Excellent parenting experience [10]

# Experience # Introduction Children are the future of the motherland, and having a successful child is the wish of every parent. In the process of educating children, I believe that every parent has accumulated some experience. The following are ten excellent parenting experiences that you have compiled and shared. You are welcome to read them.

1. Excellent parenting experience

Children are the shadows of their parents. To cultivate children's good living habits, we must first start from me. In the process of educating children, I realize that good living habits are the basis of cultivating children, and paying attention to children's mental health and ideological and moral cultivation is the purpose and key. In modern social life, especially in the case that the only-child families account for the vast majority in China, how to cultivate children's self-reliance ability and avoid becoming weak seedlings in the greenhouse is a problem worthy of every parent's consideration. In this regard, I mainly adopt three methods: First, love children but don't spoil them. For example, children often ask questions such as eating out of McDonald's and KFC. Going out to eat in stages can not only improve the dull life rules, but also broaden children's horizons and improve their adaptability to the outside world. However, I think that if a child cries for this reason, parents must not let it go. Second, there are tightness and looseness, and leniency and strictness are combined. Parents should analyze the internal reasons for their children's mistakes. First of all, it is clear whether the child is intentional. Once, while I was resting, my children made water all over the room. I came as soon as I saw the fire, but I asked why I was playing with water. The child said that he was washing a handkerchief and asked, "Didn't you say that you should do your own thing?" From this, I realized that educating children can never be solved simply by preaching and beating and cursing. Third, respect the old and love the young to form family rules. The separation of children from generation to generation is a common phenomenon in modern families, and the doting of elders often leads to children not looking good in front of grandparents. In this respect, I not only respect my parents-in-law, but also exchange views with them directly and ask them what they should pay attention to in educating their children, thus forming an environment of respecting the elderly and loving the young in our family.

2. Excellent parenting experience

Our expectations for children: physical and mental health, good habits and wide interests; Physical and mental health is the foundation of a child's life happiness; Good habits are the guarantee of a lifetime of happiness; A wide range of interests is the source of a lifetime of happiness. Our children are free-range and grow naturally; It is also gregarious and edified.

Why is it a stocking type? Because we basically decentralized her study and life, let her choose for herself.

In learning, all our requirements for her can be met at her age. We don't force her to learn much knowledge. If she wants to learn, we must provide conditions. If she doesn't want to learn, we won't force her. I think the most important thing before going to school is to cultivate good habits. We usually don't turn on the TV at home. When she is with us, she either paints, reads or plays with toys. If she paints, we will go online with her. If she reads, so do we. If she plays with toys, we will play with her for a while. She follows her mother-in-law and will definitely watch TV. I don't think there is any child who doesn't watch TV. When she is alone or with her younger brothers and sisters, she will watch cartoons with her mother-in-law. But she usually doesn't watch TV for a long time. She learned many words by watching TV, such as social portrait, pleasant goat, big wolf and so on. Watching TV also taught her to respect other people's preferences. She now knows that her mother-in-law likes to watch social photos, her father and uncle like to watch football matches, and her aunt likes to watch Hunan Satellite TV. She usually chooses their preferences when watching TV with them, but when it comes to advertising time, she must watch her cartoons. Therefore, it is not without benefits to watch TV for children properly.

In life, we never do everything for her. Her own affairs are usually decided by herself. For example, we let her decide for herself what clothes she wants to wear today, where she wants to play tomorrow, whether to learn painting or musical instruments. Personally, I think that if you impose your parents' wishes on your children, they may accept it, but that's because of the authoritative role of parents. I spend more time making her think. For example, what clothes she wants to wear today, she will be ready the next night, because she has been looking for clothes to change in the morning and was almost late, so she knows how to prepare in advance; Another example is that we often take her out. Usually before we leave, I will make a plan and make a list of things. She often sees me like this. When she wants to go in the future, she will pay great attention to the weather forecast and tidy up her things. If she doesn't bring enough things, she will bear the consequences, or she will have no toys to play with or snacks to eat. So we don't decide this kind of thing for her, let her learn to think, learn to choose and learn to take responsibility.

