Why are stay-at-home mothers getting more and more depressed now?

Physical exhaustion, mental exhaustion, shrinking social circle and gossiping in-laws are not as good as her husband's words. It's just a word that sleeping with children at night completely crushes your spirit. It seems that depression broke out from this small mouth! I have a deep understanding of myself!

First of all, I am also a full-time nanny, so I will analyze it from my own point of view.

1. Mothers got pregnant and gave birth in 10. I experienced morning sickness in the first trimester, and I will never forget the smell of spitting bile. Leg cramp, leg edema, fetal movement, rib pain in the third trimester, and it is not square to walk with a big belly every day. The pain of childbirth is like walking back from the gate of hell.

2. The burden of raising children. After the baby was born, Ma Bao began to play the role of full-time nanny. Feeding in the month, changing excrement and urine, and enduring the pain of rising milk. Especially if the baby stays up all night and the mother stays up all night, isn't it very hard?

3. It is easier to take care of the child when he is older, but he should play with him and cultivate his abilities in all aspects. Children can walk around one year old and are curious about everything. At home, Ma Bao must wash clothes, cook, do housework and tidy up the children. There are endless things to do every day.

3. The above points lead to life fatigue, increased pressure and physical and mental exhaustion in Ma Bao. Husband can understand, sharing is nothing, and there is nowhere to tell the incomprehensible grievances. Precious mother used to have a job and a stable source of income. After having children, they have to ask their husbands for money to be outreach parties. They lost their social life and freedom. After a long time, they are tired of taking care of their children, derailed from society, and become more and more lonely and depressed. Women nowadays are very independent. They have careers and dreams. Because I became a mother, I gave up my career and dream, returned to my family and became a full-time nanny. At the same time, I didn't get the understanding and recognition of my husband. After a long time, can I not be depressed?

Who doesn't love beauty? Who is not the treasure of parents? For love, he and I formed a family. After the passion after marriage, the rest are family matters, with the help of both parents and certain economic conditions. Nature is smooth as a mirror and peaceful!

When a woman is pregnant and gives birth to a child, both parents can't help her, and she and he have to help their parents and brothers and sisters, so conflicts naturally arise. Nobody takes care of the children. It must be a woman who resigned, and a man worked hard in the workplace. What I want to go home is a gentle explanation, soft fragrance, and warm jade. Women, on the other hand, are slovenly for a long time, have a loud voice, and take care of their children instead of their husbands. Naturally, there are those who don't like pillows, don't care about love, and only have cold violence or vulgar abuse. Who can understand the suffering of stay-at-home mothers?

Women love dressing up, shopping and buying clothes. But as a stay-at-home mom, how many can do it! Special children before the age of five. Wake up every day, there are a lot of pots and pans, and I can't wait to divide the money in my hand. How can we make children eat well and wear warm clothes? He eats after work, and Ma Bao is thinking about these things, so she has no time to take care of herself. He saw the paperback. Nature has no good face!

Ma Bao lives everywhere! Without a place to talk to, without his concern, life is very tired, and if you can't go on, you will naturally get sick.

Love yourself, no one can help you, for the children! For ourselves, everyone should live healthily and happily, have something to say and treat diseases. I can talk here! [Pray] [Pray] [Pray]

Everyone is a social person, and no one communicates at home full time. After a long time, they are particularly prone to depression. My husband knows a lot, but he doesn't. If the child is sick, complain that you didn't take it well, complain that you are not good at study, and take care of the child at home without doing anything. My parents-in-law think it is a blessing to marry you home, so they take a child and do nothing. In their eyes, you are the happiest person in the world. The problem is that no one talks at home all day. Men don't want to bring their wives to the party, and they can't get in a word and don't understand you. In fact, if we can build a group of full-time mothers to go out together, as in foreign countries, it would be much better to have someone to chat with.

Stay-at-home mothers take care of their children at home and have little contact with the outside world. Every day, they wander around the living room and kitchen. Sometimes children are very noisy, which makes them feel very tired, and no one complains that they have no income, so they are a little stressed. After all, the present society is too complicated, and it is necessary to consider whether it is safe to ask for money. A clever woman knows who to rely on better than herself. Therefore, the tangled heart is prone to depression after a long time. In contrast, those heartless women live well. Because they don't think too much. I just belong to the kind of character that I am afraid of wolves before and tigers after, so I am often depressed.

