Is it okay for my son and mother to take a bath together? What should heterosexual parents pay attention to when bathing their children?

Seeing this question, I remembered a news I saw before. Miss Michele Monique Reis once posted a photo of herself taking a bath with her son on the Internet. But he is wearing a bikini, and she can't fully explain it, because she is afraid of affecting her son's mental health and telling her classmates.

She said that this was specially requested by her son, and it was the first time for her to take such a bath. Because I left my child for a period of time, my son was very clingy after I came back, and I made this request. Mother agreed.

So, is it appropriate for mother and son to bathe together? What should I pay attention to? What should heterosexual parents pay attention to when bathing their children?

I want to share this article with you today, hoping to help.

Do children really know nothing? The answer is definitely no. Nowadays, with the increasing enrichment of children's growing environment, their physical and mental development matures earlier than before, and many children have hazy gender consciousness at the age of two.

For example, you will often see several little boys discussing penises together, and they are pointing at the girls around them. They also compare the differences between parents.

When a friend's child is only a little over two years old, he will say, "Mom and grandma don't have j j, but dad, grandpa and I all have j j."

Don't think that children don't know anything. Give them proper sex education as soon as possible. Generally speaking, they can start at the age of two. When we convey the correct concept to children, it is the best love and protection for children.

Pay attention to the time and method of parent-child bath. "Why are boys and girls different?" For a three or four-year-old child, it is mainly judged by observation. They distinguish men and women through some physiological characteristics, and this stage will last for a long time.

Xiaoyu began to have gender awareness when he was more than two years old, but when he was three years old, he always emphasized the gender of the characters in those books and even divided dinosaurs into male and female. He has been looking for that standard.

Parent-child bath can help children better understand our physiological characteristics. When children are young, bathing in the opposite sex helps children understand the physiological characteristics of the opposite sex.

Many parents are so nervous that they are almost afraid to * * in front of their children, especially the opposite sex. Worried that children will see it and affect their psychology.

In fact, this is our idea, and we expect children to understand gender differences. But they dare not let their children know more through their parents. Some things are not in the textbook, while others are kept secret. On the contrary, it makes children more curious and confused.

You know, different knowledge about sex and men and women's bodies is very normal knowledge, and it is also the knowledge that children should know.

Then don't be shy and embarrassed. Children are also curious at first, and there will be some embarrassment. When he understands, he will think it's normal. You can also avoid more embarrassment.

The world of children is innocent and pure. I believe many parents will take their children to the swimming pool in summer and go to the swimming pool locker room to change clothes. If your child doesn't have this knowledge, it will definitely embarrass you, so be prepared.

For example, when washing under the tap, most people are * * *. If children see this scene, they will often cry publicly: "Dad, come and see, that man has a lot of hair!" " Why don't I have long hair! ""mom, that aunt's breasts are so big! Is she used to feed the baby? "

When this happens, should we find a place to hide? You don't even have the courage to apologize. You dare not admit that this child is your own! However, when you tell your children these physical characteristics in advance, they will get used to it. You can avoid this embarrassment.

Of course, parents of the opposite sex should pay attention to a time, and the maximum age is suggested to be 5 years old: if a mother takes her son to bathe at the age of 3-4, it will not have much impact, while a father had better take his daughter to bathe at the age of 3. After the age of 3, we must begin to pay attention to this subtle change. It is suggested that dad take his son to wash together, and mom take her daughter to wash together, so that the time can be lengthened. When will it end? When children feel that they don't need it and need independence, they are usually six or seven years old.

If dads can go home early after work, I suggest you wash with your son. In our home, I wash with Xiaoyu. This is a wonderful parent-child time. After washing, we read picture books and sleep together.

You will find it very appropriate to give sex education to children while taking a bath. It can also enhance parent-child relationship. In this relaxed situation, it is very effective to talk to your child about some things you have encountered, or to listen to your child talk about some things about yourself. For parents, this is a very good way to relax.

Of course, it is more necessary to teach children the corresponding physical and physiological knowledge in the process of bathing, and guide them to learn to bathe independently.

