Why am I suddenly lonely when I learn that my ex-wife is engaged to someone else?

Generally speaking, a good marriage needs a solid foundation, that is, the unswerving love and responsibility of both parties, and they cannot relax. There is always a place in my heart, where there will never be outsiders, only belonging to the other half.

Therefore, the quality of marriage is related to people's character, people's experience, and couples' choice of the future. I have to say that many marriages seem similar, but in fact they are different.

Some couples can grow old together, and some couples are long dead. Some couples will never betray each other, and some couples have started a conspiracy with their lovers, trying to get rid of the burden of marriage and then fly together!

There used to be many men who thought that as long as they had money and loved their wives all the time, she would not divorce or cheat. There used to be many women who thought that as long as they took care of their families and dressed themselves well, their husbands would not betray themselves, let alone get divorced.

However, the reality of many extramarital affairs is extremely ironic. Many really good men have been abandoned by their wives, and many hard-working good women have been defeated by mistress! Many marriages and families that once seemed happy have collapsed in a hurry because of the appearance of a third party.

Marriages destroyed by extramarital affairs generally have one feature: couples often have no time to talk about their feelings seriously, and if they say goodbye, the marriage will be gone.

A sudden sense of frustration and a pale and powerless experience are the real loneliness.

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Everyone who has experienced it knows that nowadays, extramarital affairs are pervasive, and more and more people are derailed, which makes people unprepared. Many couples may encounter the test of extramarital affairs if they are not careful!

When marriage encounters extramarital affairs, when there is a third party between husband and wife, this marriage is bound to be full of entanglements. Because of the participation of a third party, the derailed party will deny all the good things in the past.

Maybe love used to be beautiful, but even the best love may not be able to heal the wounds of some emotional debts; Maybe marriage was once warm, but no matter how warm it is, it may make some people feel unforgettable in the dead of night.

As the saying goes, "everyone has his own taste", so people are different and marriage is bound to be different.

If we have to look for similarities from different marriages, then people who have experienced extramarital affairs must have the same profound experience. No matter who it is, as long as it is found that the lover is cheating, the pain and entanglement are usually similar. Many people can only endure the pain of extramarital affairs and can't say it. Once said, once made public, it is not pain, but a more heartfelt consciousness, but a doubt about marriage!

For many marriages and families, the influence of extramarital affairs on love and family is often fatal, which can easily lead to divorce! Unfortunately, the reason why most couples divorce today is precisely because of extramarital affairs!

Received a dictation from a male reader, and his dictation reflected the regret and loneliness of a cheater.

The following content is an extramarital affair case, which is an extramarital affair experience told by a derailed man. I have already replied to him.

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Mr. Li, 47, has two children, both of whom are old enough to get married. Because I have no money to pay the bride price to buy a house, I have been dumped by my wife. Once Mr. Li divorced because of cheating and remarried six months later. Now that I have remarried for a year and a half, my marriage is tangled, and my current wife is not a thing.

Li Sheng was originally a conscientious person. After 23 years of marriage, he has always loved his wife and family. Over the past 23 years, with the joint efforts of both husband and wife, Li Xian's family has a successful career, a happy marriage and a harmonious family.

Mr. Li himself can't believe that 23 years of marriage will be ruined by an extramarital affair. He can't even believe that the lover who swore to love himself for life, after marrying himself, went bankrupt and even cheated again.

Facts have proved that many extramarital affairs have one thing in common: once an honest person cheats, it is difficult to turn back unless he doesn't cheat. In the end, perhaps only deep remorse and loneliness remind him of the absurd things he has done.

Mr. Li said: It's too late to say anything now. I just want to talk. The Spring Festival is coming, and my ex-wife has found a suitable person and will marry someone else after the New Year. I know I can't turn back, I can only wish her well. I hope that man will love her and hurt her.

I used to be a very honest man. I had never been in love once before I married my wife (ex-wife). I have been married for more than 20 years and have never cheated once. It's not that I don't want to, but that I can't feel that kind of person, and I don't have the courage. Until three years ago, I met her (current wife), my marriage ended and my life became a tragedy.

Let's talk about the past My ex-wife and I used to love each other. I am her darling, and she is my darling. At that time, my ex-wife and I ran the biggest supermarket in town. I am a successful person in our village. Even many old people in the village gave me thumbs up and said I was the richest man.

I feel very happy and successful. But as I grew older, I lost interest in my wife and didn't want to touch her. I think she is old and boring. Although our feelings are still there, there is no passion after all. Every time she leans over, I want to refuse. For this reason, we quarreled many times.

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Mr. Li said: But I am a man after all. To tell the truth, men only have a little hobby. Who doesn't like young girls? I am no exception. If there is an opportunity, I won't refuse a young woman who comes to the door voluntarily.

But for the ex-wife, there is only affection. Even if she throws herself at me every day, I am not interested. After all, she is not beautiful and bloated.

My career has reached its peak. With the efforts of my ex-wife and I, all three small supermarkets in the town are mine. In the same year, I also opened a supermarket with the same name in several villages and a small hotel in the county.

