What is the purpose of making friends? What is the essence of friends?

When friends are mentioned, the feeling of cordial friendship and warm current will surge in my heart, but I can't tell how many deep or shallow meanings the word "friend" contains, and I don't know what kind of emotions are condensed between friends. Friends are always built on relationships, hobbies and interests. Between people's acquaintance, congeniality, mutual understanding, belief, love and getting along, the love, care and comfort that exists all benefit from people's friendship. Today's language may not be very particular, and people's communication generally refers to friends as a habit, but friendship with each other, which has little profound significance. In ancient Chinese, there are still obvious differences between "friend" and "friend", calling fellow teachers "friends" and comrades "friends". "It's a pleasure to have friends coming from afar" in The Analects of Confucius? The "friends" here refer to classmates. Regardless of the meaning of the part of speech, it seems that as long as people can talk, they can call friends. As a result, regardless of age, position, ethnic color, or gender, as long as they can be classified as friends, everyone will feel that the distance is shortening, the heart is close, and the feelings are deepening. Throughout the ages, those sworn brothers who are different in life but willing to die together, Ying Jie who has done everything for his friends, bosom friends who have the same interests and met each other for a long time, and those infatuated men and women who are difficult to tie the knot and hold a grudge for life are called strong and sad! The reason for how many soul-stirring and generous chapters have been interpreted, or the immortal stories that make people cry, is the word "friendship". This friendship is a word called "fate" in Buddhism, so that we can become close friends who make suggestions and bosom friends, schoolmates who seek knowledge and truth, comrades-in-arms who share joys and sorrows and like-minded friends. The establishment and maintenance of the relationship between friends depends on friendship, and those who value friendship are true friends. Otherwise, how can friendship be priceless? Liang Xiaosheng, a famous writer, thinks that there are three most precious friendships in life: first love, a friend in need, and middle school classmates. First love is everyone's first time, and innocent young men and women still don't know how to pretend and cheat. Among thousands of first times in life, it can be said that only first love is the truest and purest, and a sincere spring is flowing; A friend in trouble goes through the test of life and death and hard years, just as after being tempered by a high-temperature fire, he becomes tough and resolute, or melts away, and the true feelings of being lucky to live will be more cherished; Students in middle school are not mature enough to pretend to say something insincere, and there is no lucrative competition and power grab between them. What they cling to is their ideal, struggle and pursuit for the future. These are the roots of building a true friendship. However, the purity of first love will not freeze and terminate the warming feelings. In a stable society and a peaceful environment, who can meet several critical moments of life and death? Maybe it's so dull that nothing has ever met, maybe pain, troubles and twists and turns are always with you. Whether you like it or not, if you are unhappy, people will not stay in the past and stand still. The change of current events can make a fixed friendship close or distant. Moreover, people's concepts and knowledge are developing and changing in different degrees or constantly, and the right of fame and fortune is always squeezed into people's lives from time to time, tempting people to pursue or covet or seize or take advantage of it. Therefore, there has been a concern for one thing and a loss for the other, and a common saying is used to explain: people go to high places. It is not enough to explain this, but it is divided into stages. One stage is friends, and the other stage may be passers-by or enemies. In life, people can't avoid the involvement of interests, and the existence and advantages and disadvantages of interests have become the touchstone for testing friends. I remember a foreign fable about two dogs who vowed to be lifelong friends at ordinary times. Once the owner threw a bone, they were angry and robbed. No wonder people often say that fair-weather friends are unreliable because their emotional foundation is based on the sharing and mutual utilization of interests. Little people have no friends, but they are not sincere, because they value self-interest and desire too much, and don't value friendship. In their eyes, friends are just weights for profit and cards for use. Especially those who trade in officialdom and business, even at the cost of their lives for greed. Whenever interests and friendship conflict, feelings will be unbalanced and tilted, so there will be things such as selling relatives and friends in exchange for official luck, sacrificing friends for personal gain, and deceiving friends for greed and enjoyment. The principles of being a man, the laws and regulations of doing things, and the sense of doing things have all been thrown into the clouds. All these, to name a few, are probably their people and their society. In fact, friends of the opposite sex are the most talked about and the most enthusiastic in life, which can't be said to be magical or mysterious. Good people often enjoy making up stories, and poets and scholars all over the world have done their best. Some love deeply and unswervingly, with a sigh, "I hate not meeting and not getting married"; Some radio lovers never gain anything, and sing a few words, "Drinking without drunkenness is the highest, and lewdness is a hero." There are also anecdotes in history. For example, Confucius has a soft spot for Nanzi, but the friendship between them is never beyond indecent assault. The two sides "talk but don't do it", and they express their love and pour out their hearts. Another example is Churchill's affair with Vivien Leigh, a female star. Although Qiu's heart has never been old, he has always kept a distance from each other. Looking at the moon in the water and flowers in the fog, touching the beauty with his eyes, radiating tenderness with his words, and conveying his feelings with his songs have become beautiful talks in the world. Distance produces beauty, beauty comes from the communication between people and hearts, and the basis of communication is sincerity, which is based on the real conditions of dialogue. It has love and is looking for love. This is a topic of aesthetics, but why don't people pursue, discover, understand and enjoy beauty? Distance is a measure, not all saints or great men can grasp the measure. As long as friends value friendship and cherish friendship, they will leave beautiful memories and permanent positions in each other's minds. We should cherish our friends, be kind to the emotional relationship we have established, talk about the past, the present and the future on an equal footing, listen to each other, learn from each other, encourage each other, support each other and respect each other. Only in this way can we become good friends and good comrades.