From the age of two or three, children will take the initiative to ask their parents questions about sex, such as "How did I come?" "Why do boys pee standing up and girls pee squatting?" Why doesn't my little sister have a penis? Wait a minute. At this time, parents can also find some good picture books to explain the mysteries and sexual knowledge of the body to their children.

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Very good sex education short film, show it to the children.

Pay attention to draw a clear line in time and let children be independent: in fact, in the United States, the protection of children in this respect is more advanced, even a little ruthless.

A family tragedy that happened in America a few years ago;

A Chinese single father raised his daughter alone. His father took care of everything for his daughter, including bathing, until the girl was ten years old. His father never realized what went wrong.

One day, the school teacher accidentally asked the girl, "Who will help you bathe at home?" The girl replied that it was dad. Results The school called the police and the local child welfare bureau intervened. Finally, the court ruled that the girl could not live with her father and must be taken away and sent to foster families.

However, when the police and the staff of the Child Welfare Bureau came to the door and forcibly took away her daughter, the father swore to resist with a kitchen knife. As a result, the tragedy happened: my father was shot dead on the spot by police officers.

Many people find it incomprehensible.

This news caused a heated debate and discussion. Especially in China. Because in China, it is common for parents of the opposite sex to help their children bathe. Many adults will say, "I watched you grow up. What are you embarrassed about?" "What do you know!"

It is precisely because we lack this sense of boundaries and safety education that children are vulnerable.

In real life, many children are still bathed by the opposite sex. For example, it is very common for grandpa to bathe his granddaughter and grandma to bathe his grandson. If we don't pay attention to this education, it will easily cause some problems. When children are young, it is difficult to form a sense of protection without gender awareness and some safety tips from parents.

For example, a 3-year-old girl who plays with Xiaoyu, every time grandpa brings him a basin of water and washes it in the yard.

Grandpa loves his granddaughter and takes good care of her. But children will certainly not be taught how to protect their private parts, and their mothers may be better able to explain this.

It's numb to think about today's sexual assault tragedy:

12-year-old girl was sexually assaulted and her parents didn't know.

4-year-old child was sexually assaulted in kindergarten.

The youngest of the two girls who were sexually assaulted was only two and a half years old.

……

I still remember when we were studying, a fifth-grade girl in the next class was sexually assaulted by the teacher for a long time, which shocked the whole town.

There are too many such tragedies. Besides severely punishing these * * *, what we need to do most is to protect our children from harm.

In fact, many times children who are violated don't know what happened to them. Children don't know how to protect themselves, let alone tell their parents.

So parents must give their children sex education, especially how to protect themselves.

Every time I take a shower, I will tell Xiaoyu that your little * * *, including all the places covered by your body, can't be touched by anyone except when Dad takes a shower. Unless your parents allow you, you must tell them. Not all adults are right. If you don't like it, you can say "no" and remember to tell me. If you can't find your parents, you can ask teachers and police uncles for help.

It will be more effective to give children an educational demonstration from these daily lives.

Children generally enter the first sexual development period from the age of six, and the body begins to secrete sex hormones. In order to avoid premature sexual arousal, parents can start to assist their children, slowly let their children bathe independently and clean their private parts.

It is recommended that children take an independent bath from the age of seven or eight, which is also a part of their independence. Don't hold the child like a baby. Especially in single-parent families, mothers should pay more attention to this sense of boundaries and let their children become independent.

Finally, it is particularly emphasized that parents should not be coy and secretive when conducting education in this area, but should do it as early as possible when their children are still young. If parents don't teach their children the necessary knowledge, but let them look for answers in mixed textbooks, then the risk is too great. Especially adolescent children, if they don't know anything about sex, their parents will miss the best education period, and their children will enter a dangerous exploration period, which may cause a lot of troubles.

In addition, fathers should also actively participate. You are a vivid human model. It is more appropriate for father to explain some questions about boys. After all, mom is thinner than our dad.

It doesn't matter whether the parent-child bath or not, but the safety and psychological development of the child are the most important. We must give our children correct and healthy sex education, and don't expect school education to meet their curiosity and real psychological needs.

You know, our whole primary school didn't have this concept, but when junior high school students talked about the chapter of human sexual organs, our biology teacher directly said, "Students, the content of this chapter is not easy to talk about in class, so go home and have a look."