Pull yourself out and look at the problem from a higher level

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Name: Tingting Zizhi Ma Bao (Li Tingting)

Time: 2065438+September 08 1 1.

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First, reading summary

A: If you want to pursue Excellence, you must challenge your own limits, and challenging your own limits may make you fall down and cause great pain. You will feel that you have failed, but this is not necessarily a failure unless you give up on yourself. P037

Second, golden sentences/quotations

1. I know how to strive for many things and how to fail correctly. -Excerpts from the introduction.

2. Look at the problem from one's own perspective as well as others'. -Excerpts from the introduction.

We are all born with different thinking abilities, but we are not born with decision-making ability. P003

Although making money is good, meaningful work and interpersonal relationships are much better than making money. P023

In order to live a good life, you must cross a dangerous jungle. P035

6. Keep an extremely open mind and allow others to point out what I may have overlooked. P036

7. Only when you can admit and even accept your weaknesses can you make changes that are beneficial to you. P037

8. Sometimes life will give you a blow. Don't lose heart. I'm sure that the only motivation that keeps me moving forward is that I like what I do. P037

If you work diligently and creatively, you can almost get what you want, but you can't get everything at the same time. P049

10. Pain and pressing pressure can stimulate people's learning motivation best. P078

Third, think about the problem in the first week

1. Answer questions by reading the "Introduction" and "Part I: My History" of the Principles, combining reality with my own experience;

(1) Why does the author call her a "fool"? How do you understand yourself?

A: The reason why I call myself a "fool" is mainly because the author is modest, optimistic and positive, and thinks that there is still much room for personal growth, so he laughs at himself. The more successful people are, the more humble and low-key.

My understanding is that because the author will forget his troubles and unhappiness, he will not have vanity and jealousy, and he will not calculate, so he can live a happy and healthy life and live in the sun. This is actually wisdom. He looks at things with a normal heart. Always keep a humble attitude. It is this humble attitude that urges him to look at the problem from others' perspective as well as his own, which makes him see many dimensions, thus reducing the possibility of making mistakes.

(2) Tell me how you learned from the author's personal story how he faced failure. How to discover the principle? How to achieve life goals with principles?

A: How does the author face failure?

The most important thing you can do is to sum up the lessons provided by these failures, learn to be modest, learn to be extremely open-minded, thus increasing your chances of success, and then continue to challenge your limits. P037

How to discover the principle?

A: Because the author mentioned that he made many mistakes in his life, he spent a lot of time reflecting on these mistakes and summed up his own principles in the process of reflection.

How to achieve life goals with principles?

A: These principles can help the author discover the truth and take corresponding actions. Prevent him from making the same mistake again. Change and progress because of principles allow us to imagine and pursue bolder goals.

(3) If you want to know yourself, where do you start?

A: I am not satisfied with the status quo and prefer to toss.

Case: I was very busy in the factory from morning till night in 2009, so I switched to clothing sales and later to cosmetics sales. I have been pursuing a more meaningful life. When I worked in a clothing store, I used the morning and evening rotation system. If I go to work early, it will be after 3 pm. At that time, I felt bored and didn't want to waste time, so I worked part-time with my friends who lived together. Actually, I was single at that time. I can choose to lie down and chase American TV after work, but I don't like this empty life. In Mary Kay, I found another meaning of life, that is, I am particularly eager for a warm and mutually inspiring environment to stimulate my inner motivation. At that time, I really devoted myself to this job because I liked it.

I just arrived in Shenzhen that year, and I don't have any acquaintances around me. It's really hard for me to sell. I started from a strange market. I need to make a strange date and do a questionnaire survey on the way. As long as you see a woman, go to the front to do an investigation or go to the mall to do an investigation. At that time, there was no chance for others to reject me. I just know that I have to do this so that I can have a beauty class and finally achieve sales through continuous accumulation.

At that time, my friends who made an appointment with me all described me as communication barrier-free Actually, I thought it was nothing. I thought it was something I liked to do, so I devoted myself to it. At that time, I didn't want to earn much money. I just like this environment of constant encouragement and mutual help, which makes me so brave. Although the journey is very difficult, I feel very practical, although I have to give up because of economic problems.

Second, if you are on another planet, how many authors can rank among the richest and most powerful people on earth 1000?

Answer:/kloc-within 0/00 people.

If the author can enter 1000, why? Please analyze the reasons why he can stand out from the huge population of the earth (note: it is said that the population of the earth exceeded 7.5 billion in 20 17).

A: Because the author is good at applying principles, he not only knows how to pursue many things diligently, but also knows how to fail correctly.

1. Strong innovation ability, extremely open and transparent management style, good at summing up choices after trial and error. Learn from mistakes and systematize them.

2. I like to reflect on my painful mistakes and cherish the principle value summed up from them.

3. Dare to try challenging work, try and make mistakes quickly, and quickly sum up the failed experience.

4. Make decisions in a systematic way and manage the mechanism in a creative and preferred way.

5. Have the spirit of being extremely realistic and transparent.

If he was born in China, can he enter the former 1000? Why?

A: Not necessarily. According to the specific analysis of environmental conditions. Timing is everything.

Third, please think about the answer. What problems can learning the book Principles help you solve?