2. Friend

Loneliness is the colorless, tasteless and silent sorrow in life. It's not astringent enough, but it's distressing enough. It's like a feather fluttering and falling in the gray and cold sky, and its loneliness is endless. For me, it is time for me to miss my friends when I meet such loneliness. A friend is a high-spirited and uplifting song, a lyrical and tactful poem, a green grassland, a big forest with chirping birds and a cool breeze, and a distant sail, swimming among clouds and floating under the moon ... I miss my friends, often in the quiet and clear night. Curtains are gently swept up by the wind, and friends' speech and behavior, especially those long and deep eyes, are rippling, or affectionate, or lively and happy, pouring in with the tidal moonlight, so they are clearly sitting in front of their long-lost friends, or excitedly telling their feelings when they meet, or eloquently telling stories that happened in the years after their separation, or imagining and looking forward to the future of a better life together. Miss friends, often when snowflakes are fluttering, a person walks comfortably in the world surrounded by white fluttering snowflakes. Pieces of snowflakes are like letters from friends, like greetings from friends, floating in the brow and melting in the palm. In a trance, I saw a black dragon roaming in the snowfield, sometimes prancing in the abyss, and sometimes soaring into the sky. My friends saw this singing and dancing, enjoying this snow and loving it. At that time, I felt that missing friends was actually a kind of beautiful enjoyment, because all loneliness had turned into an unparalleled wonderful realm at this time. I miss my friends, and sometimes I walk quietly alone in the vast wasteland. Occasionally, looking into the gray-blue sky, I saw a group of wild geese singing overhead in the shape of "people" and flying leisurely to the distant sky. At this time, you think, this wild goose must have flown over the vast desert Gobi, crossed the majestic snow-capped mountains and forests, and always flew to the warm and humid hometown with plenty of grass and water. At this time, you will remember and miss your friends, remember the road you once walked with your friends, and walk hand in hand in this wasteland, stepping on the moonlight and stepping on the Gobi. Finally, at the dawn of the sound of wild geese, you walked out of the wasteland, and your friendship will remain in your heart from now on. From now on, as long as you see a group of geese flying leisurely, you will always strengthen your faith and walk out of one lonely and long wasteland Gobi. Miss friends, sometimes miss an environment, an atmosphere, even friends who meet by chance and are fleeting, as long as their hearts are so pure and kind, they are all so congenial and full of care and help, so the environment, weather, colors and even the subtle feelings in their hearts at that time will be engraved in the depths of the memory gallery in different ways. As long as I think about it, I feel that the lonely and dim atrium has a cool breeze and a bright moon, and there are clear flowing mountain springs. Every time I miss my friend, there is always a feeling in my friend's heart. This is not, in the clever and magical phone, there is a distant but very familiar voice; It's not, the clean desktop, under the dim light, is spreading the letters of friends. A few concerned greetings and blessings, a familiar voice and smile, suddenly appear in front of your eyes, or pat you on the shoulder and say with a smile, "Don't be discouraged, the road of life can't be smooth sailing, how boring it is!" Or they sang "The Sound of the Waves Still" when they were in high spirits, admiring the sincere friendship forged by a night-mooring near maple bridge, and they all said with great emotion: "Fortunately, Zhang Ji, a Tang Dynasty man, did not win the bid, otherwise there would be no leisurely and buzzing bell of Hanshan Temple for thousands of years." When you miss your friends and think to the extreme, others will see your lips squirming slightly, a little smile will leak out from the corner of your mouth, the faint gloom in your brow will gradually dissipate, and the melancholy eyes will gradually reveal a kind of relief and a kind of wisdom. Oh, to miss friends is to miss a kind of warmth and care, a kind of equality and mutual assistance, a kind of wisdom and strength. A friend is a spring water from the soul, a friendly flower on an uneven road, a reliance in distress, a gentle and safe place to stay, tea in the autumn afternoon that stirs up a cup of past events, and a good book full of papers. Especially when you are old, tired and tired and want to have a rest, a friend is a pot of rich wine, which can accompany you to look back on the past years with relish and make you realize the grandeur of life with your heart and never regret it. Tonight, the moonlight is like a tide, the wind is light and the stars are soft. I sit at my desk, put out the dim light, and look at the starry night sky through the window lattice, wondering which star is this friend and which star is that friend. They all seem to blink and smile, talking to me and talking about the story of shining stars. The moonlit night is like a song, and friends are like poems. If you miss your friends, you have to sail a boat and roam gently in the long, wide and free Milky Way ... < P > 3. How to make real friends < P > This is a big topic, which depends on your personal situation. Different personalities, hobbies, experiences and occupations determine that different people have different requirements for their circle of friends. I have a wide range of personal hobbies, both being alone and being lively; Sometimes it's old-fashioned, sometimes it's foggy when you joke. No one is perfect. I make friends based on his strengths. As long as he has nothing that is too contrary to the basic social morality, I am willing to associate with him if he has a little strength or something that is similar to myself. Of course, according to the different situation of the other party, the number of contacts is also different. Be friendly and sincere. Communicate sincerely with others with your heart, be good at accepting different opinions from others, and seek common ground while reserving differences on unprincipled issues. I am kind. If I sow the seeds of kindness, I will have a good harvest. Because, whoever plants hatred will suffer for himself! Treat others sincerely, and others will treat you sincerely. Relax your mind and take the initiative to make friends, don't wait for others to associate with you, you should take the initiative

