How to get rid of the pain of self-condemnation and criticism, can you talk about it?

Why does everyone else seem to be better than me? Why did I screw things up again? Why does he like someone else like this? When encountering setbacks and difficulties, we often severely condemn and criticize ourselves, and feel as if all the misfortunes are caused by ourselves, thus falling into unavoidable remorse and pain. But frustration is just an ordinary encounter in life, and we should learn to face it squarely. The following contents should be locked when you knock on the blackboard. Remember, what you need to learn is self-sympathy, learn to understand your failure with a gentle attitude, find your lovely and true self, and become your closest lover. So what is self-pity? Self-pity is to realize that no matter what happens in life, we can love and accept ourselves, and when life is smooth, we won't feel that we don't deserve it. When you encounter suffering, you will also be kind and forgiving to yourself. Every part of ourselves, every thought, every feeling and every behavior can be accepted with sympathy. We can reduce our self-criticism bit by bit, discover our loveliness slowly, and practice repeatedly until we acquire the skills of self-sympathy. How to apply self-compassion to life?

first, take care of your health. It is true that finding a balanced lifestyle, healthy eating and proper exercise are inseparable from physical health and mental health.

second, reject the criticism and demand in the relationship. Be aware of your dissatisfaction and needs and get along with others in a more harmonious way.

Third, give kindness to people around you. Those who love return to love, and those who are blessed are blessed. When giving love, it is the happiest time for a person. Have you noticed that when we face the misfortunes and sufferings of others, it is usually easy for us to empathize with them and give them sympathy and care, but when we are in trouble, we often blindly condemn ourselves and forget our kindness and tolerance. So, don't be silly. The only thing that can hurt you in this world is yourself. What you need is to learn to feel sorry for yourself and stay away from self-harm.