Where is the communicative charm of women? Women's physical beauty is a major feature superior to men.

The most remarkable convenience of women's wisdom is their communicative charm. So, where is the communicative charm of women and how to show it?

1. Dress appropriately

Women's dressing art is not a simple painting, nor an advanced perfume, but a harmonious conception of their own image, a kind of self-confidence and elegance, and an externalization of personality. Dressing appropriately and naturally is not only a firm grasp of yourself, but also a control of social occasions.

Women's physical beauty is a major feature superior to men. Therefore, in appropriate occasions, try to reduce the level of clothing to show a beautiful figure. Of course, if you are in poor shape, you should hide it cleverly. Paying attention to some places neglected by ordinary people can show your special beauty.

To attend the dance, among many colorful costumes, I pursue a quiet and elegant dress. My dress is simple and elegant, but it has a certain charm. It can be said that "the red dress is wrapped in plain clothes, which is particularly evil."

Women's hairstyles and headdresses are a "holy land" that can make people shine. Natural, stretched and in line with the natural face, body shape, age, occupation hair beauty, can better set off the spirit and charm of women.

Relatively speaking, women's appearance is more important than men's, and they are more attractive to the same sex and the opposite sex. The role of women's elegant demeanor in communication can not be ignored.

Give people a natural smile

Laughter is a flower on the lips. A woman's smile is the best letter of introduction, Zulu's kindness is good enough. It conveys enthusiasm and brings warmth. A natural smile can shorten the distance between us and is a conductor of communication. Smile at strangers, indicating that you are easy-going; Smile at those who offend you to show tolerance; Smile at the person who loves you and show your heart; Smile at the people around you, indicating your adaptation to the living environment.

In communication activities, when there is an embarrassing scene of dilemma, you can let a smile dilute this tense atmosphere, gain room for manoeuvre and master the initiative of communication; When a situation forces you to play, a kind smile is a kind of "strength" and the best buffer to relax your nerves, think positively and conquer your opponent.

3. Show the charm of self-introduction

Women's self-introduction is the "prelude" to fully show their communicative charm. Beautiful appearance and proper self-introduction are successful self-promotion and will make people want to associate with you. When introducing yourself, you should first have full self-confidence and self-esteem. Secondly, impress people with correct posture, voice and expression.

When introducing your name, make it clear and don't speak too fast. At the same time, smiling faces are more likely to give people a good first impression. Even if there is a little mistake in the introduction, smiling expression will help you get rid of embarrassment.

4. Good posture

Having an elegant sitting posture can show women's dignified, steady and generous characteristics, which is another embodiment of female beauty. When sitting, the shoulders are relaxed and smooth, and the legs are smooth. Don't spread your legs apart or cross your legs. Keep your back straight and don't rock back and forth. This will give people a quiet and implicit aesthetic feeling.

A woman who is good at listening to others gives the impression that she respects others and is polite. When listening to others, I sometimes nod my head slightly, look at each other sincerely, and interrupt appropriately, such as inserting some "hmm", "really good" and "really?" "Great!" Wait for words and sighs, let the other person talk happily and pay attention to you at the same time.

Show a gentle personality

In daily life, many people like the enthusiasm and thoughtfulness of "Big Sister". The reason why they are called big sister is obviously because they often pour their feelings into communication, and kindness and gentleness have become the core of the image of "big sister".

Gentleness and kindness are the characteristics of women. Gentle and kind women often exude strong emotional fragrance and release attractive and powerful magnetism.

"Long live friendship" is a lofty goal of people, but it is not easy to achieve it. Many people are not good at dealing with their friends, so their friendship dies, or even decades of friendship is destroyed. Years or even decades of efforts have been in vain, and it is painful to learn lessons! Therefore, knowing some tips to keep friendship can make life less regrettable.

1. Don't rely too much on your friends.

When you are in trouble, talk to your friends and listen to their suggestions; When encountering problems, discuss with friends and find ways to solve them; Financial difficulties, please have the ability to help friends; Wait, these are all fine. But we can't forget that friends also have their own things to do, various problems to solve, financial difficulties and need help. If you only consider the problem from your own point of view and rely too much on your friends, there will be many such things, and your friends will gradually leave you, because your friendship has become a burden for him, which he can't bear and can only escape every day.

2. You can't pass the responsibility risk on to your friends.

Some people often have an incorrect idea that "friends should help", so this kind of thing often happens. Ask a friend to be a reference. Even the third party's affairs are brought to my friends for help, and I get human feelings from them. In fact, no matter how close friends are, we should carefully consider not putting the blame on friends, because it is difficult for friends to refuse because of their feelings. If they refuse, their friendship will be over. Therefore, when you ask a friend for help, you must think clearly and think from the friend's point of view to see if you can let your friend take some risks.

