Relax, okay? Think of it as roaming the earth.

One winter in Jinan, a bar in Kuanhouli was the place where I stayed the longest and the only place where I could calm down.

I've been there many times, but actually it seems to be only four or five or six times. From the beginning, a few people drank a few bottles of wine, and at the end, each person drank a few bottles of wine. There are many people in the bar who are going to be cured, and I am one of them. We have all been cured by strangers for a short time, listening to many people's stories, strangers, chatting, listening, and then turning around for a moment to become a secret ...... < P > Until one time, I heard that a singer was in the bar, and he was also a famous folk singer. I bought a high-speed train to listen to a song and ran there.

on that day, the bar was full. Squeeze in? Not too happy. Having social fears but unwilling to leave, I got up the courage and had the nerve to sit in the singer's lounge and meet my current friends.

I remember he said, "Everyone has the right to choose a journey for himself. Some people choose to wait and some choose to look for it."

I think he is the one who went to find his dream. That night, he didn't play. Hearing the reason why I came, he picked up his guitar and sang a song that I came to listen to not far from Wan Li.

I'm not leaving until he stops. One song at a time, immersed in it.

He said, "What other songs do you want to hear?"

I said, "go to dali."

Later, before I knew it, it was just after 2 o'clock. He put down his guitar and started chatting with me. He said a lot of things, like talking to me and talking to himself. I only remember that it was about philosophy, life and many aspects, which sounded particularly profound. He said that love is philosophy, and so is life, not simply talking about it.

He said, "Do what you want to do and write songs you want to write. Because only then will we take it to heart. " I know that we are people of the same world, and we are all trying to pursue what we want, but it is refuted by the world.

We left each other a phone number and added WeChat. I just thought it was an inexplicable encounter and didn't care.

Later, I went to Jinan. The city is still the same, and the bar is still the same. It seems that everything has not changed, but it seems that everything has changed. He left, went to other bars, and may have gone to "Wandering around the world".

I ordered Fujiabai, sat in the corner of the bar, took a book from the bookshelf, and there were many urine notes in it. Coincidentally, I flipped through it and saw the message I had written: Time will take away all emotions, and only happiness is worth remembering.

The difference is that he added a sentence below: Come on, thanks!

I was kind of snooped on a little secret, so I clicked on WeChat to contact him.

After a while, the staff in the bar gave me a glass of Corona, saying that it was from him. Our friendship has been going on for almost three years since that glass of wine.

I have talked to many people about a question, is there a real friendship between men and women? My answer is no.

actually, there is. I didn't have the nerve to say: for example, an ugly guy like me reasonably turned the opposite sex around him into a buddy.

He was forced to cancel his tour today because of the epidemic. At that time, he sent a WeChat saying: After the Lao Xie epidemic, we will not get drunk.

In a year or so, we searched for city venues together, and contacted many friends, Shijiazhuang, Taiyuan, Tianjin and Jinan ... The epidemic made us agree to go together, so we parted. He was sad, I was sad, and many friends were sad.

we all know that we often don't realize the existence of impermanence until we have to suffer sudden changes.

Money must have gone and never returned. He said that this is not important. If money is gone, you can earn it again. It is terrible that the sail of dreams is blown down as soon as it is raised. What should we do?

As someone said in a book I read today, I am often broke, and I am too lazy to announce it. My life is like being raped. If I really can't resist it, enjoy it.

he is not broke, and he still has a dollar in his pocket. His mentality is really like this.

It's just that he said it seems that we left something behind this spring, and I have been looking for it for a long time. It seems to be an obsession with perfection, success and dreams. He said that he often wondered whether being an ordinary person would be a unified template.

I will also think: will I become a salted fish that will never turn over? Will you be burdened with the dream of buying a house and a car all day, cursing the dog blood of life, swearing at your mother and saying that the world of adults does not deserve dreams? Will you lose the ability to like books? Will you vilify a movie or TV series because you no longer believe in love?

fortunately, we are all slowly escaping from that cage.

I remember the last time we chatted, he said: I was lost in the world, and I once doubted that a person was ordinary, and I hated life and was helpless. I once sighed, what is the significance of such a quiet and indifferent life?

the reason why I didn't understand at that time was that I was deeply troubled and couldn't get out. Later, I thought deeply, who is not an ordinary person? As a saying goes: if you were born without light, but you have the courage to move on without regret and start all over again, why are you afraid of being born and ordinary?

So I hope your future will be dull and free. Before you falter, before your life is barren and your heart cools down, you know that you have no regrets in this life. So, relax, just like roaming the earth. The road is over there. Just go.