When did you get married and go back to your hometown (why did the newlyweds go back to their hometown on the third day)

In rural areas, by the end of the year, happy events will follow, and many people who plan to get married or move will set the date at the end of the year. After all, it's the end of the year, and all the people who work outside are back. In rural areas, happy events are just for fun, and the more people, the more festive. When it comes to marriage, there are still many customs and rules. In order to celebrate, many people will abide by them even if they feel cumbersome. Many places in China have the custom that the bride leads the groom back to her mother's house on the third day after marriage, which is also called "going back to her mother's house". Do you know why there is this custom? The old man in the countryside said that Huimen is a kind of wisdom of the ancients and is of great significance.

Go home to see your parents and comfort your sad parents!

As the old saying goes, "the married daughter is the spilled water", but even so, the daughter is raised by her parents and will soon become someone else's family. For her parents, this is also a very uncomfortable thing. Even some parents will say nothing in front of their daughters, but they are still very sad. It's just that they don't express it directly. Maybe as soon as their daughter gets on the wedding car, they will hide and feel sad. On the third day after marriage, my daughter and son-in-law went back to their hometown and asked the daughters to cook a meal for their parents. Then everyone sat around and talked and laughed, making the old people happy, not to mention the more lively the family, the better their mood!

I broke my daughter's mind and thanked my parents for their parenting.

In the past, once a woman got married, it was someone else's family, her husband's family was her family, and her family was her relative. Huimen is also called "mothering", which means "guests return". In other words, this time, the daughter and son-in-law returned to their parents' homes in a new identity, that is, from "family" to "relatives". In doing so, the ancients wanted to break their daughters' thoughts and let them treat their husband's family as their own home and their parents' family as relatives from now on. In the future, you will be bullied if you encounter any difficulties at your husband's house, and you can't just go back. You can't embarrass your family. Moreover, in the past, there was a lot of attention to returning to the door, and I had to bring a lot of gifts, mainly to repay my parents for their years of parenting!

Give mother and daughter a chance to have a heart-to-heart talk.

There was no free love before, but it was all the words of parents' matchmakers. Therefore, most people don't know much about the man and his family before marriage, and only after marriage do they know what the specific situation is. When the daughter goes home on the third day after marriage, the mother and daughter have a chance to speak their minds and get to know the man, his family and his family, which can make parents feel more at ease. Of course, there is also a very important reason, that is, in the past, women got married earlier, and some of them knew nothing about men and women, but when they returned to their parents' home, their mothers would give them guidance. This is also for the happiness of my daughter. After all, early pregnancy after marriage is the result that her husband most wants to see!

I didn't expect Huimen to have such great significance. I really admire the wisdom of the ancients. It is precisely because of the great significance of Huimen that this custom has spread to this day. However, this custom has really disappeared in many places. After all, times have changed. For example, now they are all in free love, some are unmarried and some are married. However, it is necessary to pass on this custom, don't you think? Is there a custom of "returning to the door" in your hometown?