People who don't like visiting other people's homes and hate others coming to their own homes are mostly caused by these four kinds of psychology-

Writer Jiang Yang wrote in the book Invisibility:

In real life, visiting relatives and friends between people is another scene;

There is no way to be "invisible", and there is no way to come and go freely, all by mood;

As the saying goes: practice should not be excessive.

Therefore, adults must abide by the appropriate "hidden rules" in social interaction.

In the past, when the pace of life was not too fast, everyone liked to visit relatives, friends and classmates, get together for dinner and drinking, and contact feelings. It's very comfortable and relaxing.

Now some people don't like going to other people's homes and hate others coming to their own homes. Most of them are these four kinds of psychology.

My classmate Xinxin, Bao Ma, worked at home for a while.

By chance, I met a fellow villager living in a community in the ordering group;

Villagers have no jobs, but they take care of their children and do housework on weekdays;

Who knows, the two chatted on WeChat, and the fellow villagers proposed to come to Xinxin's home several times;

Xinxin refuses decisively every time, on the grounds that she is busy around work and children every day. If she works well together and goes out to play on weekends, it is estimated that she is also exhausted.

Even though we have never met, we are eager to visit each other. For Yan Yan, it is very abrupt and difficult to understand and accept.

In life, some people like quiet, some people like lively, no one is right or wrong, just different personalities;

However, it will be uncomfortable for two kinds of people to play together, because the rhythm is completely inconsistent, especially when the relationship is not in place.

Those who can enter the house and visit us are usually based on mutual understanding and a certain understanding.

Enthusiastic people should deal with all kinds of etiquette trifles against their will, pretend to be enthusiastic about finding a topic, and cooperate with each other to laugh and fight. For quiet and busy people, it is really a challenge and suffering.

Instead of this, it is better not to go to other people's homes and let others worry about their own homes.

There is an observation program in Japan, "Can I go to your home", which records the real side of ordinary people who are really moved by the thick external wall;

After all, the residence is the truest portrayal of a person, and your daily necessities and home furnishings can "expose" your values and habits at any time;

Some people attach great importance to privacy and don't want to expose themselves too much, so they choose this way, neither visiting others' homes nor inviting others to their own homes;

Respect each other and do not interfere with each other.

As the saying goes: people live a face, trees live a skin.

For some people with strong self-esteem, they usually create a "personal design" for themselves, which is infinite in scenery and gentle and calm in front of outsiders, but in reality, their life is likely to be "broken", at least far worse than before.

They don't want to break this harmless disguise and feel embarrassed, so they choose this "cold" way to deal with people.

When others come to our home, we should smile and even support our tired bodies. After running, we were afraid that others would blame us for neglecting them, leaving a bad "excuse".

My classmate Bao told me that she had a big fight with her husband.

The reason is that my husband entertained several colleagues and had dinner at home;

Since the morning, the baby has been fidgeting, not only thinking about cooking a few decent dishes, but also cleaning up the house that has not been cleaned for a week;

A ready-made husband can't count on it, and he has to solve it himself. If there is fire in your heart, you have to hold it down in front of outsiders.

It can be said that the dinner ended in pushing a cup for a change, and then she was accused by her husband that he hated her for making the kitchen smoky.

The baby replied that if you can, don't have a big feast at home. You should eat out before I get involved. I can't do what I want to do, and the whole day is wasted.

Interpersonal communication, especially visiting and entertaining others for dinner, is a very troublesome thing.

You can't get used to other people's habits, but you can't say it. Speaking out will destroy the relationship and turn the original friendly friendship into resentment and indifference.

For example, some people like smoking, but you hate the smell of smoke, but you can't say it to your mouth;

Someone puts a small video outside, and you always hate noise, but you have to hold back your anger;

Some people are "informal". When they go to other people's homes, they go to bed. You can't be angry if you don't like it.

Therefore, try not to go to other people's homes to "trouble" others, and it is best not to let others "trouble" yourself.

If you don't go to other people's homes and don't let others come to your own, you will have many similar troubles.

Without contrast, there is no harm.

Some people are indifferent to fame and fortune, and they see through the troubles in the world. They just want to be alone and find what they want to do in the long silence.

They don't participate in lively interpersonal communication, because they think those are superficial, hypocritical and fragile;

Once it looks prosperous and enthusiastic and touches the reality, it is easy to get into a mess. Instead of this, it is better to be at ease.

When people reach a certain level, they don't need to rely on "reluctant" interpersonal communication to support their lives. Everybody's fine.

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