3. The closer the relationship, the more the border is needed.

Some close friends are particularly "warm", regardless of you and me, even the meal coupons in the canteen are used together, but this situation seems to be very short-lived. Soon we can go our separate ways. Why? Because you don't pay attention to boundaries. In fact, the closer the relationship is, the more attention should be paid to the boundaries of principles. There are three principles that are absolutely insurmountable:

One is to speak ill of your friend in front of others, which is tantamount to betraying your friend.

Second, having an affair with a friend's lover (or husband and wife). As the saying goes, "A friend's wife can't be bullied."

The third is to borrow money from friends and not pay it back, which is equivalent to blackmailing friends.

4. Keep absolute secrecy for friends

It is said that the first rule for Americans to make friends is "keeping secrets for each other", whether it is the first rule or not, but it is indeed an important rule to maintain friendship, especially for close friends. Because everything you say, even your privacy, the shady things you have done, may let you know. If you go public, you will kill your friend. When a friend tells you his "privacy", even if he doesn't ask you to keep it secret, it shows his great trust in you. In this regard, you only have the obligation to share his worries, but you have no right to make this "privacy" public. If you go public, you will lose the trust of your friends, and people will never dare to tell you their "privacy" again. If it is an unintentional "leak", it is understandable. Explain to your friends carefully and gain their understanding. If you deliberately make public and act as a "small broadcast", then you don't even have the minimum morality to be a man.

5. Think of your friends in small things.

Friendship can last forever, not only putting yourself in the friend's shoes to solve the worries on some important things, but also considerate some small things, making the other person feel that "only friends can do this." For example, friends from other places make long-distance calls to you, because they haven't contacted for a while, and there must be a lot to say. If the other party hangs up at home, you should try to pick the most important one and don't let the call last too long; Or your financial situation is better than the other party's, then let the other party call you. For another example, if you buy a plane ticket or a train ticket with the help of a friend, you'd better send the money first, even if you can't send it in advance, you must take it with you when you pick it up. Only when you handle a lot of trivial things, the other party will think that your friend is considerate of others anyway and attaches more importance to your friendship.

6. Make up the cracks in time

There are some small cracks between friends, which can be repaired in time to prevent delay. On the contrary, if left unchecked, small cracks will become big cracks, and eventually friendship will break down.

(1) Proactive and sincere. No matter what the reason, who should be responsible, since the friendship has cracked. Never think that taking the initiative to make up is weakness. On the contrary, it can only prove your sincerity to friendship. Just waiting for the other party to apologize to you, but you don't show any initiative to repair it, which only shows that you lack sincerity in friendship. At the same time, superficial initiative, but lack of practical action, reluctant to respond, or just to show others the hypocrisy of words and deeds, will not work, but will further damage the feelings between friends

(2) Timely and moderate. Sometimes it will cause cracks in friendship, and the other party needs a time of calm thinking, repeated aftertaste and calm. In this case, you can find another good friend to know each other's mood and recent situation, and of course he will also do some coordination work. But it can't be delayed. After a long time, the crack may be irreparable.

(3) be patient and meticulous. You think that by doing something you can't do once or twice, you have done what you should do. If the other party has not made a good response, or has not reached your ideal procedure, you think that you have had enough, and even your self-esteem has been hurt, so you become angry from embarrassment and get angry again, which will make all the wishes of "reconciliation" go up in smoke.

Establish a good first impression

1. To please others, you must like others first.

It is easy for us to judge people who meet for the first time from the point of view of our ancestors, such as "he may be difficult to communicate" or "he may be a kind person". Usually we choose to be close to someone or alienate someone because of intuitive judgment; Of course, we can't express it in words, but often our actions will reveal our secrets. For example, if you meet an ugly person, you feel disgusted, so you avoid talking to him. Although you say nothing, your attitude can make the other person guess a thing or two.

When dealing with people, you must first trust and like others, otherwise others will not like you. Everyone has shortcomings and advantages. If you can pay more attention to other people's advantages and less fault-finding, you will find that the other person is not as bad as you think, and you will naturally start to like each other and become kind. With such a pile, others will naturally like you and think you are the object to talk to.

2. Take the initiative to say hello to others b//

When we meet a person for the first time, we will be on guard. The best way to eliminate this tension is to open your heart and say hello to others, otherwise the two sides will remain silent and remain strangers forever.

