My son likes toys.

Author: Wen Xi (intensive reading for parents)

"How many times have I told you, you can't open the toy!"

Last night, my cousin vomited in the family group, and was simply defeated by my little nephew!

It turns out that my little nephew dismantled another excavator toy and couldn't put it back after dismantling it. He was so anxious that he cried.

This kind of thing happens once every once in a while. This time, my wife got angry and just swept up the parts and threw them into the trash can.

When the little nephew saw it, he rolled on the ground, and war at home was on the verge.

Actually, I quite understand my wife's feelings. Having a "dismantled" baby at home really gives parents a headache.

@ Yao Yao's World 1999: Anyway, I haven't seen my baby's complete robot. It's not missing arms or legs. Do all children have a "hobby" of unpacking toys?

Jimmy Lin once took photos of his twin sons unpacking toys in Weibo.

The little boy is disassembling his toy car.

Seeing the messy ground and torn toys, it is difficult for parents to keep calm and have no mood swings.

Heart, understand the reasons behind children's toys, maybe parents will feel glad for their children's "destructive power".

What is hidden behind the "destructive power" of children?

1, curious

Curiosity is the beginning for children to understand the things around them and explore the bigger world. The "destructive" behavior of opening toys just shows that children have strong curiosity.

Psychotherapist Angelababy tells the story of Fan Wen of Wuhan University of Science and Technology in the book.

When Fan Wen was a child, he dismantled a radio that his parents spent two months' salary on. After discovering it, his mother didn't scold him angrily, but patiently asked Fan Wen why he dismantled the radio.

It turned out that Fan Wen thought there was an aunt on the radio, and he wanted to see how the aunt sang.

When my mother heard this, she happily praised Fan Wen's ideas and encouraged him to study why his aunt could sing on the radio when she grew up.

Curious and cared for by her mother, Fan Wen became more and more interested in electronic equipment and studied electronic information at university.

During his college years, Fan Wen obtained four national patents. "Pump bicycle" and "hammer capable of changing various hammers" are both inventions of Fan Wen.

Psychological research shows that if a person is curious about something, he will study with fighting spirit, and then his creativity will be fully exerted.

With curiosity, children will have the desire to explore the world and break through themselves.

Therefore, when parents find that their children like to open toys, they must first hold back their anger and never save toys to destroy their curiosity.

The desire for knowledge and exploration is growing.

Every child is very studious and has been learning various skills since birth. The process of children disassembling toys is also the process of children seeking knowledge and exploring.

Chen Youwei, the son of Chen Jingrun, a famous mathematician, likes to open toys since he was a child. As soon as he gets a new toy, he always wants to dissect it, open it and find out.

Chen Youwei's mother thinks her son is ungrateful and always criticizes him.

But his father, Chen Jingrun, thought it was a good thing and said happily, "The child can disassemble toys, which proves that he is curious and can study problems. Parents should support him. "

With the support and encouragement of his father, Chen Youwei's thirst for knowledge and exploration spirit were greatly protected, which laid the foundation for his later achievements in mathematics.

Psychologist Hu Ceng said: "Every child is the best explorer. Encouraging children to explore freely can make him more confident."

Children who can disassemble toys have a deeper thirst for knowledge, are better at analyzing and solving problems, and have more motivation and ability to explore the unknown world.

In real life, many parents will spend a lot of money to enroll their children in such remedial classes, hoping to enlighten their children's wisdom and make them succeed in their studies.

But what parents don't know is that in the process of criticizing and reprimanding their children for unpacking toys, they have killed their children's curiosity and doused their thirst for knowledge and exploration.

What should parents do when children open toys?

It is not terrible for children to take apart toys and do some "minor damage". It is important for parents to face it with an inclusive heart.

1, build a space for children to explore freely.

A mother in Weibo shared a little parenting experience. She left a separate space on the balcony for her son to play with toys.

In an undisturbed space, children can not only improve their hands-on ability, but also improve their rare ability to be alone.

2. Assemble the disassembled toys with the children.

It is not difficult for many children to take apart toys, but it is difficult to assemble parts into toys. At this point, parents need reasonable guidance.

My friend's son also loves to open toys, and the parts are piled up. Once, after the son opened another toy, his friend suggested that he and his son assemble the toy bit by bit.

My son is very interested. During the assembly process, his little head has been thinking. When he is in trouble, his friends will help him in time. With the help of friends, the toy quickly recovered its original appearance.

The little guy clapped his hands and cheered, not to mention how happy he was.

Friends also said that from the beginning of assembling toys, children are methodical and good at finding, analyzing and solving problems.

Piaget, a child psychologist, also pointed out that children first develop their thinking through actions, and the more they like to do so, the more conducive they are to the development of their brains.

In the process of disassembly, children's eyes, hands and brain work together, and many abilities are exercised unconsciously.

3. Be discriminating when choosing toys.

If parents find that their children prefer to disassemble toys, they can choose the ones that are easier to disassemble when buying toys.

In this way, when guiding children to assemble, children are more likely to gain self-confidence and a sense of accomplishment.

In the next stage, buy more complicated toys to improve children's thinking ability step by step.

I believe that under the careful care and reasonable guidance of parents, over time, children will definitely show their parents a lovely appearance of loving brains, diligent hands and thinking.

Once upon a time, there was a boy whose mother beat him up because he broke the watch he just bought, and complained to the teacher.

The child's teacher said humorously, "The future China Edison was killed by you."

The boy's mother was puzzled, and the teacher explained, "This behavior of the boy is actually a manifestation of creativity. You should not punish your child, but let him do more and let him try. "

This teacher is the famous educator Mr. Ye Shengtao. He is reminding parents to protect their children's curiosity and exploration spirit.

Where does the child's curiosity and exploration spirit come from? It comes from repeated hands-on attempts.

So parents find that children love to open toys. Don't think he is the king of destruction. Please give him the most sincere understanding, the most extensive tolerance and the most reasonable guidance, so that he can stride forward on the road of exploration without fear.