In that year, there were more and more people who cooperated with me, my status was rising, and more and more people came here. I remember the manager of a food factory (biscuit factory) invited guests to dinner and found me a woman to pour me wine. I drank too much, so I stayed in a hotel with her and stayed with her.

It was the first time in my life that I cheated, and it felt good. To tell the truth, that kind of tension and happiness will never be forgotten that night.

She is only 29 years old, younger than her ex-wife 14 years old and younger than me 15 years old. To me, she looks like 18 years old, like an angel! She is more talkative and deceitful than her ex-wife. More importantly, she is so beautiful! Maybe I haven't experienced such a thing. She played me around. She told me that she had met me once, and I actually believed her.

In the following year, our relationship became closer. Every time I have dinner with a client, I take her. I take her with me at every commendation meeting. In many people's minds, she is my secretary, only a few people know that she is my lover, and only my manager knows that she gave birth to me once.

But this kind of thing is hard to hide and will be discovered one day. Two and a half years ago, my ex-wife discovered my abnormal relationship with her. She went to the woman and had a fierce argument with her. The two men tore at each other for a while.

I was struggling at the time. On the one hand, I am a hard-won good woman, and I can't bear to hurt her. On the one hand, the wife (ex-wife) who has lived with * * * for 23 years is even more reluctant to divorce. I don't know what to do, but I can only appease it on both sides.

I hate that I didn't separate from her at that time. I hate that I beat my ex-wife.

My mind was confused at that time. I thought I was a successful person and could enjoy a life that others could not. I told my ex-wife that I wouldn't divorce you, but you should stay out of my life, or I'll be rude.

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Mr. Li said: My ex-wife has a bigger temper than me. She quarreled with me all day, dying to live. To tell you the truth, I'm a little mainly. I've thought about all kinds of problems in marriage.

After thinking about it, I understand that I didn't intend to divorce at first, and I also thought about breaking up with my lover. But people in the business world gave me advice and changed my attitude. They say that a man with a woman outside is a sign of success, as long as he hides, but I believe it again.

After only half a year, my marriage was completely out of control. I don't know how many times I quarreled with my ex-wife. I don't know how many times I hit her. Now that I think about it, I'm not human at all. Two years ago, my ex-wife filed for divorce. If I had been more rational, maybe I could have saved it. But I didn't choose to be rational and agreed to divorce in a rage. I think I am a successful person and I am not afraid of divorce.

After learning that I was getting a divorce, my elderly parents-in-law came to kowtow to me. They begged me not to be as knowledgeable as my wife, so I coaxed them away. In this way, the first marriage failed, and only 600 thousand was given to the ex-wife when she divorced. Yes, the cost of my divorce is only 600 thousand If that's the case, I won't be so entangled at this time.

After divorcing my ex-wife, she (the current wife) began to live with me. I hope she will marry me. To coax her, I bought her an Audi. She said that her brother was not married, so I gave her 1 10,000 to help her brother (who had never met this person) buy a house.

Plus the bride price, I spent 6.5438+0.8 million back and forth, and I finally married her. On the wedding day, no one came to her family. I thought it was dramatic, so I believed her If things go like this, I'm still a successful person, but she makes me miserable.

In just one and a half years, she doesn't know where she spent my money. Today, this brother has a child, and tomorrow, that brother will get married. Her family seems to have happy events all day. I am not stupid. After quarreling with her several times, she knelt down and cried that she had lost all her money.

What do you think I married?

She not only squandered money, but also cheated. Two months ago, I found out she was having an affair. That man also blocked my car and said that I robbed his girlfriend to make my family unhappy.

I regret that before my ex-wife and I divorced, both my sons found girlfriends. Now it's time to get engaged, but the two sons fell in love at the same time and were dumped by others.

Is this karma? I really regret not buying a house for my son and leaving him a bride price.

Although I am a successful person, I know my weight. My total property is 4 million, and she lost nearly 3 million! Now the supermarket turnover is very difficult, my foreign debt has reached 2 million, and she still spends a lot of money. When I upset her, she said divorce.

How can I buy a house for my child?

Nowadays, young people like to buy things online. Not many people enter the supermarket, and my supermarket is closed. There are fewer and fewer people! The small hotel in the county town was also raided two months ago and almost caught me in.

Now, I really regret it. My ex-wife found a date online and heard that she would get married in a few years. What should I do? I want to save it, but I have no face and can only bless her.

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The above is teacher Li's dictation, which was sent in the form of recording. He wants to save his ex-wife.

That's not what he said, but he probably meant it.

In his own words, although he still holds the title of "successful man", he leads a lonely life. He is always on guard against his wife's infidelity and ex-boyfriend.

Such a life must be very tiring, not only lonely, but also worrying. In this state, when he learned that his ex-wife was about to get married, it was like meeting the last straw that overwhelmed the camel.

Maybe only he knows his helplessness and desolation, and maybe he really knows what it's like to be alone.

Generally speaking, a good marriage needs the persistence of husband and wife for a lifetime. If you give up halfway, the cost may be higher. So, please cherish your other half and cherish yourself.