On language violence from "losing your temper" and "nailing"

? Once upon a time, there was a little boy with a bad temper. One day, his father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he would nail a nail on the fence in the backyard.

? On the first day, the boy nailed 37 nails on the fence. In the next few weeks, the boy slowly controlled his temper, and the number of nails nailed every day gradually decreased. He found it much easier to control his temper than to nail a fence.

finally, one day, he didn't lose his temper once all day. So, his father asked him to pull another nail off the fence if he didn't lose his temper once one day.

? As the days passed, the boy finally pulled out all the nails on the fence. He told his father excitedly. The father took the boy to the fence and said to him, "You have done a great job, my son, but look at these nail holes on the fence. This fence can never be restored to its former state." When you are angry and hurt others, you will leave a nail in others' hearts. Even if you finally take it back, the scar still exists. Verbal harm is the same as physical harm. "

? This is a perfect story in class. Seeing this story again and seeing the students' thoughts in class once again reminds me of a very sad scene of a girl crying and accusing her mother in "The Tale of Teenagers" not long ago.

? The daughter found that no matter what she said, she couldn't persuade her mother, so she walked off the stage in tears. Soon, this conversation boarded a hot search in Weibo, and many netizens said: "This girl saw herself in the past."

? I also began to reflect on whether my usual words may also hurt students. There is an old saying in China that "a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June". Indeed, when we impulsively say something in a bad mood, not only can we not get it back, but we may also leave a lasting scar in each other's hearts.

? The advertisement that impressed me the most in 14.5 at work in the morning was a conversation between a father and son. The child asked intimately, while the father shouted impatiently, and finally the child was silent ...

? Safekids, a global child safety organization, has published such a poster

? A lost child with a 26-point exam paper. His eyes drooped, his face was tense, and he looked very scared. What is engraved on his body is what his parents said to him: "Did the pig eat your brain?" "How dare you go home after this test?"

The child accidentally broke the vase, lowered his head and was at a loss. Before I could admit my mistake, my parents' ugly words, like in the past, swept through: "You are all hands and feet every day. Were you a troublemaker in your last life?" "It's really bad to have you at home!"

? Another child came home with a football. He just played a super interesting football match. Before I could share my joy with my parents, I began to be rejected: "I have never seen such a dirty child." "Did you pick it up from the garbage?"

? The producer of the poster deeply impressed every sentence on the child, just like a scar. This reminds me of a question I once saw in Zhihu: What kind of experience is it to be scolded by my parents and want to commit suicide? Among them, Gao Zan replied that it was distressing and desperate: "When I was so sad that I cried to collapse, my parents looked at me and said," What's wrong? "

? Seeing this, do you still disagree with language violence? Psychologist Wu Zhihong said: "Language violence may become a weapon." Please stop thinking that the warning on the poster is just grandstanding. Everyone may be the victim of language violence, but it may also be the initiator of language violence. Therefore, don't think of yourself as weak. The most important thing we need to do is to be vigilant at all times and not to be an accomplice to language violence.

Do not judge, and you won’t be judged. Do not condemn, and you won’t be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.? * * * encourage!