A: It gives me a sense of the overall situation. I can stand higher and see all my problems clearly. Then we can use the principle system method to solve the problem in all directions.

Case: I used to get into a dead end and listen to other people's advice when I encountered problems. The method adopted completely belongs to the way of treating hand pain and head, rather than the whole body diagnosis. It only aims at one problem, and after solving the hand problem, new problems appear. Now, I can jump out of my mind and see a more comprehensive problem.

Fourth, why the author is obsessed with "principles".

A: These principles not only make the author reach a certain height, but also give him a new view of success and life in a way he never thought of. It also gave him meaningful work and interpersonal relationships, and achieved a balanced state of career success and family happiness.

5. Write an article for yourself with reference to Part I My History. "My history" (personal privacy is not allowed to be published in the group, not open). Please compare the author's "My History" with your own "My History" and write down the comparison results.

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Comparative summary of the author and me:

1. Actively do odd jobs to make money. At the age of eight, he began to deliver newspapers. 12 years old, caddy while trading stocks.

In addition to going to school when I was a child, I also helped my family with farm work.

In contrast, the author's environment is more creative, so he can find his own job at such a young age and cultivate his independent personality from an early age. At the same time, caddies can broaden their horizons and have the ability to invest after hearing about it.

As an independent thinker, I am willing to take risks to win prizes. Not afraid of failure.

In contrast, I prefer to work in familiar fields. I am afraid of unfamiliar environments and things, because my ability to accept is weak, which is the only reason for fear.

3. Happy family, successful career and double harvest.

I have always dreamed of having a happy family and achieving success in my career, and I am gradually moving in this direction.

Whenever you start trading in the market, you will write down the criteria you use to make a decision, and then, whenever you end trading, you will review the effects of these criteria.

Make a plan first, and make a summary and evaluation in time after implementation. I am also cultivating this habit, and I begin to like to make a summary and evaluation every day, and constantly improve what I have done well.

5. Extreme truth-seeking and transparency.

I believe in something that I will never give up. I like to get to the bottom of it, and I like to put the questions on the table and make them clear. I admire this very much, because I always like to defend my self-esteem, easily frustrated, and at a loss when facing strange and difficult problems.

6. Be brave in innovation, make mistakes and improve quickly. I like to reflect on my painful mistakes and cherish the value of the principles summed up from them.

After feeling that I did something wrong, I always want to stay in one place for a long time. Why? Feel guilty about things that you don't want to happen, and you are easily troubled by bad emotions. I don't deal with problems in time through reflection and summary. This is not conducive to the smooth development of the next thing. Many new things are afraid to try, and it is easy to miss many opportunities.

Reminder: "Introduction" and "My Journey" should be read one by one and cannot be skipped.

Read the "My History" section, focusing on the person Rui Daglio.

It can be divided into two stages. The turning point was his fiasco after eight years in business. He even considered whether to give up, whether to tie up and find a job on Wall Street.

Only by correctly understanding his ambition/values, personality, resources+ability, experience, etc. Can we compare ourselves with your environment and get some enlightenment?

Fourth, inspiration and harvest.

1. It is meaningless to make money as the goal.

Case: Many times when you walk, you will forget your initial heart. Write whatever you want at first. I originally wanted to express my feelings, heal my heart and talk to my heart through writing. When I write 65,438+000 articles, I will have a goal I want to achieve. This will be very stressful, because after all, my ability is not enough to talk about realization. If it can't be realized in a short time, it will easily hurt my confidence.

And making money is not my original goal. How much should I earn? Satisfy your desires? It's really hard to say, or I can never satisfy my desire to make money.

At this time, we need to adjust our mentality in time, try our best to reserve our knowledge base first, and take repetitive writing as a meaningful thing to do. There must be a feeling of falling in love with it, and my heart will be full of motivation. If you simply regard writing as the purpose of making money, and writing is just a way to make money for you, it is meaningless.

2. Look at the problem from one's own perspective as well as others'.

Because the human brain is defective, we can't see the whole problem ourselves. We need to listen to other people's views and opinions, and then compare them with our own results before making a conclusion. At least this will reduce the chance of making mistakes.

3. Being strong is not as good as being weak, and fighting makes people strong.

The weak usually feel inferior, no matter what they do, they will feel insecure, and they often complain about the unfairness of life. Not only is it not good, but it also affects family and friends around. Strong people, on the other hand, like to be close, because they don't shrink back when they encounter difficulties, but choose calm thinking solutions and face difficulties directly, because their hearts are strong enough to be honed and forged by many challenges in life.

Five, apply what you have learned (change)

Only when you can admit and even accept your weaknesses can you make changes that are beneficial to you.

Humans all have one thing in common, and most people don't like others to point out their weaknesses. Because in the eyes of the parties, this is an attack. Even if their choice is wrong, they refuse to admit it and insist that their choice is wrong. This will lead to your own losses and take many detours.

Only by learning to accept your own shortcomings and listen to others' opinions can you make better choices and have more room for progress. In the future, we should be good at analyzing the suggestions given by others and comparing ourselves, adopting new suggestions, and always maintaining a modest and low-key learning attitude.

Attached is the introduction and the first part of my mind map.