Why is it gregarious? Because of our family, there are many people who usually live together at home. There are three or four children her age. They often eat together and play games together. If one of the children does well, we will praise him and let other children set an example and feel what is right and wrong.

We are usually busy at work, but as long as it is a holiday, we will definitely take her out for a trip. We have taken her on a trip since she was four months old. We usually travel with three or four families, so she has three or four partners, because the other children are older than her. Traveling with friends often helps her learn new knowledge, new games, new songs, etc., so that she can grow and learn happily during the trip. So our daughter grew up under this influence.

3. Excellent parenting experience

At present, children of most urban families in China begin to learn special skills from kindergarten, including painting, vocal music, instrumental music, calligraphy, physical education and so on. With the growth of children's age, homework becomes heavier and heavier, especially in high school, and the study of extracurricular specialties will gradually stop. It's really embarrassing to see that many friends' children used to practice the piano very hard, but now they can't even play a simple tune. After years of hard work, the piano has become a decoration.

Like most parents, I have experienced the difficult process of selecting special items for my children, sending them to class and practicing with them. Fortunately, my children have never given up their specialty practice from primary school to college. As a parent, I have some experience in this process.

When children go to kindergarten, his paintings are often posted in the exhibition column. The teacher has told me many times that my child has a talent for painting and should take extra-curricular classes to cultivate his expertise in this field. I asked my child for advice, but he was not interested. I just gave up because I was too lazy to pick him up.

After children go to primary school, I think they should learn a specialty. In order to reduce unnecessary investment, I chose a career for my children that doesn't need to buy equipment-singing, so that I can practice with my mouth. From the beginning of learning to sing, I went through the process of picking up and dropping off for six years. My children are very talented in music, with good intonation, rhythm and sound quality, but they don't like singing, mainly because the choir teacher is fierce and strict.

Every time I send my child to sing for more than 1 hour, he always keeps saying, "Mom, I don't like singing. I don't want to sing." I almost broke my lip and earnestly advised him: I understand his feelings, let him sing first, and then give up when he really doesn't like it when he grows up. When the children are practicing singing, I usually wait outside the classroom to knit a sweater. After several years, I have knitted several sweaters. On the way to pick up my child, I will also prepare a bunch of snacks for him to eat in the car according to his requirements, so that he will be happy and willing to go next time. Although the child finally gave up singing because I couldn't send him abroad, he received systematic music theory training in the choir and had strong visual spectrum ability.

My child began to learn flute in the school orchestra in the third grade of elementary school. He agreed to learn flute because I promised that he would not sing if he wanted to learn flute. My children are also very talented in learning flute, and they learned it among more than a dozen children in the wind band. But he likes singing. He doesn't like playing the flute.

I have to be coaxed and praised for practicing every day, and at the same time I have to endure the harsh flute sound when he played early. As long as he insists on playing, I don't care about his posture and hand shape. Even if he doesn't want to learn from the teacher, I agree that he has taught himself for more than a year so that he can't give up. My child once told his classmates' parents that he didn't like playing the flute, but he practiced it every day for his father and me. I am very moved to hear this, and I deeply feel that children are not easy and considerate to their parents.

In order to have personal experience, I began to learn flute in 2004. When I first started playing, I was really dizzy and weak, and I realized how hard it was for my child to learn this instrument. Since then, I have treated my children's flute playing with more consideration and understanding, and I have also said more and more disgusting words of praise and encouragement.

I always keep in mind that the purpose of letting children learn flute is to let them have another way to express their feelings in the future, not to train them to become flute players. I used to be unable to resist worldly vanity and let my children pass the exam. The boring repetitive practice almost made my child give up learning flute. Now that I think about it, I regret that it doesn't meet the purpose of learning.

