mother treats her like a daughter.

Then I, because I have been playing at my parents' house for a long time, occasionally buy some fruits, milk and nuts online to eat together. It happened that my brother's child had a birthday, so I took the initiative to order cakes. Every time I chat with my parents, I pull her together and let her participate in us as much as possible. I won't hint at her anything. If my mother is busy, I will ask my sister-in-law to look after the children for me, and then I will cook.

I never go back to my parents' house empty-handed. Although my mother told me not to buy anything, I still insisted on buying snacks for my brother's children. I gave them red envelopes during the Chinese New Year. They gave my children 200 yuan, and I gave them 300 yuan in return. Once I went on a trip with them, and when they refueled, I asked my husband to pay some gas money behind my back ... Although my brother and sister-in-law wouldn't let me pay, I never wanted to take advantage of them ... I think it doesn't matter if I suffer some losses at any time, let alone my brother's sister-in-law. I am just my brother and sister-in-law. I will never hurt them at any time. My mother's family is my backing, and I am kind to my parents, as well as my brother and sister-in-law, because they are often the people who can help us the most at critical moments.

Give another negative example. My parents' neighbors, sister-in-law and aunt never get along. Sister-in-law is older than sister-in-law, a few years older, and doesn't want to be called sister-in-law When brother and sister-in-law fell in love, sister-in-law said in front of sister-in-law that sister-in-law was not good and disagreed with them. After marriage, my sister-in-law came back and my mother-in-law was very kind to her daughter. It is often the mother and daughter who talk and laugh in front of her sister-in-law, and her sister-in-law doesn't know what she said, which makes her particularly uncomfortable. One or two problems have been solved. Later, the silver bracelet that my sister-in-law bought for my nephew was also thrown away, and the two of them didn't talk for several years. It is reasonable that parents should mediate in the middle, but parents don't. They always say that sister-in-law is not good. Later, my sister-in-law and my brother divorced, although my sister-in-law's reason is not the main reason, but it also accounts for a large proportion.

There are many sisters-in-law or sisters-in-law whose personalities are actually not so good. Some people are snobbish, and some older sisters are better married, so it's natural to be happy to come back with big bags and small bags. And some sister-in-law or elder sister-in-law are not very rich, and they are often looked down upon and unpopular, especially those who are divorced and married.

Any daughter who marries abroad has some difficult times, and her family is our support, especially psychologically. Our aunt or sister-in-law wants to go home to talk and get comfort and support from her parents. Sometimes it is a great comfort for us to have a hot meal and sleep in at our parents' house. I also hope that my sister-in-law and sister-in-law can understand our sadness and pain. Everyone has a hard time. After all, our family is our home. We will definitely go back, sometimes we need to stay for a while.

In any case, it is fate to come together. Only by mutual understanding can we live in harmony and friendship. Family harmony is more important than anything else.