There is a lady who doesn't like to stay quietly in the corner of the party. So at every party, she is always busy shuttling through the crowd, catching strangers' gossip, bringing them food, places to play and so on. Because she greets others actively, others feel close to her, and even shy people will naturally talk to her.

Everyone has a self-centered personality. When I meet someone for the first time, I always don't want to speak first, but expect the other person to speak. If you can understand this simple psychology and take the initiative to say hello to others, you will definitely leave a deep impression on others.

Greeting others with a happy mood can win a good impression.

Once I went to a department store to buy a gift for my friend, but I stood in front of the counter for a long time without seeing the service staff. When I finally found the waiter who was chatting with my colleague, I saw her look impatient and asked, "What style do you want?" Although I like that wallet very much, I returned empty-handed because she left a very bad impression on me.

The same is true for greeting guests, but a cordial and pleasant greeting will make customers happy and make you crowded; On the other hand, a bad attitude is nowhere to be found. The same is true in our daily life. If you say hello with a long face and a heavy tone, it will definitely make the other person feel that you say hello out of helplessness and have a sense of rejection. On the contrary, a cheerful tone and expression will make the other person have a good impression on you and be willing to talk to you. Therefore, keeping an open mind and speaking kindly and happily will leave a good first impression on others.

4. Starting with greetings can shorten the distance.

When two people meet for the first time, because they don't know each other, it's easy to fall into an embarrassing scene with nothing to say. At this time, we might as well say some polite words first, such as "it seems a little hot!" " Or "What have you been up to recently?" Can help you shorten the distance with others.

Although most of these pleasantries are meaningless, it is because of these words that people who meet for the first time avoid awkward silence. Here are some methods for your reference:

(1) Let's talk about the weather first.

(2) Ask each other about their work and physical condition. For example, "Are you busy at work these days? ... the graduation exam is coming! ...' You look good. "and so on.

(3) Start with each other's actions. For example, when you see the other person off work, you can say "off work!" Wait a minute.

The use of greetings is like a key to opening a chatterbox, which can help you to talk with others smoothly. But there are a few things you must pay attention to:

(1) Choose the appropriate pleasantries. There is a joke: once upon a time, there were two good friends, A and B. Once B offended A, and they fell into a cold war. Two days later, B felt sorry for A and decided to apologize to A. On this day, B met A on the road and quickly smiled and said, "Are you full?" Hearing this, A pointed angrily at B and said, "You know I just came out of the toilet and asked if I was full. Didn't you make fun of me on purpose? " Since then, Party A and Party B have never contacted each other again.

Of course, this is just a joke, but it is likely to happen in our daily life. Therefore, when using greetings, we should match the time and occasion to avoid self-defeating.

(2) Add your own opinions to the pleasantries. A greeting is a beginning, which opens a topic for you, but to keep the conversation going, you must add your own point of view to the greeting.

For example, if the weather is very refreshing today, you can say to others, "It's really comfortable today." If the other person answers, "Yes!" At this time, you must pick up some of your own opinions, such as: "I wonder if you like walking outside the primary school?" Ask the other person's opinion and let the conversation continue.

5. Don't ignore the silent person.

Because some people are naturally shy and introverted, they always keep their mouths shut at parties or public places and don't talk to others. At this time, we should take the initiative to talk to them. Maybe you will feel tired talking to them. They will answer whatever you say. At this time, you might as well take the other person as the center of the conversation, for example, "I heard that you learned the piano from an early age, and I believe you must play it very well." "Are there any interesting things that impressed you during your piano learning?" These topics can make the other person feel kind and easier to talk. When the other person is completely relaxed, the conversation can naturally proceed happily.

6. When you meet someone for the first time, you should know each other's information in advance.

Anyone who has met Roosevelt admires his extensive knowledge. A person who visited him once said, "Whether he was a cowboy, a brave cavalry member, a politician or a diplomat, Roosevelt could find a topic suitable for the other person's identity and make the other person's conversation very pleasant." Why did Roosevelt talk happily with everyone he met for the first time? There is a simple reason. Whenever someone visits, Roosevelt will consult the information about all parties the night before, so no matter whether the visitor is a powerful person or a pawn, both sides can have the same topic in the talks.

Before taking part in important activities, if there are people you have never met before, you must first ask for some information about each other, or ask others about each other to get a preliminary understanding. When asking questions, the other person will have a good impression on you because you know something about his professional knowledge, and will be happy to talk to you. Of course, you may not use all the prepared materials, but at least it shows your respect for each other.