Under the patient persuasion of parents, my child agreed to learn flute from the teacher again in the fifth grade, and was later admitted to the symphony orchestra of the middle school attached to the National People's Congress. Now he is the chief flute player of Tsinghua University Military Band. Looking back on the process of children learning flute, I deeply feel that parents' perseverance and patience are the basis for children to persist in learning. Careful selection of learning items, always bearing in mind the purpose of learning, not blindly grading, praise and encouragement are important factors for children to adhere to their learning expertise.

4. Excellent parenting experience

Children are the expectation of the future. When a parent gives birth to a child, he should not only bring up the child, but also undertake the heavy responsibility of educating the child. But not every parent is a natural educator, so I think parents should take the initiative to learn some parenting knowledge and methods through books, or often communicate with other parents to learn their successful parenting experience. Of course, children have personality differences, and some successful parenting experiences may not be useful to their children. I remember J. J. had a training class to learn dulcimer when he was in kindergarten. I asked him if he liked dulcimer. He said yes, so he signed up, but he didn't want to leave right away. The dulcimer teacher taught me a method: prepare the toys that children like in advance, and tell him to listen to the teacher carefully and work with the teacher to get them, but the result is invalid. After that, I analyzed that children are not interested in learning dulcimer and put it down rationally. Therefore, parents should learn to experience, analyze and summarize the parenting experience suitable for their children in their lives.

Parents should also pay attention that their usual words and deeds have a great influence on their children. Children have the shadow of parents, not only genetic factors, but also the subtle influence of parents' words and deeds. There is a joke: the mother asked her son, "Obviously, where did you get your exercise book?" The son replied, "I took two books when the school office was empty." The mother was very angry and scolded her son, "Who told you to steal it? I didn't get enough from the office for you. " Therefore, when parents scold their children's bad words and deeds, they should think about whether they are responsible or not. Of course, if you expect your children to have many good qualities, then parents should set an example, and words are not as good as examples.

I think it is important to adhere to the cultivation of children's life and study habits. I have a deep understanding of this. My child has many bad habits, such as sloppy, procrastination, poor self-care ability and so on. These are all my responsibilities, and it is very difficult to find problems and change them. So I don't think I am a successful mother, but this child has two advantages that I am proud of so far: one is kindness. Kindness is the foundation of human beings. I encourage my child to be kind and make him feel that it is perfect to be kind to others. Second, I love reading. When the child was young, I read books with him. I never spare my time when he can read and write by himself, and I will praise him when I need to be an audience.

The above is my personal experience of accompanying my children to grow up. There is no ready-made standard for what is a good parenting method. I think the growth of children gives us adults a chance to learn again. Parents should cherish this opportunity and grow up happily with their children.

5. Excellent parenting experience

Every parent wants to train their children to be excellent people, but many parents like to complain and find reasons: it is not good for their children, it is not good for them, it is not easy to teach, or they have no education, poor family conditions and no time. Including myself. However, I think that in order to educate children well, we must first educate ourselves and change the way of education, so that children can develop better. I think the most basic thing is to accept your own children. No matter whether the child's performance is good or bad, no matter whether his study is good or bad, he should accept it. Only by accepting the child's performance today can he talk to the child calmly and without emotion. I believe many parents can't control their emotions as soon as they see their children's poor grades. Because I used to be like this, the children became more and more rebellious and opposed to me. You don't like me because you contradict what I said. Later, I reflected on myself. Is it because I am too strict with my children, which leads to their psychological burden? It is not a good thing for children to be afraid of me. You must accept your children so that they can accept you. You can start communication and education. Don't be a paternalistic parent, be a friend parent, and let your children feel equal to you. In this way, children will tell their parents everything and let us know their movements at any time.

Secondly, I think it is very important to cultivate children's interest. For example, our twins have poor comprehension and poor homework for many reasons, so we often do more exercises for them at home. When doing exercises, we try to give them as few questions as possible and let them do some simple basic questions. Do more simple questions first, then naturally do more difficult ones, and your learning ability and interest will also go up. Second, we will do simple questions.

