Is there any need for favor exchanges between in-laws?

Normal interpersonal relationships between in-laws are necessary, but it is best to do the following:

1. Try to meet as little as possible.

As the saying goes: It is better to do less than to do more. When the in-laws meet, they always put on airs. Only by meeting less often can we reduce many troubles and unnecessary conflicts. Many times, there are no conflicts between the in-laws, but during the meeting, due to inconsistent views or a certain detail was not handled properly, misunderstandings occur between the two parties, leaving a bad impression in their hearts. The more times they meet, the more conflicts accumulate. Moreover, it is difficult to change the character and temper formed by the elderly over many years, and some are very stubborn. Therefore, seeing each other less is the best way to get along with in-laws and a way to maintain a good relationship. When something happens, the young couple will communicate and coordinate in the middle. If they can't meet, they should try not to meet.

2. The meeting and chat will not involve sensitive topics.

Although it is recommended that in-laws meet less often, it is still inevitable to meet several times in a lifetime. For example: engagement, wedding banquet, birth of child, etc. Meetings are indispensable without greetings and conversations. So in the process of greetings and conversations, it is necessary to avoid touching sensitive topics. Topics that mainly involve disputes or personal interests between young couples should be classified as minefields, and they must be kept silent and avoided talking about. Because deep down in their hearts, the in-laws hope that the interests of their children will be protected, but it is difficult to distinguish between the interests and the rights and wrongs between husband and wife. Once such a sensitive topic is involved, it may become flammable. Therefore, meeting and chatting does not involve sensitive topics, which is an important guarantee to prevent quarrels and conflicts between in-laws.

3. Do not intervene in the quarrels between young couples.

In the process of marriage and love, due to their different origins, growth environment, experience, temperament, etc., it is inevitable that there will be a running-in period. It is common for two people to quarrel during the break-in period. As long as it is not a violent act, it is best for the in-laws not to get involved in the quarrels between young couples. There is a saying: A couple quarrels at the end of the bed. No one can live life without quarrels between husband and wife in the marriage relationship. Therefore, when dealing with this kind of thing, the in-laws should turn a blind eye and be aware of it without getting involved. Intervening will only bring the conflicts between husband and wife into the open and complicate them. What was originally a matter of two people, if it becomes a matter of six people, the manpower will be tripled. What was originally a small matter has become an irreconcilable major issue.

4. Conflicts should be handled coldly.

If there is a conflict between in-laws and family members, they must learn to deal with it coldly. That is to say, put the controversy aside and do not listen, speak or spread. This will avoid further intensification and expansion of conflicts. Although words spoken impulsively can vent emotions, they are irrational and most hurtful. You need to think twice before speaking between in-laws. Wise in-laws will handle conflicts coldly. If you do this, you will find that you will appear to be of high style and self-restraint as time goes by. The cold treatment is to look forward to everything, rather than just focusing on the present.