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The connection between kindergarten and primary school has always been the focus of parents' attention. Many parents have doubts and anxieties: How much knowledge should their children prepare for primary school? It turns out that before the double reduction, public kindergartens had always had this phenomenon: in the next semester, some children from large classes would be lost to kindergarten-to-primary transition institutions for specialized transition from kindergarten to primary school. Because after the senior class, children have to go from "kiddies" who have basically no pressure to primary school students who bear more expectations from their families. Many parents are worried that their children do not have enough knowledge and will it be difficult to learn Pinyin? Will it be difficult to write? Can you listen carefully? Or I heard that the first grade lectures used to be very fast, and parents were worried that their children would not be able to keep up if they didn’t learn something in advance. They were worried that their children would not be able to adapt well to primary school life.

From the perspective of a primary school teacher, it is actually completely unnecessary to learn too much ahead of time. Especially now that with the double reduction policy, the state advocates a "zero starting point" for first-grade teaching, we must believe in the country's strength and determination in this double reduction. The most important thing in the first semester of primary school is the cultivation of children's study habits. For those children who study ahead of schedule, it will be easier for them to enter school initially. As time goes by, some of them will have a teacher giving lectures. They think it is so simple, and I can do it. They are "too lazy to learn" and think they know everything. If you are not serious in class, your biggest fear is to develop the habit of not listening carefully. In this way, you will easily fall off a cliff in the third grade, which is what everyone calls the "third grade phenomenon." It can be seen that the current problem in the connection between kindergarten and primary school is not "knowledge reserve". However, we cannot allow children to "run naked" into primary school completely unprepared. If they are completely unprepared, entering primary school for the first time will easily damage their self-confidence. . So, what is the most important task in the early childhood transition stage? In order to help children adapt to the new environment faster, how can we parents help the transition between young and primary school?

The transition from kindergarten to primary school is a smooth transitional educational process between kindergarten and primary school education. It is also a turning point in the growth process of children.

Due to the differences in education methods and living environment between kindergarten and primary school, children entering primary school for the first time will inevitably face many new problems and need to learn to adapt. If appropriate transition work is carried out between kindergarten and primary school, the adaptation process will be smoother, and the children's future learning, life, health, social interaction, etc. will also develop better.

What is the connection between childhood and childhood?

In the "Key Points of Educational Guidance for Children's Kindergarten Preparation" promulgated by the Ministry of Education last year, it was clearly pointed out that the main aspects are the following four major aspects:

First, physical and mental preparation. The second is life preparation. The third is social preparation. The fourth is study preparation.

Physical and mental preparation -

Understand primary school and gain positive emotional experience

Physical and mental preparation refers to what children need to do in terms of psychological and physical development. Be prepared accordingly,

01

Establish a yearning for primary school life

It is recommended that parents talk more about primary school with their children at home, such as Learn what life is like, how it is different from kindergarten, interesting stories about going to school when you were a child, etc. You can also let your children get in touch with primary school students around them to help them get a preliminary understanding and establish positive expectations for school. Parents, please be careful not to use negative words to scare your children (such as "Just go shopping, and let the teacher punish you after you go to school in a few days!"), which will make your children feel stressed and resistant to primary school life.

02

Improve emotional regulation ability

It is recommended that parents help their children gain positive emotional experiences and learn emotional management. In daily life, parents should pay attention to maintaining a good emotional state and a close and friendly parent-child relationship, so that their children can also be driven by positive emotions. In addition, to consciously cultivate children's ability to express and regulate emotions, you can use picture books, stories, conversations, etc. to guide children to understand and deal with their own feelings.

03

Be active in sports and improve movement coordination skills

It is recommended that parents encourage their children to actively participate in various forms of sports. The amount of exercise and the amount of exercise can be appropriately increased according to the child's individual situation. Exercise intensity, improve movement coordination and enhance physical fitness. In addition, pay attention to consciously exercising children's fine movements in daily life, participating in activities such as drawing, cutting, folding, tearing, sticking, spelling, etc., and using their hands more and thinking more.

