Talk about the mood after hitting the baby.

It should be an ideal state not to hit children.

When a child makes a mistake, parents should not rush to hit the child, because impulsively hitting the child often backfires. At this time, you can tell your child how you feel at the moment and let him know that you are dissatisfied with his behavior just now. For example, tell the child: "I am in a bad mood now!" "I'm not satisfied with what you did!" I don't like your rudeness! "Your performance makes me sad!" Wait a minute.

Describing one's psychological feelings helps to calm one's emotions, and also helps children to think from the perspective of their parents, thus promoting their reflection.

2. Punish children with natural consequences

When children make mistakes, they don't need too much criticism, and let them bear the consequences of their own mistakes or mistakes. For young children, parents can also tell them specific ways to correct their mistakes and guide them to make up for them themselves. For example, if milk is spilled, you can't drink milk. At the same time, children need to clean the milk on the table by themselves.

This will not only make children understand what their mistakes may lead to, but also make children feel contrite in the process of bearing the consequences, which is conducive to preventing children from making similar mistakes again.

3. Punish children in an indirect way

If the child's fault is not serious, parents can let the child remember this lesson by indirect punishment means and methods such as winking at the child, restricting his actions, detaining his favorite things, and limiting his entertainment time. For example, if the toys are not packed, the time for watching cartoons will be cancelled.

Of course, it is best for parents to put forward clear requirements for their children's future behavior, what the children should do, what requirements or standards they should meet, and show their expectations for their children's next walk. For example, if you take the initiative to put away toys every time, you can spend more time watching cartoons.

4. Don't be emotional when hitting children.

If there is a situation where you have to hit your child, such as the child is still noisy after repeated persuasion, which affects the safety of yourself, the people around you and the surrounding environment. Parents should first stabilize their children's emotions and calmly face their problems.

Because hitting children when they are emotional can not only point out their mistakes, but also make them feel embarrassed, thus causing harm to their hearts. At this time, children, because they focus on their parents' fierce emotions, often don't feel that they are wrong, but only feel that they are bad children.

5. Let the children understand why they were beaten.

When they have to spank their children, parents should regard spanking their children as an educational ceremony. They must clearly tell their children why they were beaten, how many times they should be beaten this time, and what to do next time they made a mistake.

Don't hit your child too hard, don't vent your bad feelings by hitting your child, and don't hit your child indiscriminately.

6. Don't hit children under 2 years old and after 6 years old.

It is normal for children before the age of 2 to lack awareness of rules because of their immature mental development. Beating children has no warning effect on children, but will affect their psychological development.

With the growth of children's age, children's self-awareness is gradually improved and their self-esteem is getting stronger and stronger. Children after the age of 6 are sensible. At this time, parents need to communicate with their children in a reasonable way to avoid the negative impact of beating and cursing on their hearts.