Another point that I think is also very important is to cultivate children's good study habits and let them finish their homework independently. We should check the children's homework, but we only need to check the completion of the homework. As for right and wrong, our parents should try not to interfere and help their children with their homework. It may be proved that the child's final answer is wrong, but the advantage of doing so is that the child can take the responsibility of learning by himself, because we always help the child with his homework, which will cultivate his dependence. Once they encounter a slightly more difficult topic, they are unwilling to think, just like my daughter. So although the accuracy of the homework handed in every day is very high, many of them are completed under my guidance. Every time I tutor them, they seem to have nothing to do with themselves, so it is careless for the church to forget today and tomorrow. And it's not good to coach children, because the textbooks are different now, and parents can't guide their children correctly. Sometimes they may be misleading, which increases the burden on teachers. If parents have this habit like me, they must correct it, because it is not conducive to the growth of children.

6. Excellent parenting experience

For parents, loving children is a matter of course, which is extremely simple, but it is difficult to know how to love children. On a special birthday, making a meaningful wish is of special significance to children. On our daughter's first birthday, we hope that the child can learn to walk smoothly and fall in love with it. The daughter blinked her bright eyes and smiled and "agreed". After a year of training, our mother and daughter went to Xiaobaishan hand in hand and hummed together, which was the happiest time. On my daughter's second birthday, I hope her children can learn to eat, drink, dress and sleep independently and get ready for kindergarten. My daughter shook her chubby little hand and said "OK" with a smile. Eight months later, there was a fat girl in Class 8, and the teacher always said, "Don't look at the little guy who is the youngest and has strong self-care ability." On our daughter's third birthday, we hope her children will start to learn dance, cultivate a sense of music, exercise and strengthen their physique. The daughter nodded and said "yes" with a smile. The little face is redder every day. At the end of the semester, my daughter got the certificate of studying, and she was very happy. On my daughter's fourth birthday, we want her children to start learning painting. Before I finished talking about the benefits of learning to draw, my daughter seriously joined our discussion. "I want to learn martial arts and stand like a pine." A year later, the child's five-step boxing and long boxing are powerful; On our daughter's fifth birthday, we hope that the child will start sleeping alone at night and give her mother back to her father. My daughter cocked her head and thought, "OK, but let's make Tuesday her mother's baby day, so that her mother won't miss me." This year, on our daughter's sixth birthday, we are looking forward to ... our expectations for children: physical and mental health, good habits and wide interests; Physical and mental health is the foundation of a child's life happiness; Good habits are the guarantee of a lifetime of happiness; A wide range of interests is the source of a lifetime of happiness.

7. Excellent parenting experience

My child is introverted and a little timid. During his growing up, we were busy and happy. The growth of children depends on the cooperation of teachers and parents. In a family, parents are the first people to come into contact with their children, and their words and deeds always affect their children's growth. Raising children is not only a burden, a responsibility, but also a pleasure. The following are my experiences in the process of raising children: First, let children have regular schedules. Ensure children's sleep needs, go to bed early and get up early, and send them to kindergarten on time, so that children can have a good mental state and receive teacher's education, and the schedule at home should be complementary to that of kindergarten. It is good for children to form good habits all their lives, but it is not a day or two. Parents should be patient.

Second, encourage children to do their own things and cultivate their independence and resilience. From simple to complex, ask step by step and give timely guidance. When children say "I'll do it myself", praise and encourage them in time to arouse their enthusiasm and initiative. For example, the preparation before eating, let the children participate together, he will feel that his work has been affirmed, and eating will become passive to active. He fell down, we encouraged him to stand up, praised him for being brave and a man, and he played happily again.

Third, communicate with children more, respect and understand children, and enhance mutual understanding between parents and children. To achieve the consistency of education, do not take care of each other. Establish friendship with children, let them treat you as a friend and be willing to communicate with you. Put yourself in others' shoes. Don't just ask children to do this and that. While respecting children, children will respect you.