Psychological preparation involves not only the psychology of the children, but also the psychological preparation of our parents themselves.

The first is trust and acceptance. To put it bluntly, it means not to pass on anxiety to the child, but to stimulate the child's inner drive.

Let’s look at a few scenarios that you are likely to encounter. Children, not everyone has strong ability to take care of themselves. What would you say if your child doesn’t know how to dress yet?

One way to say it is: "If you can't even put on trousers, and you enter elementary school without the help of a teacher, your classmates will laugh you to death!"

This is actually a typical example. Although the statement about conveying anxiety is true, it describes a future that cannot be verified immediately, and in this future it is still a very negative scenario: being laughed at by others. For a child's cognitive ability, he will not feel "I must learn to wear pants", but will feel "it is too scary to go to elementary school, I don't want to go".

So what should we say: "I believe that if you practice for a while, you will definitely be able to master the boss of wearing pants before entering elementary school." This statement is also describing the future, but it is a bright future The future is a positive scenario and gives him enough trust.

In addition, you should give him enough practice times. Don't help him dress every time you see that he is not well dressed. Let him slowly explore by himself. Similarly, when dressing, Buttoning buttons, zipping, tying shoelaces, using chopsticks, taking the initiative to go to the toilet, and taking the initiative to drink water. These things must be done by yourself when you enter elementary school. You need to give some practice space in advance, but don’t create anxiety, especially don’t put the parents’ inner anxiety is passed on to children.

Making mistakes and being careless

Some children must have taken many classes in advance, and must have encountered situations where they made mistakes or were careless. Even children who are not in class now will be admitted. This is basically the case in elementary schools as well.

Then we must first make it clear that the child definitely did not make the mistake intentionally. He thought he was right, but he didn't expect that he was wrong and was crossed. This is a negative experience. If they could avoid it, they would have avoided it long ago. No one wants the teacher to cross him.

So there is no need for us to continue to intensify this negative experience for our children, saying: "I have taught you for so long, but why are you still doing it wrong? What should I do if I can't keep up when I enter elementary school?"

This is actually projecting the parents' own inner anxieties, causing children to receive a double blow.

What can we say? "I made a mistake this time. Can you think of a way to avoid making the same mistake next time?"

We need to help children turn grief and anger into motivation and turn problems into opportunities. As the saying goes, as long as your thinking does not slip, there are always more solutions than difficulties.

Let’s look at another common example, lack of focus and inattentiveness in class.

This is also the inevitable path for most children to grow up, especially parents of boys, who should already have a deep understanding of it.

What we need to know is that the concentration time a child can achieve is a process that gradually increases with growth and development, and children with different personality characteristics will vary greatly, and children with different development rhythms will also differ. It will be huge.

One thing I want to emphasize is that even if a child’s concentration is weak, we should not label him with negative labels such as “poor concentration”, “naughty and restless”, or “can’t calm down”. Label. There is a term in psychology called "labeling effect", which means that when a person is labeled with a certain label, he will be more likely to manage himself according to the description of the label and make his behavior consistent with the label.

We still need to use positive incentives and say: "You persisted for 1 minute longer today than yesterday. I don't know if you can persist for 2 more minutes tomorrow." Tell your children not to use such negative thoughts. The effect of saying something is definitely not as positive as a positive request like you can try to sit up straight and listen. The final example concerns learning difficulties.

Although there will be no exams in the lower grades after the double reduction, parents will have less anxiety about rankings, but there will always be good and bad students in a class, and the children themselves can feel it.

If a child has continuous unsatisfactory results, he or she is experiencing learning difficulties.

At this time, it is very important to face this fact. Do not use excuses such as "carelessness" or "not serious" to fool your children, nor do you use classmates with good grades to compare with your children. For example: "Look at how awesome they are, why are you so stupid and don't understand such a simple thing?"

