What does the man mean when he talks about poverty alleviation?

Use your own abundant resources to help those with less resources.

The general meaning is that a young man and woman are getting ready to get married. The man has scraped together a down payment, and the repayment has gone into his parents' account. Now he needs the woman to pay for renovations. Of course, the crux of the problem is not this, but that the house is pre-marital property, the decoration cannot be taken away, and the man is unwilling to add the woman's name to the house book.

At first glance, the woman does deserve sympathy - she should not be an ambassador for poverty alleviation. But when I thought about it more carefully, I felt it was inappropriate. Nowadays, many girls ask for "three things" before getting married - a house, a car, and money, followed by a house and a car, and at the worst, a house. Therefore, many young men lament: My grandfather spent a bushel of rice to marry my grandmother, my father spent half a cow to marry my mother, and my wife cost my parents half their lives.

This is not the point, the point is marriage. When it comes to talking about marriage, both men and women at least trust each other. But when I see "poverty alleviation marriage", I don't feel trust, but full of calculations: the man is afraid that the woman will get married and divorce, and the woman is afraid that the man will be kicked out after marriage. In short, she has already thought of divorce before she gets married.

In this case, two suggestions are provided:

Before marriage, the woman should not ask the man to have a car or a house. After marriage, the couple will work on their own and earn as much or as little as they want. It's a matter between the two of you, and it doesn't involve property notarization; second, just rent it instead of buying a house. If you have extra money, invest in something you like.

Marriage itself is the reunification of two strangers, and the most important factor that promotes this combination is trust. Regardless of whether a man or a woman is so careful with their calculations, in my opinion, they are not worthy of being entrusted to their lifelong master. Don't say anything about protecting your own interests. Marriage is a partnership between two people who sacrifice each other to fulfill each other. Aren't you sacrificing more or less for your own lives?

People, don’t be too smart. There is a saying that goes well: Use errors to verify errors, and the result will still be errors. The young man is worried that the woman will get divorced, so he does not add her name; the woman is worried about being a "poverty alleviation ambassador" and delays the decoration proposed by the man. As a result, the two parties had a rift in their hearts. A good marriage ended without any problems, and it was a sin!

Women should not say "Once married, all assets will be wiped out", and men should not worry about women "getting rich through marriage". A little more sincerity and a little more trust in life are better than anything else!