Therefore, before talking to the first person, it is one of the skills of speaking art to make preparations in advance and use various methods flexibly to win the favor of others.

7. Even if the other person's words are boring, listen patiently.

When you meet someone for the first time, it's likely that the scene will become cold because you don't understand and have no common topic. But if the other person is interested in talking about something he finds interesting, even if you are bored, listen with a smile.

Maybe you don't know much about tennis, and the other person happens to have some experience in it, so he starts to introduce you and tell you some interesting things on the court. At the moment, you may find the conversation boring because you are not interested in it. But at this time, you can't show impatience. You should listen to him patiently, so as not to make the other person feel depressed and refuse to talk to you again.

If you really can't accept the other person's topic, you might as well wait for the other person to say something and change the topic skillfully to avoid embarrassing the other person.

Everyone is interested in different topics. When you think what others say is boring, it is likely that you will feel the same way about others. Therefore, in order to leave a good impression on others, you should use your speaking skills flexibly to make them feel that you are a good conversation partner.

8. The natural and lively self-introduction leaves a deep impression on people.

Meeting people you don't know usually starts with introducing yourself or others, so an impressive self-introduction is necessary. When people introduce themselves, they often end up with a vague name or a business card. In fact, this is an excellent opportunity to make a good impression. The stronger your ability to introduce yourself, the more people will be interested in your conversation, so you should be good at grasping the opportunity of introducing yourself. When introducing yourself, the following two points can be used for your reference. (1) Introduce the name clearly. The name represents the uniqueness of a person in the meeting place, so when introducing the name, you should correctly inform the other person of the pronunciation and writing.

(2) Briefly introduce your background, hobbies and interests. If you just introduce your name, the information transmitted to the other party will be too little, so that the other party can't find a topic to talk to you, then you can simply add some personal information after introducing your name, so that the listener can know you better and get more information to talk to you. For example, "I like doing outdoor sports." "Really? I like it too. What's your favorite sport? " "Jogging with the ball" was like this, and the two began to talk happily.

When introducing yourself, you might as well talk more about yourself to reduce the strangeness between the two sides.

9. Elegant conversation makes people feel happy.

Elegant speech, like neat appearance, can make people feel very happy. If you can get used to using elegant language, even if you occasionally make a joke and say some wisecracks, the other person can still feel your inner self-restraint and temperament and is willing to talk to you.

On the contrary, if you are sloppy and foul-mouthed, it will make the other person feel hard to talk to you, even a waste of time. Therefore, you should practice your conversation skills and elegant manners on weekdays to leave a good impression on each other.

10. When the other person speaks, bend over to show concern.

With the progress of science and technology and the busy life, answering machines are becoming more and more common. However, many people often hang up the phone as soon as they hear the voice of the answering machine, even if they leave a message in an emergency, they will feel bored because they hate talking to the machine, because the machine can't meet people's demand for a response when they talk.

When we are talking to others, we should think about the above examples, and don't let the other person have the feeling of talking to the machine, because the words are boring. To avoid this kind of scene, you don't need too many clever speaking skills, just pay a little attention to your behavior and make the other person feel intimate. For example, "look directly at each other with your eyes and gently nod or smile at an appropriate time to express your approval;" Or lean forward at the beginning of the conversation to show that you care very much about what the other person is saying. With a little attention, these subtle movements can keep the other person chatting with you with great interest.

One thing must be paid attention to, when you look directly at each other or bend over to show concern, it is appropriate, otherwise it will make the other person feel pressure and form a conversation obstacle.

1 1. Find a pleasant topic.

Finding a pleasant topic is also one of the conversation skills to quickly establish a good relationship with each other when meeting for the first time. "No one likes unhappy people, no one wants to hear about your dark fate, and no one hates hearing bad news!" \/It is often said that "the world will be shattered" or "I have experienced a lot of unforgettable pain". Such a pessimistic person can't get good popularity. If you have some troubles or want others to comfort you, you'd better tell these words to the priest, psychologist or your trusted and close friend Xin, and don't start pouring bitterness into your heart as soon as you see everyone. This will not only arouse each other's * * *, but will only increase others' antipathy.

When talking with people you don't know very well, you'd better choose a more relaxed and pleasant topic, so that you can talk naturally and smoothly. After all, heavy topics make everyone feel gloomy, and controversial topics are easy to cause contradictions and unhappiness. Social occasions should be pleasant places for people to relax physically and mentally, and it is wisest to choose relaxed topics that can set off the atmosphere. Since the other party is not a familiar friend, there is no need for heart-to-heart communication. Comfort is the most important thing.