The reasons for learning difficulties may be various. Maybe the child got distracted somewhere. However, maybe the teacher didn’t explain it clearly and the child didn’t understand it. Maybe other students had learned it before so the teacher made a faster progress. Maybe the child didn’t know a certain pre-existing concept. These are all normal phenomena.

We parents must accept from the bottom of our hearts the fact that this matter is difficult for our children. Even if it is a very simple question that has been said many times, if we have not learned it, we have not learned it. Only when we accept what we have not learned can we move on, find the crux and solve the problem.

When talking to your children, never label them as "stupid" or label the problem as "simple". Instead, he said: "It seems that this is indeed difficult for you. Let's take it apart and see where it is stuck."

As I said before, children will not deliberately let themselves get bad grades. Results are the result, not the cause. We should not deny the children because of the results, but should find the reasons for poor performance and provide targeted support to the children.

Conversation games to prepare your mind and body.

What should I do if I want to use the toilet during class?

If you can still endure it for a while, take advantage of the teacher's break to raise your hands and shout, "Teacher, I need to go to the toilet!"

If you can't help it anymore, I shouted "Teacher, I need to go to the toilet!" and rushed out.

When you come back, bow to the teacher and return to your seat.

What should I do if I am late for school?

Sincerely apologize to the teacher: Teacher, I'm sorry, I'm late, I will work harder tomorrow.

What should you do if you are criticized by the teacher in class?

If it’s because of desertion, just say I’m sorry, teacher, I just got distracted, please forgive me. I will listen attentively next time.

If you can't answer the question, just say I'm sorry, teacher, I don't know this question. I think I can do this or that, but I can't do it.

What should I do if I get into trouble and cause damage?

Sincerely apologize and make serious compensation: I am really sorry, how can I compensate you? Is this okay?

What should I do if my classmates talk to me during class?

Tell him seriously: "Shh, listen to the teacher."

If you continue, ignore him and ignore him, and you will lose yourself.

If he hurts you or breaks your stuff, raise your hand and tell the teacher.

What should I do if there is too much food to eat?

Before eating: Teacher, I can’t eat so much, can you help me remove a little?

Leftovers: Teacher, I really can’t eat any more. Can I throw away the leftovers? Next time I will serve it a little less.

The teacher is not allowed to pour it: secretly pour it into the plastic bag prepared by your mother, put it in your schoolbag and bring it back.

Don’t laugh, everyone. The problem of not being able to eat has been bothering me until high school. I thought of many sneaky tricks because no one taught me to negotiate with the teacher. Children's brains are not fully developed yet, so they may get caught up in trivial things and develop strange behaviors.

As you can see, almost all of the examples I just gave are negative examples. Why should we discuss this with our children? It is to let them know that negative events can also be told to parents, and parents will help find solutions instead of just scolding them: Ah, why didn't you go to the toilet before class? Why don't you listen to the lecture and talk to your classmates instead? Why waste food?

Of course, if you really get into trouble, you still have to teach him a lesson, but it can’t just be a lesson, you also have to tell him the solution.

This kind of discussion does not need to cover all campus situations, nor can it cover all situations. It is mainly about establishing a mutually trusting parent-child relationship. And children should be allowed to use "there was a child", "I heard", etc. instead of themselves to describe the entire event. We adults also do this, "I have a friend who went through something." In fact, he is talking about himself, right?

Only when we build such a trusting relationship with our children can he be willing to confide in our parents when he really encounters something serious. Our children will not always be so silly and cute. They will grow up soon. By the time they reach junior high school, their ability to cause trouble has become stronger, and they are in the rebellious stage. It will be too late to build trust.

If a child doesn’t trust us, someone else will step in and become the person he trusts most. As for whether this person is a good or bad person, we don’t know.