Fourth, cultivate children's interest in learning and develop the habit of reading independently. Parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on their children. I am used to telling him a short story before going to bed. After writing, I let him read alone. Of course, I also set an example and concentrate on my studies. After going to kindergarten for a period of time, under the guidance of the teacher, he can not only read books independently, but also ask questions, thanks to the careful education of the kindergarten teachers.

Fifth, I think it is the most critical to establish a correct concept and strengthen communication with teachers and aunts. During kindergarten, parents should realize that attending kindergarten is not for children to learn a lot of skills, but for developing good study habits, cultivating children's concentration, establishing a good character and preparing for being young.

8. Excellent parenting experience

First of all, I would like to thank the teacher for giving our parents this opportunity to communicate, so that our parents can understand their children's life and study in kindergarten through this parent-teacher meeting, and achieve the goal of home cooperation, * * * education and * * * improvement. I sincerely thank you for your patient education and careful care of our children, so that we can devote ourselves to our work. Today, I was entrusted by Teacher Jiang to talk about my experience in teaching children painting. Actually, I don't have any experience to talk about. I am also a blank sheet of paper in teaching children myself, and sometimes I am at a loss. I just keep groping, learning, summarizing and experiencing in the process of children's growth. Everyone wants their children to be healthy, smart and lively, which depends on their parents' efforts, because "parents are their children's first teachers". Therefore, as parents, we should not only let ourselves eat well and wear warm clothes, but also often chat with our children, read children's songs, play games, tell stories and draw pictures. So as to cultivate their observation, memory, imagination, thinking ability, language ability and self-help ability. My parenting tenet is: "It is not necessarily how much knowledge children learn. What is important is to cultivate their interest in things and develop good living and study habits." Educate children often with encouragement and praise, try not to criticize their shortcomings directly, but encourage them to improve in a hopeful tone, which is conducive to building their self-confidence.

I have three experiences in cultivating children to draw:

First, cultivating children's interest in painting is the key.

As we all know, a child knows nothing when he is born, which requires our parents to constantly educate and inspire him and cultivate children's interest in the process of his growth. This is very important. So when the child was very young, I gave him a pen, found some old magazines for him to doodle, and paid attention to cultivating his interest in painting. When the child is older, I will buy some simple coloring books to color him.

Second, use children's "points of interest" to guide painting.

If the child likes Altman, I will buy some Altman mazes, find different books to cultivate his observation ability, buy some Altman coloring books for him to practice coloring and guide him to draw in various ways.

Third, learn to appreciate and evaluate children's paintings.

Usually, no matter what a child draws, I praise his painting with appreciation, and then inspire him to draw this painting and that. This not only improves children's interest in painting, but also helps to improve their language expression ability.

9. Excellent parenting experience

Parenting is an arduous and complicated project, which requires not only financial resources but also energy and patience. However, we can gain some happiness and sweetness from learning with our children, and at the same time we can get some thinking and enlightenment. In short, as long as our children make a little progress, we will be surprised, because it is the fruit of hard work of teachers and parents. Of course, my child is not a genius or perfect. He is still a little careless, careless and slow. I also want to consult other parents to see if there are any good methods, because I haven't found the most effective method so far. We need to constantly explore better and more parenting methods. I hope that good parenting methods and good teachers are like a canoe, carrying children to an infinite ocean of knowledge and making them healthier and better!

10. Excellent parenting experience

First of all, we are role models for children. We are children's first teachers, and our words and deeds have a great influence on children. For example, the habit of asking children to be polite, treat others sincerely, speak politely and listen to others patiently requires us to make a lot of efforts and set a good example so that children can learn what to learn, what to listen to and what to do in a subtle way. Second, role models among peers. "Look! Lai Jiacheng did really well. " "Look! Don's answer is really loud "and so on. Teachers don't have to be stingy with their praise. In fact, when you praise a child, many children will immediately follow his behavior. Therefore, it will be effective for teachers to be diligent and praise in time.

This can't be done overnight. He also needs the cooperation and continuous learning process of Qi Xin in his hometown. Let's expect the children to perform better!