I hit the child last night and felt very depressed. How should I educate my children?

1. There are no perfect parents.

I touched my baby once or twice, but it just broke the boundaries of what you think of as a good education. This restriction is wrong.

You let your children know what is unbearable.

You have added a spring to your child's fragile mind, making it more resilient. In the future, if someone yells at him, he won't be overwhelmed, frightened out of my wits or die.

Then I'll give you some suggestions to consolidate your achievements:

1. Never "compensate" your child without restraint, it will crush all the positive energy achievements you have made.

2. Communicate with your child and ask him: Do you know why Dad (Mom) is angry? He may not know, so just tell him. Tell me your worries about him.

I believe you must want to stop the baby's bad behavior, tell the baby that you will stick to your opinion and urge him to change his bad behavior.

4. If you find that the baby has committed another crime, tell yourself: Stop it! Hitting people is addictive. You can't give children a bad demonstration. "Kill" him with eyes and a serious loud voice! Master the degree of infrequent shots.

5. Tips: Evil things are in their infancy, you can do them without words, and you should do them when you should. No head, no ears, no slap, no breath, hands, legs, arms and buttocks. Choose one place for discussion and punishment. It's no use fighting when a little evil becomes a big evil.

Nice talking to you!

Looking at your head, I feel that you should be your mother. I wonder if this is the case. I am the mother of a 5-year-old baby. Talking about educating children is really a snot and a tear! First of all, hitting a child really hurts the child's heart, which is definitely not desirable. Besides, the girl is 8 years old, and it's time to fuck a big girl. I think you should apologize to the children! Don't treat children with parents' condescending attitude, which is unfair to children! Secondly, parents should analyze the reasons why children do wrong things, for example, children don't care about hygiene, and see if there are any examples at home that don't care about hygiene. My children were particularly reluctant when they first started brushing their teeth. I take her with me every day, and all kinds of temptations make us brush our teeth together. Slowly, she became a habit, and then brushed her teeth! Finally, I want to say that educating children or encouraging praise education is the main thing. Parents should know their children before they can talk about education. They have realized that children are not confident and cannot be educated by beating and cursing. Encourage their children with encouraging and praising words. Girls' minds are still very sensitive. As mothers, our advantage is to tell the truth to our children and give more psychological advice! I used to really yell at my children sometimes. Later, I found that the child was more disobedient, so I posted a gentle label on the wall at home to remind myself to get along slowly! The mother with two babies is very tired. You can let your father take care of Bauer, and your mother cares more about Dabao! It's good to exchange ideas with you! I wish the babies health and happiness! Good wishes!

Beating and scolding education is definitely the stupidest and worst education. Beating and scolding may temporarily correct a child's behavior, but frequent beating and scolding is likely to make the child form a closed personality, be bad at getting along with others, lack competitiveness in the workplace, and form an unchangeable gap with his parents, no longer say anything, and no longer feel happy because he lives with his parents. Look for some parenting books.

Hello, hitting children every day is definitely not acceptable. How to solve this problem depends on the child's growth period.

1. Psychological development of eight-year-old children. 1. On the positive side, eight-year-old children have adapted to the school environment, so they are more confident and lively, less dependent on adults, have more ideas of their own, have more partners and have a wider range of activities. 2. On the negative side, eight-year-old children prefer to be emotional, talk back, worry about their parents' arrangements, play the devil's advocate, lose concentration and have more fun.

Second, the situation of parents. Parents always think that their children have not grown up, and they always like to make decisions with their children, do not relax their control over them, and limit their range of activities. They always like me not to think, but I hope I think so.

In view of the above two aspects, parents need to start from these aspects: 1 and the most obvious feature of eight-year-old children is their interest in playing, so that parents can arrange more play. Playing here is not fooling around, but exquisite, such as parent-child companionship and single-player games. Encourage children to concentrate on playing and tell them to study more. Only by satisfying children's playfulness can children concentrate on their studies, otherwise it must be a chicken flying a dog to jump. 2. Control your emotions. If you are angry, you will be angry. Children will be more angry than you. Slowly, children will easily form the habit of getting angry when they encounter problems. You should adjust yourself more and treat your children with positive emotions. If you can't, you can psychologically imply that this is someone else's child, and don't take it too seriously. 3, the family must set rules and regulations, and the whole family must abide by them, so that children can understand that there are conditions for doing things, and they must act according to regulations and abide by the agreement before they can be punished for fouls. 4. Don't help your child with everything, buy nothing, and give priority to nothing, so that he will feel that these are all things, but he has no gratitude and doesn't know how to be modest.