Life preparation——

Exercise self-care and develop good living habits

Life preparation means that children need to make corresponding preparations in terms of daily life abilities

01

Develop healthy living habits

It is recommended that parents adjust their work and rest arrangements with their children’s kindergarten, remind their children to go to bed early, get up early, and enter the kindergarten on time; at the same time, they should lead by example, Influence your children with a regular schedule. At the same time, guide children to develop good hygiene habits in daily life, such as washing hands consciously, not reading, writing or drawing in an environment with too strong or too dark light, and not using computers, mobile phones and other electronic products continuously for more than 15 minutes. Pay attention to the use of Eye hygiene and more.

02

Improve self-care ability

It is recommended that parents guide their children to manage their personal lives and improve their self-service abilities. First of all, verbal prompts and other methods can be used to help children gradually learn to drink water and use the toilet according to their own needs, and add or remove clothing according to weather changes and activity needs. Secondly, provide children with dedicated personal belongings storage equipment or space, and guide them to sort and organize their own clothing, books, toys, school supplies, etc. Finally, guide children to gradually establish the concept of time. Parents can use a variety of methods to help their children perceive time in daily life and games (such as the "1-minute challenge" game, what can be done in 10 minutes, etc.), learn to work and rest on time, and be punctual without procrastination.

03

Enhance safety awareness

Strengthen children’s safety education through cartoons and picture books, and explain regulations on campus, community, traffic safety, etc. , Enhance children’s awareness and ability of self-protection.

04

Cultivate good labor habits

It is recommended that parents encourage their children to participate in housework within their capabilities, such as setting dishes, clearing the table after meals, washing Bowl, sweep the floor, throw away garbage, etc., and guide them to learn the correct method. Parents also need to set an example and divide the labor into doing housework well. At the same time, pay attention to guiding children to respect the workers around them in life and cherish the fruits of their labor.

Social preparation

01

Expand the scope of children’s interactions

Adults need to realize the importance of social interaction to children’s physical and mental development. Create conditions for children to support them in acquiring skills and learning to socialize. In daily life, parents can take their children out to play more or participate in community activities, interact with partners and adults of different ages, make new friends, and expand their social circle.

02

Develop a sense of rules and the quality of honesty and trustworthiness

Parents can develop some basic behavioral norms to cultivate their children's sense of rules, such as telling their children what to do when others are talking. Listen carefully at all times, do not interrupt at will, line up in order when going out, do not jump in line, etc. At the same time, we need to cultivate the quality of honesty and trustworthiness in our children. When they perform good deeds, we must promptly affirm them; if we find that our children are lying, we must patiently understand the reasons and provide positive guidance.

The habit of listening carefully to what others say.

Our domestic education is mainly based on classroom education, so the ability to listen to lectures is very important.

First of all, we do not interrupt the child when he is talking. Similarly, we also ask him not to interrupt the adults when they are talking.

Secondly, you can play role-playing games with your children. Let the children pretend to be the teacher giving lectures, and the adults will pretend to be the students who do not pay attention to the class. Do all the naughty things they have done to let them experience it. Teacher’s anger cultivates children’s empathy.

Another thing is to let the children learn to summarize and record what they hear, such as assigning homework, parents say it verbally, and let the children record by themselves. They can use numbers, drawings, stickers, marks, etc. Anyway, children The form you are good at, but you must listen and then memorize it yourself.

This is to lay the foundation for taking homework and notes after school.

03

Cultivate task awareness and task execution ability

Parents can consciously assign some small self-discipline tasks based on their children's age characteristics and actual life. For example, after getting up in the morning, let the children try to fold their own quilts, ask them to sort out their toys and items after playing, etc. It should be noted that during the process, you must be patient, pay attention to methods, use less reprimands, and support with encouragement, so that children can experience a sense of accomplishment and be more motivated to make progress.

04

Form a love for the collective emotion

Personal development is inseparable from the collective. When children enter primary school, they also need to work hard to integrate into the new class group. It is recommended that parents talk more with their children about kindergarten and classes to develop their initial sense of collective belonging.

Learning preparation——

Stimulate interest and improve comprehensive learning ability

Learning preparation means that children need to do well in cultivating learning interest and learning habits. Corresponding preparations mainly include protecting children's curiosity, prompting them to have a positive interest in learning, and reserve basic learning abilities.

