The daughter replied to her mother: it is better not to be born if you don't raise it. I have no obligation to raise my brother. Do you think this is right?

Parents are not only the givers of life, but also the guides of children's growth. Parents play an indelible role in children's growth.

From the moment a child is born, parents shoulder a great mission.

With the opening of the second child policy, many people still choose to have another child after their forties and fifties. In their view, having more children is a symbol of family prosperity.

Therefore, many people have stepped into the ranks of "elderly women". Although their first child is very old and some people are married, they still insist on having a second child.

They don't worry about how much trouble this will bring, but only satisfy their own desires. In my opinion, this behavior is extremely selfish and irresponsible. It is better to be born without raising them. Since their parents gave birth to them, they should do their duty as parents.

No matter economically or spiritually, since I have no ability, I might as well choose not to have children. Family environment sometimes affects their lives.

Some parents even brazenly said, let the boss raise younger brothers and sisters. In fact, if you think about it, you just want another child, so that your other child can undertake such a mission at a young age.

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Some people even hanged themselves after being rejected, which left their children cornered.

One of my classmates, Xiao Min, suddenly became pregnant when she was twenty, and later gave birth to a little brother. Xiao Min's mother has always wanted a son, and now it can be regarded as the realization of her mother's wish for many years.

Xiao Min's family is not rich. His father is an ordinary worker and his mother is a housewife. In recent years, their lives have been quite tight.

Xiao Min and her brother are 20 years apart. When her mother was pregnant, she was actually very supportive. On the one hand, she is thinking about her mother's health. On the other hand, she feels that with the current economic situation at home, she can't afford to raise another child at all. Xiao Min also advised her mother at that time, but her mother just wouldn't listen, and even thought that Xiao Min was jealous of this younger brother.

After the baby was born, the problem came. Xiao Min's mothers don't have breast milk, so they have to buy several hundred pieces of milk powder to feed their children, and the monthly expenses are several thousand pieces.

After giving birth to the baby, Xiao Min obviously felt that her mother was willing but unable. She just cried after holding the baby in her arms for a while, and Xiao Min sometimes helped her mother coax her.

This little brother grows up slowly, and sometimes the family takes the children out. People say this is Xiao Min's child.

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Later, when Xiao Min was working, she had little time to help her mother take care of her brother. Her mother is sometimes too busy to be alone, and she often complains that no one is with her to take care of the children.

Since having this son, Xiao Min's mother has been indifferent to Xiao Min. In the past, her mother always called to ask about Xiao Min's living conditions.

Because the family expenses are too high, my mother often asks Xiao Min for living expenses, saying that she is buying milk powder for her brother. Xiao Min also sends money home on time every month.

Once, when Xiao Min came home, her mother suddenly said to her, "Daughter, now that you are working, you have the ability to make money. There is a difference of 20 years between you and your brother. In the future, you will be responsible for raising your brother, sending him to school and preparing things for his future marriage. Your father and I have no energy, and our economic conditions don't allow it. As a sister, it is natural for you to raise your brother. "

Xiao Min was shocked. She never thought that her mother would say such a thing. Although I usually take care of this younger brother, I haven't reached this parenting stage yet.

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Mandy refused directly. I didn't expect her mother to criticize her. "When you grow up, your wings are hard. We will give you food and shelter and let you go to school. Now that you have the ability to let you raise your brother, you refused at once. Why don't you know how to repay kindness? If you don't raise it, then you are not my daughter. "

Xiaomin is also full of grievances. "I'm just his sister and have no obligation to raise him. Besides, I didn't let you have it, you insisted on it. Now you want to push this burden away.

Have you ever thought about his feelings? When you and your sister grew up together, the biggest mistake of parents was to be born without raising them. You just brought him into this world, but you didn't do your duty as a mother. You should have thought it over when you decided to have him.

Anyway, I won't help you. I must get married. Besides, no man wants to accept his girlfriend and live with a brother-in-law who hasn't grown up yet. It's up to you. "

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In fact, when Xiao Min's mother made this request, she didn't think about the future of Xiao Min at all. If Xiao Min accepts this request, it means that Xiao Min will be his lifelong helper.

From the child's point of view, it is obvious that both parents are good, but they were brought up by their sisters since childhood. Children need the love of their parents, who play an important role in their growth.

Since parents have decided to have this child, they should not give this burden to another child, who is also a child.

Therefore, before you decide to have this child, you should think about whether you have the ability to give the child a sound love. It is better not to be born than to be born without raising. If you only know how to satisfy your own wishes, it would be selfish. Deprived of a child's freedom of life, but also deprived of the love that another child should enjoy.