Parents have a great influence on their children, ranging from self-discipline, loving and not doting, to the age at which children are allowed to do things and not do everything, so that children can experience the meaning of labor more. I wish I could do it! ! !

Your question is a normal state in family education, and many parents feel very headache and guilty about it. You can divide your problem into several parts.

First, you want to know why children are like this.

Second, you want to know how to educate children to develop good behavior habits in the future.

Third, you want to change your educational model.

Let's talk about how children form a bunch of bad habits.

1. Give your child whatever he wants, which shows that you love your child very much. Especially after you have Bauer's younger brother, you feel that your younger brother has shared your sister's love, so you will feel indebted to your sister and will do everything possible to compensate the children. However, many parents will find this problem. The more they compensate the older children, the older children will not become obedient and sensible. Instead, they will use their parents' guilt to make more demands until their parents collapse.

Why is this happening? Because children can feel their parents' guilt, children will feel that this is what their parents have done to themselves.

2. Why do children make loud noises?

The child has been depressed for a long time. Parents didn't listen to their children's opinions. Parents only meet their material needs, not their spiritual needs. Children's spiritual needs are understood, recognized and paid attention to. These parents can't see them. They don't talk to their parents. They can only see them by shouting. So they would rather be beaten than make a hullabaloo about to get their parents' attention and love.

3. Children are unsanitary

There are two reasons: first, the child is never allowed to do housework, and his parents have not told him what good hygiene habits are, or he can't understand what his parents told him. Second, it is intentional, because parents will see it and pay attention. It is better to be scolded than ignored. Parents can think about whether in marriage, girls have to deliberately show their faces to boys so that boys will be coaxed. So are the children.

4, rude, lying in the nest

This is the way parents yell when they don't tell their children how to greet others when they meet. Communicating with children is also a way of yelling, and children have learned it.

Walter Henley: Children get angry with people who are relatively safe.

For example, if the mother beats the child at home and the father doesn't beat the child, the child dares to lose his temper with his father.

Older children will lose their temper and even hit two children. It's safer to hit two children in the same way.

5. Children have no self-confidence.

1, which shows that children's parents are strict and often criticize their children. I often say that the children here are not good, and what is not good.

2, the comparison of parents, often say whose child is good, or what do you think of your brother.

3. Parents humiliate and satirize their children.

The above three points are the reasons why children are not confident. The core reason is that parents don't accept their children's present performance.

These problems are caused by parents' contradiction and dislike. For example, on the one hand, parents unconditionally meet their children's various needs, on the other hand, they will hate this child and feel that this child is not sensible. Love and hate are mixed, and this kind of boredom will erupt for a long time, becoming the next object to be beaten, and then feeling guilty.

Second, how to let children develop good behavior habits?

Parents should learn to educate their children and communicate with them. Everyone has heard the good word "three winters warm". Bad words in June hurt people. Parents often use the flying knife of language to hurt their children's hearts and cause psychological shadows to them.

How to love and communicate? First of all, we should distinguish what is behavior and what is label. Behavior can be photographed by camera and recorded by tape recorder. Labels are examples of parents' judgment on this matter: unsanitary, impolite, unwilling to study and procrastination are all labels.

Parents remember that any communication with labels must be a failed communication. For example, sending children to school in the morning is slow and parents are anxious.

Parents say: Why are you so late every day? I am bored to death.

The child said, who is late every day? Wasn't I late yesterday?

When parents are angry, a big war is on the verge. What if we change the way?

My parents said, honey, you have been late for three times this week, and my mother is worried that you will be late again today. This is a sign of communication. The same thing, a word can make children happy, and a word can also trigger a war. Regarding how to communicate, you can trust me personally, and it can't be explained clearly in one or two sentences.

How to change the third parent?

It is very simple for parents to learn how to be parents and make growth plans. Many parents in life have not learned how to be parents themselves, and the way to educate their children is also learned from their parents.

The core that parents need to learn is communication.

If you have problems with parenting, you can trust me privately and learn and grow together.

I already called, and depression can't make things better. You can't beat and scold children as much as possible in the future, which only shows that parents' education methods are backward. If you really can't help it, you must let your child have an ideological touch. Otherwise, it is meaningless. After the rain, the land was wet, leaving no trace or influence. Smart parents are usually strict and considerate, and are good at moving with emotion and reasoning with reason, rather than using force. The greatest weapon for parents to educate their children is love. Children are the most obedient when they feel that their father loves their mother's love. Holding them in your arms is the best reason, and reprimanding them with a stick will only make them more and more rebellious and make the situation worse.

