Is it necessary to share your sadness with your parents?

When I was a child, my parents were the most reassuring reliance.

It is also the existence that allows us to be spoiled and licentious.

But somehow, as I get older,

Between children and parents,

Have a subtle sense of distance.

Compared with when I was a child,

We learned to "report good news but not bad news",

But what is even sadder than "reporting good news but not worrying",

It is "not happy or sad."

Why do we spend less and less time with our parents?

Share your happiness and sadness?

@ runaway hamster:

Talking to my mother about the troubles of life, the more I talk, the more annoying I get. Talking to dad about work, the more you talk, the more you collapse. ...

@ParisXParis:

I dare not tell my parents where I was wronged at work. I'm afraid they'll let me go home and rest. They will support me and let me take the local civil service exam by the way.

There are countless people in the world:

Always advise you to be patient, always question that you are not doing well, and always analyze on the so-called rational side.

If you like me, I like you:

Many times they will say that this is your own problem, it will be fine, your mouth is not sweet and so on, and then educate you. In fact, many people know what their problems are, but when they are particularly sad, they just need comfort, not listening and teaching.

@ 京京京京京京 d:

I called my mother with the joy of promotion and salary increase, expecting to be praised. It's a pity that she only asked me to finish another goal quickly-getting married, and then said that I should get married when I am old. I just don't want to share my happiness with her.

@ 丫丫丫 and grapefruit:

My mother will start educating me within five minutes after I call her. If I don't call her, she will accuse me of not calling. ...

@ Everyone:

I can stop talking to my mother, but my mother can't stop talking to me. She always tells me about the length of my family and my feeling of doubt ... I am so tired that I have been receiving these negative energies, but I don't send them myself.

@ Fei Yao is not fat:

As long as I say that I have been treated unfairly outside, they will say that this is normal and you can't even bear it. How will you stand in society in the future?

@ Impetuousness is the devil, don't be impetuous:

Every time I say I'm tired, my mother will ask, "Will I be tired when I do farm work?" ? Maybe I'm really not tired of doing farm work, but I have no desire to continue.

@ sad squid zxx:

I study medicine, and sometimes I complain to my mother that I am tired from work. She will say who made you want to study medicine and won't let you apply. I can't talk today. ...

@D sauce needs to work hard:

My mother is very kind to me, but things always make me reflect on myself ... I was bullied by the workplace last year and called my mother. My mother said, do you want to reflect on yourself? Why did she do this to you? She was really devastated at that time, but in the afternoon, she called me and asked me to resign. She gave me living expenses, alas. ...

@ Beautiful girl who likes A Xin:

When I tell my mother something that has nothing to do with me, she always blames me and makes me reflect.

@ _ Clouds on the horizon:

I have a bad relationship with my family and classmates. Not only was she scolded at that time, but if something annoyed her in the future, she would be taken out and said, no wonder you said that you had a bad relationship with your classmates. Who are you like this?

@popopopo Bubble:

Before I resigned, my dad and I talked about the wonderful things that happened at work. He can only say that it is not easy to work anywhere. Which unit do you think will be happy? I really only care whether you fly high or not, and I don't care whether you are tired or not. ...

@ Seeds and Buds:

On the contrary, my parents think that I don't share my work with them and communicate with them too little. Indeed, I think it is too much and too complicated to explain a troublesome thing clearly and explain the relationship between people.

@ 丫丫丫丫丫:

Most of the sadness of young people now comes from work. Sharing this sadness with parents will only make them feel more sad and guilty and feel powerless. Instead of this, it is better to vent by telling friends or exercising.

@ Hippo Hippo, don't fall asleep:

The world outlook and outlook on life of the two generations are quite different. What we want to express to our parents may be interpreted as another meaning, or even the opposite meaning, and we will get something that we have heard 800 times. In fact, there is nothing right or wrong, but our love channels are different.

Those who are luckier,

Not only did it not deepen the generation gap with parents with the growth of age,

On the contrary, I feel more and more close contact with my parents.

This is not only a question of personality itself,

It also takes time and patience;

This requires not only unilateral efforts,

You also need two-way active travel.