01

Protect children’s curiosity

Being curious and asking questions is a very important learning quality. Parents should not be impatient for this. They should protect their children's curiosity, accept and encourage their observation, thinking and exploration of new things, respond to their questions in a timely manner, and provide their children with sufficient time and rich materials to support them. Continuously and deeply search for answers to your questions.

02

Maintain active learning motivation

In daily life, you may wish to provide children with more opportunities to contact society and nature, so that they can learn in real situations Cultivate the abilities of listening and speaking, reading and feedback, understanding and practice, such as: guiding children to make some pre-writing preparations, learning the composition of Chinese characters through talking, painting and drawing, or trying to use the mathematical methods they have learned Solve problems encountered in life, etc.

03

Reserve good learning qualities

Concentration, independent thinking ability and planning ability are also essential "learning abilities". In the second semester of senior classes, parents can consciously add some games and activities for their children that require concentration and persistence, such as playing puzzles, mazes, building block games, or reading, drawing, etc. In addition, provide children with ample opportunities to consider, discuss and organize their own opinions to support the development of their independent thinking abilities. At the same time, guide children to do things in a planned way and encourage them to make some activity plans of their own, such as trying to arrange weekend activities or schedules.

When developing the habit of completing some tasks independently every day,

The task content can be popular content that connects young children, such as reading, writing, spelling, oral arithmetic, recitation, problem solving, and playing the piano. , which ones to choose can be adjusted according to the child's abilities and interests.

The content is actually not important. What is important is the mode of "persistence every day" + "no one accompanying you" + "do it first and play later".

Persistence every day is a high-frequency training for the brain. Once a day for 5 minutes, it takes less time than once a week for 1 hour, but the effect is better.

Being unaccompanied is a training for self-control. You must develop the habit of completing tasks independently. Do not write a word and have your parents accompany you, remind you, and correct mistakes. , I still scolded him for deserting. This not only wastes parents' time, but also consumes the parent-child relationship, and the gain outweighs the loss.

The task can be very simple at the beginning and take only 5 minutes. However, these 5 minutes must be completed independently. When the time is up, the papers will be collected and corrected. It doesn't matter if you haven't finished it yet. You can continue to do it tomorrow. If you can't finish it, you can do it the day after tomorrow. But don't think about skipping these 5 minutes. Once you get used to it, you can gradually add more tasks.

Finally, do before you play, finish your homework early, and give your child the rest of the time to play what he wants. If you catch up on homework, you can save an extra 20 minutes, but if you procrastinate on homework, you will lose time for playing.

As front-line teachers, we find that in the eyes of many parents, the connection between kindergarten and primary school is only a connection in subject knowledge. Some parents may also pay attention to their children's study habits, but ignore their children's physical and mental adaptation, life adaptation and social adaptation. . Then we conduct long-term observation and study, closely combined with the "Guidance Points of Adaptive Education for Primary School Entrance", and believe that parents can guide and pay attention to these habits when transitioning from kindergarten to primary school.

Including letting children learn time management, self-management, learning to listen, developing reading habits, exercise habits, housework habits, etc.

Reading is an important source for children to have a rich spiritual life. I believe everyone is very clear about the benefits of reading. Our Chinese teachers will emphasize the importance of reading at every parent-teacher meeting. Now there is less "double reduction" homework, but parents must not relax their children's reading and ensure at least 30-60 minutes of reading time at home every day. There are two things that need to be accomplished in connection with reading from early childhood: one is to develop the right reading habits, and the other is to have a certain reading comprehension ability. In this way, after entering elementary school and continuing until about the third grade, reading comprehension and reading speed will be further improved.