Just hit it.

Many people always say that children can't fight. This statement is also right and wrong. They fight because they should fight, but they don't fight because the child hasn't been beaten yet. If they can solve the problem through communication, why do they hit the children? So, whether to fight or not depends on the situation.

As far as your children are concerned, you really should. After the fight, I was in a bad mood. To put it bluntly, you are paying for your inappropriate education. The formation of children's behavior habits is the result of your improper education. Spoiling, ignoring children's wrong behavior habits, giving them whatever they want, being rude and not paying attention to hygiene are all the results of wrong education.

The birth of a child is like a blank sheet of paper. What you draw on this piece of white paper is up to you. Now, this piece of white paper is painted in a mess. Who do you blame? You said you were sad because of your own failed education. Now what you have to do is as follows:

1, calm down and reflect on your education. The child doesn't know right from wrong. Let's tell her and communicate with her.

Let her correct it bit by bit. After all, habits are not formed in a day or two, and correction is also a slow process. You must be patient.

2, clear instructions, adhere to the principle. For example, if you want your child to be addicted to TV, you must regulate the time when she watches TV. Don't just verbally criticize a bunch of nonsense, but actually do it and strictly implement it. After a long time, she will naturally understand your attitude and consciously abide by it.

3. If you don't make promises, you will do it. Don't promise that you can ... If a child really changes and makes progress, it is necessary to give proper praise and encouragement, but not too much, and praise should not overflow, so as to promote her to develop in a good direction.

This is my humble opinion, you can consider it.

Now please give the child a hug immediately. Let me analyze the reasons:

1. indulgence. Children's performance today is only the epitome of long-term education. Long-term indulgence, clothing to reach out, food to mouth, let her feel as if everything is taken for granted.

2. hug. Why did I say hug the baby? It is because a large part of the child's performance today is the fault of the parents. If parents strictly require their children to dress themselves at the age of 3, eat by themselves at the age of 4 and help wash dishes at the age of 5, can their children have today's performance?

3. communication. After holding the baby, analyze the reasons for the beating, tell her what to do and what not to do, and make her disciplined. I am 8 years old this year. I believe that as long as parents communicate attentively, children will be sensible.

4. Next step. From now on, anything that children do, as long as it is unreasonable, will be resolutely stopped, but the attitude will be strengthened bit by bit. Slowly, the child's performance will get better and better.

In short, turn this beating into a lesson for children's growth and a turning point for children's growth.

I hope my answer can help you.

Beating and scolding education is a last resort, and frequent beating and scolding is even worse. 8-year-old children are really disobedient. I suggest that the number of beatings and scolding education should not exceed twice a year, otherwise parents' emotions, methods or ignorance of their children will lead to confusion and rebellion. Analyzing and understanding children's psychology, personality and habits is the key to educating children. There is a baby in your family now, which may be a test of your family education strategy. You must balance it. Your attitude, food, clothes, play, attention and so on all directly affect the educational effect of older children. Besides, you didn't tell me why you hit the child. Under what circumstances did you hit the child? Patience and careful education are the key, and reasoning and teaching by example are the means. Please remember: "there are no children with poor education, only parents who can't educate", be patient!

That's right. Care about her more than her brother. My family also has a second child. Before giving birth to a second child, my son and I had a very good parent-child relationship. Although my son is naughty, he is motivated and sunny, mainly because he can communicate well After giving birth to the second child, my son seems to be a different person. He doesn't wash his face, his clothes are untidy, his things are littered and he talks noisily. The daughter who gave birth to the second child came home from the hospital. At first, her son was alienated from me and his parents. In those days, we hugged him if there was anything. No matter what he falls or cries, it's not urgent. Just give him more love. He wouldn't let his sister breast-feed, so I held him and my father made milk powder. For more than half a month, I took the initiative to let my sister breastfeed. Now my sister is five months old and her son, who is almost five years old, not only doesn't like to talk, but also takes the initiative to tease her. Older children are just afraid that their parents don't love them enough. Don't hesitate, just tell him that you love him as always, ok, don't hit him, don't neglect him!

I don't know what you want after you say it, and to what extent. It is not necessarily good for children to buy whatever they want. Buy what is not available at home, what children really like, and what is harmless to body and mind. If you have it at home, children will keep up with the joneses, which is not good for your health. Don't buy it. Even if you don't buy it, don't yell at the children.

Children can actually understand everything, and our patience is sometimes not enough. So we should have enough love and patience to promise or refuse children.