Instead of being asked this question, I would rather answer the following question, that is, how to be a happy full-time nanny?

My answer is a word, pay attention to the little things in life and improve the happiness of my family.

Of course, the word "happiness" is abstract, but I have learned from many small experiences of my six-year marriage and summed up the following points:

1. Pay more attention to yourself. That is, take care of yourself, constantly improve yourself, advance towards the set goals, and pursue your own ideals. With a direction, you will not be listless and your heart will be rich. Instead of thinking about children and home. You know, you are the hostess of this family and you play a very important role. Take care of yourself first, then have a family and children. Moreover, perhaps you don't know, some scenes are all orderly and harmonious even without you.

2. Keep a low profile, play with children, study together, make mistakes together and then correct them. Think of it as compensation for a happy childhood. Whenever I take my two children to the playground, I always go with them. I can always get other children to ask to join, and then I will meet their parents. Oh, no, it's grandparents. They all sit still or look at their mobile phones. Occasionally see the children. It's always the same sentence. Don't play with that. It's too dangerous. But all the equipment on the playground has irresistible charm for them. Why not play? Whenever I hear children having fun and laughing, I think this company is 100%. What people need is expensive and full of sense of accomplishment.

3. Discover the bright spots of children and fathers, and often praise occasional blows. You will have unexpected gains. The most obvious thing is that they will praise you and hit you like this, and the main atmosphere of the family will be greatly improved. If the atmosphere is positive, you will laugh at each other and attack each other, so you will have such love. Come on, tell me what's wrong. We are all people who want to make progress.

4. Love each other and show generously that you love them. I know most families will love, but if you say it, they will feel happy. That kind of unspeakable joy is really unparalleled. Also, when you are in a good mood, you always look at everything.

5. Go back to the children's grandparents' home often, so that the children can feel the love brought by the affection that blood is thicker than water. While liberating yourself, you can also let your children boldly meet the love from their ancestors. Why not? As we all know, children who grow up full of love are the most secure and willing to consider each other. Just like when my father considered coming to road trip for me, I quietly decided to prepare a surprise for his birthday, because love and being loved will always infect others.

6. The family decided to ask their opinions more. For example, the time and place of holiday activities, let everyone participate, not all you decide. Family affairs are shared by every family member, but you are responsible for overall arrangement and merit-based admission. If you think so, you know that you are not a bodyguard, security guard or nanny, but a family supervisor, and you may be in a good mood. Then go out happily, have an empty meal, and then set off.

7. The overall goal of the family is the same. For example, in our family, my father and I have the same goal of constantly improving ourselves, improving our lives, taking good care of our parents, and bringing up our dolls in the process.

In the adult world, there is no right or wrong, only choice. Whether you choose to be ignored or forgotten by yourself, or choose to keep polishing and become shiny, we just need to be on the road all the time and finish what you want.

This article is only dedicated to mothers who have no children in other places. I hope you can light yourself up, become the North Star of your family and guide them to the light forever.

Stay-at-home moms are under a lot of pressure. The child needs the support of two people. If the child gets good grades, it will be fine, and the mother will be relieved. If the grade is average, it is really fatal. Stay-at-home mom! Focus on the child. Children's grades and children's growth are all his grades. But children may not be effective soon. At this time, his sense of gain is poor.

I think it is the following aspects.

1. The living space is too narrow, and the activities of full-time nannies are limited. Basically, there are only a few places, home, playground, school and community.

2. Pay attention to life. Full-time is really an infinite cycle for children, children and children. I can't do anything without children anyway. Children are both angels and demons, which can make you collapse, especially when you lack helpers in your life and your mother can't transfer your emotions.

3. Economic constraints. It's okay if the conditions are excellent, otherwise I will lose a full-time income and live a tight life. Can I spend money every day without getting upset? Moreover, the husband becomes the main body of income, and the relationship between husband and wife is easy to be unbalanced. After a long time, a stay-at-home mother becomes an old maid at home, and trivial matters do not reflect value and are not recognized. But my husband's sense of superiority will explode, making irresponsible remarks and family relations will not be good!

No income, no sense of security, no dependence on others, no helplessness in giving up my career, no anxiety about future uncertainty, can I not be depressed?

Because you can't get love, you keep exporting love, and there is no one around you who loves you unswervingly. Physical strength is second!