After working for 7 years, I understand these principles

Introduction: In the past seven years, I have gained a lot and lost a lot. I have gradually transformed from a yellow-haired girl into a working woman. Here I would like to talk about some of the things I have learned in these seven years. That makes sense.

1. Emotional intelligence should be higher than IQ.

There are many smart and talented people in the workplace. They can do one thing much better than the average person. However, those who finally reach the leadership are not necessarily those talented people, but Those who behave averagely on weekdays. Why? There is a saying that goes like this: A person with talent and temperament will not appreciate his talent, but a person without talent and temperament will be helped by others. This is enough to show that many times what we are fighting for is not IQ, but emotional intelligence. Those who are arrogant about their talents cannot be controlled by leaders and are often unpopular. On the contrary, in the workplace, people with good temperaments may lack talents, but they have a good reputation, which is very conducive to the development of future work. In fact, sometimes when people reach a certain platform, they will naturally do the work of that platform. If they are talented and have no temper, then their career will really go smoothly.

2. Teamwork is very important.

The progress of a project requires the overall advancement of a team. We often break down the project in detail and assign responsibilities to each person. If one person in the team does not have collective consciousness, it will either mess up the project or aggravate the problems in the team. Other people’s burdens. In my team, everyone is an expert in their own field, and the division of labor is also very clear. When a project comes, they immediately take responsibility for themselves and do not cause trouble to other colleagues even if they work overtime. It is with this knowledge that Everyone is more willing to help each other when something happens. After the other party handles the emergency, they will immediately enter the project and take responsibility. They will never take their own responsibility just because they suddenly have to deal with an emergency. Let the rest of the team take on the responsibility. With team awareness, projects can be completed in time, and the entire working atmosphere becomes extremely harmonious.

3. Today’s work should be completed today and done immediately.

At work, I met two leaders one after another. They had two good habits in doing things. One was to finish the work on the same day even if they worked overtime until the early morning, and never postponed the work until the next working day; The second is to do it immediately, arrange the tasks received as soon as possible, and start the work at hand as soon as possible. Because of this, they have made some achievements in their positions and created a good team. With such good habits, the modern disease of procrastination can be cured in minutes. The good habits of these two leaders have influenced our entire team, and I have also benefited a lot. Now I have developed the habit of doing it immediately as soon as I receive the task. If I don’t finish it immediately, I will keep thinking about it until the task is completed. habits. These two habits are my biggest gains in the workplace so far.

4. Never stop learning.

There was a long time when I was immersed in stability and beauty, and stopped studying. As a result, my life did not move forward according to my established trajectory, but made a big joke to myself. Only through this joke did I realize how stupid it is to stop learning and lose yourself. Not only did you lose all the so-called stability and beauty, but you also lost many good opportunities for growth. The lessons life has taught me have made me regard continuous growth as my core value. I vowed never to stop learning, not for fame or gain, just so that I can be worthy of the suffering I have suffered and deserve to be in this world.

5. If you want others to help you, you must first help yourself.

In the workplace, everyone hopes to be helped by noble people, but you must know that if you do not reach out to that noble person, or your stretched hand is not long enough for others to hold you, then even if others are willing to help you, they will not be able to help you. . When you want others to help you, you must first learn to help yourself, let your hand stretch out, and stretch it to a place where others can reach it. For example, during onboarding, if you want to be appreciated by the leader, you need to at least pass the entrance exam so that the leader has a chance to see you. Otherwise, you can get high scores in the interview with your sharp tongue. You have no chance. If you pass the exam, you won't be able to use this skill, and your leadership won't be able to help you. You have to prepare well for the exam and stand in front of the leader with excellent results. It will be a matter of course for him to help you.

6. Nothing is impossible.

At work, we often encounter situations where results are about to come out and we have to start work in the middle of the night after receiving orders. Although I am often extremely nervous due to tight schedules and heavy tasks, I always tell myself to stick to these few tasks. Hours or days will pass in no time. I have also encountered things in my life that made people collapse to the point where they could not control themselves. Fortunately, I never gave up on myself. I gritted my teeth and carried it through. All these stressful and crushing things seem calm in hindsight, and they all prove that nothing in this world is impossible.

7. Watch your mouth.

I once gossiped with my office colleagues about the new leader’s past, and the result was spread to the leader’s ears, which earned me a reputation as a talkative person. But I usually don't like gossiping, but this time I made a mistake and was tricked by my colleagues. In order to take my face into consideration, the new leader did not scold me. Instead, his driver made a long phone call to me as a friend and asked me to pay attention in the future. I blamed myself very much at that time. As a person around the leader, the most important thing is to keep your mouth shut. If you can't do this, you will never gain the trust of the leader in the future. That time was a very profound lesson for me in the workplace. From then on, I treated gossip with caution, did my job with peace of mind, and never gossiped again.

