After the younger brother is born, how to deal with the elder brother's emotions?

My brother has just been born. My brother is three years older than my brother. At night, my brother cried and let his parents sleep in the living room and bed ... I asked my eldest son: Don't you like my brother? The eldest son cried and said, I don't like it. In short, I am a little at a loss ... many parents who have just given birth to a second child should have faced this problem. # Love is a verb #

My partner and I got married late. When my brother was born, I was 30 years old and my wife was 28 years old. As you can imagine, my eldest son has been fully loved by his parents in these three years. After my brother was born, most of my mother's energy was on how to take good care of my brother. My brother felt this change and began to feel emotional. At first, my wife and I expected to face this problem and made some preparations, such as: widening the bed in advance, and not letting my brother and the old man sleep in the same room at this time; During pregnancy, I often let my brother touch my mother's stomach and let him play with his brother. Even during hospitalization and after school, I will take my brother to the hospital to show him his newborn brother. In order to take care of the boss's mood, let the younger brother accept the younger brother as soon as possible. However, my brother is still in a bad mood, so we have done some further work. At present, the result is good.

First, try not to change my brother's original living habits. Especially don't let your brother do what he could have done before he was born in order to take care of him. For example, my brother has the habit of jumping on the bed for a while before going to bed, and then listening to his mother tell stories. My brother is very young, so it's a little dangerous for him to jump on the bed. However, we didn't stop him completely. We let him go crazy in bed for a while while while ensuring safety. Of course, at this moment, it may be that I have been adjusting my brother's range of activities, pulling for a while, pulling for a while ... Then my brother got tired of playing, and my mother told him a story before putting him to sleep. For another example, my brother likes his mother to sleep, and he is used to being dressed by his mother in the morning. These are the habits that we adults develop for our children, and we adults should solve them. Parents must be "patient" in dealing with this problem.

Second, try not to tell your brother the truth of adults. The eldest son has never weaned milk powder, and now he drinks 4-stage milk powder for 3-7 years old, and the youngest son drinks 0-6 months 1 stage milk powder. My brother insisted on drinking my brother's milk powder. I didn't tell my eldest son that you are four years old and want to drink four periods of milk powder, because I know that even so, my eldest son will definitely say that I want to drink this. In fact, it is not a matter of principle for children over 3 years old to drink 1 milk powder. He can drink it if he wants. It's not a matter of principle. There's no need to be serious with children. When the younger brother was born, relatives and friends bought a grinding stick for the younger son, and the younger brother wanted to play with his toys. We don't need to tell my brother that this is a grinding stick. We can't play when we grow up. In the final analysis, as long as it is not a matter of principle, three or four-year-old children should not be prevented from having ideas. Have a full "inclusive" attitude towards children to avoid causing children's rebellious psychology.

Third, let the younger brother interact with the younger brother. Mother and brother are in the room, my eldest son and I are playing in the living room, and my brother is crying. At this time, I said to my eldest son, you go, let's go and see if my brother has peed, and we will change his diaper together. When the elder brother and younger brother are in bed, they often let the eldest son hold the younger brother's hand and tell the eldest son, you see that the younger brother's hand is so small and yours is so big, will you protect the younger brother? After a long time, my brother will also say, Dad, my brother looks at me and smiles. I want to play with my toys for him. This process is actually to let the elder brother interact with the younger brother constantly, let the elder brother accept the existence of the younger brother psychologically, and gradually cultivate the understanding that the elder brother needs to take care of the younger brother in the interaction. Simply tell your brother that you are older than your brother and you should take care of him. This kind of didactic guidance is not easy to accept.

Above, only from the life of 10 days, I summed up some small experiences and shared them with my friends.