4. What is a friend < P > A friend is a cup of hot tea in our hands when we stand at the window and enjoy the falling snow in winter; A friend is an umbrella in our hands when we walk in the heavy rain in summer; Friends are the spring breeze that blows away the depression of winter in our hearts when spring comes; A friend is the glass of wine that we revel in whispering in autumn during the harvest season. In this world, people can't live without parents, nor can they live without friends. Life without friends is like a cup of coffee without sugar, bitter and hard to swallow, and a little bit of sadness. Because of loneliness, because of unbearable, life will become no fun, no longer a real style. People without friends, isn't living the same as dying? Therefore, we need friends, people who can accompany us through the wind, frost, rain and snow, people who can accompany us to feel crazy about love and hate, and people who can accompany us with a thousand-year-old legend about human love ... < P > 5. Ordinary friends VS real friends < P > An ordinary friend has never seen you cry. A true friend's shoulders once made your tears wet. An ordinary friend doesn't know your parents' last names. A true friend has their phone number in the address book. An ordinary friend will bring a bottle of wine to your party. A true friend will come early to help you prepare and stay late to help you clean. An ordinary friend hates it when you call after he is asleep. A true friend will ask why you are calling now. An ordinary friend wants to talk to you about your troubles. A true friend comes to you to solve your problems. An ordinary friend is curious about your romance. A true friend can threaten you to say it. An ordinary friend is like a guest when he visits. A true friend will open the refrigerator and help himself. An ordinary friend thinks that friendship is over after a quarrel. A true friend knows that when you haven't fought, it's not true friendship. An ordinary friend asks questions first when you ask for help. A true friend will help you silently and then ask. An ordinary friend expects you to be with him forever. A true friend expects him to be with you forever! An ordinary friend will scramble to pay for dinner with you. A true friend will look at his wallet before paying the bill. An ordinary friend will take good things to you. A true friend will treat you with sincerity. When you are rich, everyone will call you brothers. When you are poor, people will leave you when you are in trouble. Only those who sincerely help you are friends. When you try your best but can't help your friends' difficulties, real friends will not complain about you, but in turn comfort you and thank you for your efforts. Real friends will not care about you and ridicule you because friends trust each other. 6. Correctly understand the meaning of the word "friend"

The most important thing for friends is to respect each other and seek common ground while reserving differences. Both sides have the independence of personality. If the two sides are close enough to make the other side feel bound, friendship will be difficult to maintain. 2. No friends