@ 丫丫丫丫丫丫丫丫丫:

I gave up my job as a civil servant, career editor and hospital, got married and worked in Beijing. My mother has always supported me. After leaving my job last year, I couldn't find a suitable job for a while, and I felt very uncomfortable. My mother always said that I was the best, and my mother was so good that I was really lucky.

@ Who else doesn't know that I have a bad temper:

My mother has always been very open-minded and always understood me, so I basically have no rebellious period. Now that I am a senior three, everyone who is happy and unhappy wants to tell my mother that she will always support me unconditionally and point out my real shortcomings.

@ Said the fisherman didn't drop the line:

My mother will tell me about Party A. Anyway, there is no reason to be on my side forever. I will share my troubles with her.

@ Silver Saddle and White Horse Shaoxia:

I will tell my parents that my parents will unconditionally stand up against me, and sometimes they will lift me out of the emotional corner in time. They will also support my various seemingly "useless" hobbies, praise my good painting, listen to me about the animals on the island, watch me play slime, and comment on which blind box I have ... Oh, I am so happy!

@ Kimchi fried rice plus mouth:

Even when I was in my twenties, I shared everything with my mother. Thank my mother for always listening to me carefully and giving me a lot of responses. My mother also said thank you. I am willing to share everything with her, so that she will not feel alienated and lonely even if her daughter is not around.

@Real realspin:

My parents are my best friends. Others report good news, but not bad news. I report both good news and bad news, so I like to nag and complain to them.

I don't want to fail today:

Every time I am sad, my mother will try her best to encourage me. Even if I am busy at work, I won't forget to order a basket of sweet strawberries for me who just complained in the family group, so every time I meet Kan, I will share them with my parents first, because they are people we can trust unconditionally.

@ You Pancake Dog:

My mother is a very positive person. I like to share it with her whether I am happy or unhappy. When I was still in my twenties, although she was anxious, she wouldn't let me make do, saying that the right time might not appear, and if it didn't, she would rather live by herself. I feel very lucky.

@-sunss:

When I was a child, I always asked my mother for help. Now I am 30 years old, and she is almost 60 years old. But now I occasionally encounter unhappy things or things that I can't figure out. My mother can solve my confusion in one sentence. From her, I feel the charm of age, and rich life experience is really a fortune in life.

@ Is it my little fool?

Go to work or live with parents. As soon as I get home from work, I tell my mother many interesting things at work. My mother also told me about the interesting students in her school.

@ Summer Limited VIP Collectors:

I want to tell my grandparents! My grandmother is a "gentle essence" who will point out my problems and give me solutions! Before complaining about some trivial things, grandpa said, "Life is made up of these trivial things, and this is the life of most ordinary people." I remember now!

@ 1 I heard that it can be renamed:

Think about it. When I grow up, my father often shares his unhappiness with me. I seldom tell them anything sad, because they are not around, so they can't put themselves in your shoes and give you proper advice. You don't have to complain, go home and have a good meal, feel their love, and you won't have any troubles. They are the strongest backing in any difficult period.

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Communicating with parents is not only for maintaining family ties, but also for exchanging information. It is more important to establish emotional channels and become close in emotional blending.

Growth itself is not easy, and there are fewer and fewer complaints in adult society. Why push away the eternal backing of parents?

For children, "reporting good news but not worrying" may be a kind of filial piety, but parents may feel that even complaining is a kind of communication. For most children, they may feel that "my parents don't understand me", but they rarely feel that "my parents don't love me". Love is the most important cornerstone of communication.

It's just that communication is two-way and needs positive feedback. Both children and parents should be more patient and affectionate in communication.

When parents no longer arbitrarily judge their children's situation and choices based on their own life experience (especially when today's social environment is very different from that of childhood), when children no longer rashly shut their parents out with "you just don't understand me" (most of the time, what they don't understand is this rapidly developing era), truly effective and loving communication can be better established.

This "night reading" is for all parents who want to communicate better with their children, and also for all children who want to communicate better with their parents.

Do you share the sadness in your life with your parents?

Producer Ma Ye

Editor-in-Chief Wang Ruolu

Editor Yang Yuting

Proofread Gao Shaozhuo