8. Punctuality is very important.

When I was in school, I was the first person to enter the school. Now that I’m working, this habit has always been there. But this habit is very detrimental to doing a good job and leaving a good impression on others. Being late is very taboo in the workplace. Although I am not late, I often rush to arrive nervously and have to spend a little time after arriving. If you adjust yourself in time, the result will be no different from those who are late. Punctuality is not only about arriving on time, but also about arriving a little earlier. Arriving early will not only make people think that you are a person who takes things very seriously, but also that you are a person of integrity. Arriving early can help you adjust your state in advance and prepare for work, whether it is for the next meeting with customers or to complete the tasks assigned by the leader, there is no harm in it.

9. You teach others how to treat you.

At work, you often reject other people’s requests because you may have something to do, but the next time you need help from others, they will reject you too, because you have taught them How to you. There is another situation where you help others all the time, even when you have not done your own thing well, and you act when others call you. As a result, when you ask others to help you, others may not help you because of your kindness. Others take it for granted. You use your image of a good gentleman to teach others that they can ignore you. So how to do it? In fact, whether you reject others or help others, if you stick to your own principles and learn to speak tactfully, this situation will not happen. After all, everyone is doing it for work and standing on the progress of the entire work. Say, most people will understand.

There is another thing I have to say here: if you want others to think highly of you, you must first think highly of yourself. Because you teach others how to treat you. Only when you think highly of yourself can others think highly of you. Neither arrogant nor humble, it is important to remember this.

10. It’s better to have fewer friends than too many.

When making friends, you cannot blindly sacrifice your own principles to cater to others, nor can you treat others with a cold face and reject them thousands of miles away. It is very important to identify friends. If you want to continue to grow in the workplace, you need to make friends with outstanding people and constantly learn from their strengths. For those villains who add insult to injury and stab you in the back, you must stay away from them as soon as possible. If you are a black person, you would rather have no friends for the time being than sacrifice your own values ??to cater to them.

11. Stay kind.

Those who are kind-hearted will have good luck in the end. This is something I have always firmly believed. In the workplace, you are often faced with various intrigues. If you are not careful, your kindness may be taken advantage of, and you may even fall into some passive situations. Because of this, we are often afraid to do good. In fact, there is more than just interests between contacts. What a harmonious workplace requires is complete goodwill.

When you truly show kindness to others, you can still receive a response from them. During my few years in the workplace, I have experienced a lot of being taken advantage of by others, and I have received help from a lot of people because of my kindness. Looking back, I found that the help I received was far greater than the use I received. From a probability perspective, Kindness wins. Kindness is currently one of my core values. I want to feel happy because I do good deeds, and I want to see the good fruits I plant from my good thoughts.

12. No one wants to see your inner ability through your sloppy appearance.

This was what Yang Lan once said to women in the workplace. I very much agree with it. A clean and tidy appearance and decent attire are not only responsible for oneself, but also respectful to others. Everyone pays attention to the first impression when looking at others. The success or failure of something is sometimes very directly related to the first impression. Think about our job interviews, negotiations with partners and other occasions, we all have to pay attention to the dress. With an external foundation of respect, the next performance may proceed more smoothly. Therefore, do not ignore this in the workplace.

13. Be an interesting person.

This is also something I feel deeply about. In the first few years of my career, I gave up my hobbies and even went to many gatherings with friends for the sake of work. This resulted in me becoming a boring person among my friends who only knew how to work. On a night when I didn't have to work overtime or have a party, I found that besides surfing the Internet, I couldn't find anything else to do. It was really boring to the extreme. That day I began to reflect on myself, after working for so many years, what my work, study, life, and family were like. After some analysis, I found that my life was so monotonous and the imbalance was so serious. I began to look for my own hobbies, adjusted my focus, and allocated a large chunk of my working time to cultivate hobbies, spend time with family and friends, and exercise. Once my life became richer, the world I saw became more beautiful. .

14. Don’t lower your taste in life.

In the past, the focus of life was on work and others. When I was busy with work, I would eat and dress hastily, without the concept of taste. Later, in order to cater to others, he continued to lower his living standards, and sometimes he even wronged himself. After going through some things, I discovered that my focus was in the wrong place. Only by getting better can I get good results. I started to focus on myself. Pay attention to maintenance, improve your dressing sense, have your own principles, and no longer wrong yourself for others. Gradually, you will find that you have not lost the trust of your leaders and colleagues. On the contrary, everyone is more and more sure of you. In the workplace, don't think that lowering your taste in life can gain recognition from others. That kind of sacrifice will get you sympathy, not recognition.

15. Be able to endure loneliness.

Being alone with yourself is an ability. In this impetuous modern society, many people are unable to calm down and be alone with themselves. They must call friends every day for fear that they will lose their life in loneliness. Looking at those who have achieved something, they all achieved their careers by enduring loneliness. It is impossible to think seriously in an impetuous environment. Without thinking and introspection, people will not grow. Solitude is an important skill in the workplace.