Some people always have this confusion, what should I do if my child doesn’t like to read? In fact, the seeds of reading are sown in the family, and the cultivation of reading ability, reading interest, and reading habits starts from the family. Today I would like to share some suggestions with you, hoping to help children develop the habit of reading early. The first is the reading atmosphere in the family and the parents' example. If parents love reading, the family will definitely have a good reading atmosphere. This is the best way to guide children to fall in love with reading. Books suitable for children should be placed as close as possible to children, so that children can read them at any time. Then keep reading every day and ensure that there is a fixed reading time of half an hour to an hour every day for parent-child reading. You can also hold a small reading club at home and let your children read with their friends. Children will be very enthusiastic about reading together. Be sure to make reading a habit for your children.

What suggestions do you have for subject study?

The transition from kindergarten to primary school requires children to have a certain knowledge reserve. The knowledge reserve we are talking about is not to allow children to learn the knowledge in textbooks in advance. The knowledge reserve we are talking about is actually in line with the "knowledge reserve" required by the Ministry of Education. "Zero starting point" admission is not against the rules. We can sharpen children's ears during the critical period of language development and receive a large amount of English input to cultivate their sense of language, engage in mathematical thinking in real life, improve their oral expression skills through reading, and so on. So I would like to talk about a few issues that everyone is concerned about, focusing on Chinese. As far as Chinese language is concerned, we just said that the most important thing is reading. As the saying goes, reading not only broadens children's horizons, activates children's thinking, and enriches children's knowledge, it is also an important way for children to accumulate language and gain a sense of language. .

In addition to reading, many parents actually attach great importance to their children's literacy. So how should we guide our children in literacy? There is an interesting phenomenon in the matter of literacy. Children's sensitivity to Chinese characters is very different. One kind is just sitting back and enjoying the formation of Chinese characters, while the other type is the type that struggles with every word. How to say it? There are some children who, starting from the age of three or four, constantly ask, "Mom, what is this word, what is that word?" Through parent-child reading, they can recognize many words, and they can achieve independent reading before school. There is another way to wait and wait. Parents wait eagerly for the sensitive period of Chinese characters to arrive. Seeing that their children of the same age are very literate, they start to guide their children to recognize characters. Later, through various methods, they find that not only are their children not interested, , and literacy is particularly slow. Regarding attitudes toward literacy, I think there is no difference between children who are literate in first grade and those who only know a few simple words after middle grade. There will be some children in the lower grade classes who find it difficult to read, but in the middle and upper grades, literacy is very simple for the children. But in the first year of school, children who are more literate actually have an advantage. First of all, they can read the questions on their own, and their advantages in doing homework and understanding the meaning of the questions are very prominent. But in fact, our first grade students read questions for children. So my attitude is that there is no need to worry about literacy. On the basis of protecting children's interest in Chinese characters, they can learn as much literacy as possible. Literacy is best derived from reading and life. To learn literacy in daily life, you can communicate with your children on the street, on leaflets, manuals, billboards, bus stop signs, etc., what word is this and what word is that. Cultivating children's interest in Chinese characters will gradually accumulate a lot. In short, literacy matters vary from person to person. After all, each family has different educational concepts and children have different sensitivities to Chinese characters. However, what I want to tell you is that you must not force your children to destroy their interest in literacy. , and don’t be too anxious. After all, as children grow older, literacy will definitely be solved, and the amount of literacy will not cause differences in the children’s future.

The most important thing when connecting young children to primary school is not to overdraw children’s interest in learning.

We must protect children's motivation to learn, and never become "tired of learning" before they go to school. From now on, we can consider creating a study corner, a desk and a chair for our children to help them create a "prepared environment." Let the child's reading and drawing gradually transition from lying on the ground, standing and twisting to being able to sit down on the desk. Gradually extend the "study" time in stages, from 10 minutes to 20 minutes, and slowly adapt. Let children learn time management and self-management, and develop the habit of listening, reading, exercising and doing housework. Let children learn to think independently, interact with others, and develop their sense of responsibility through these habits. I believe that with the company and attention of parents, children will successfully complete the transition from kindergarten to primary school and become confident and happy primary school students as soon as possible!