What should I do if I like my sister who is three years older but she doesn’t pay much attention to her?

I really like a girl who is three years older than me, but she doesn’t seem to pay much attention to me. Should I give up?

I was born in 1995 and will be 23 this year. My sister was born in 1992 and will be 26 soon. The end of the year is coming soon, and some of my friends in the same year are getting married, so my parents are urging me to go on a blind date. The little sister’s mother and my mother grew up together and have a very good relationship. However, I don’t know the little sister at all. We only met once a few years ago. Moreover, I have forgotten what the little sister looks like, and the little sister is completely unfamiliar to me. I remember meeting me; plus I don’t usually have contact with girls, so I don’t have anyone to develop with, and I didn’t think about finding a girlfriend before going on a blind date. (I just graduated this year, so I wanted to have a stable job first) , when I agreed to go on a blind date, I went with the mentality of getting to know a girl more. We met on the first day of the three-day holiday of New Year's Day. The first time I saw the girl, I couldn't tell from her appearance that she was born in 1992. She was 160cm (I'm 175, not tall, but I felt that my height matched her very well). She also has a smaller body type. She wears a small red cotton-padded jacket and has short shoulder-length hair, which looks a bit cute to me. Our personalities are very different. I am a slow-warming person, and my sister is a cheerful, cheerful person. I am a talkative and sensible person, so I still felt a little awkward when we first met, but the girl was very nice, and maybe she could tell what kind of person I was, so she took the initiative to find topics to avoid embarrassment, and we chatted that day It took a long time and we talked a lot. As we got to know each other gradually, I started to talk more and more, and I felt that the atmosphere was quite good that day. She looked very happy that day. After sending her home, I Then I went home; after the first meeting, I felt that I quite liked the girl, her cheerful and talkative personality, and her cuteness in my eyes;

After meeting her , I couldn’t sleep at night, so I still wanted to make an appointment with the young lady, but she had to be on duty the next day, so I told her to ask her to go see a movie with her after get off work, but she had to make a bid that day and was very busy and didn’t take a break at noon. She said she was very sleepy. I had to go back to catch up on some sleep (she was particularly prone to sleepiness and had to sleep thirteen to four hours a day). I saw that she was very tired from work, so I thought of making an appointment with her on the third day, then I didn’t disturb her and let her work first; in the evening When she sent the message again, she went out to play with her female colleague. Because the tender document was difficult to complete, she and her colleague worked overtime to complete it. It should be that her colleague asked her out directly after work, thinking that she had finished the work and relaxed; I didn’t get an appointment with the girl the next day, so I wanted to ask her out to play even more. I even went shopping and dressed up before looking for her. When I asked her out again, she had already made an appointment with her best friend, so she went out again. It failed. From here on, I was wondering if she had no feelings for me, but it was useless. I took the car back to work in the evening (the city where I work is only 2 hours away from home, so every time I I went home during the week) I didn’t make an appointment with her twice, so my mind was very confused. I thought about her every day and wanted to send her a message, but I didn’t know what to talk about, and she wouldn’t take the initiative to send me a message. After a few days of this, I felt really uncomfortable, so I made an appointment with her for the weekend, but she refused because of the weather. Then I felt that she really had no feelings for me. In a situation like this, I don't know what to do, because the parents of the two families are very familiar with each other. If they are fighting each other, and if it doesn't work, it will definitely be awkward when they meet in the future, but I feel uncomfortable giving up.

The editor said:

Friend, don’t be so timid. If you didn’t take the initiative to chase her, why would she take the initiative to find you? If a girl doesn't take the initiative to look for you, it doesn't necessarily mean that she is not interested in you, but if you don't take the initiative to look for her, then even if she is there, she will disappear.

It doesn’t sound good, but as long as you go for it, you will have a chance. Only thoughts without actions can only lead to obscenity.

1. Start with a low profile. Don't be too anxious, don't be too explicit, let people know at a glance that you are chasing someone. They are all children of ordinary people (except for those with special appearance). Most people will not fall in love with you at first glance, but they will also not dislike you at first glance. Don't imagine that someone will agree to marry you after only three days of knowing each other. Think about it from a girl's perspective. If you rush over to hook up with someone so directly, she must be under psychological pressure. Good feelings arise as understanding deepens, and it takes time.

2. Create opportunities. For most people, the probability that the same girl will be in front of you every day in line to buy breakfast is almost zero, so taking the initiative is the way to go.

o Gather intelligence.

Find out the place and time of MM's daily activities: the study room where MM frequents, the time period during which MM surfs the Internet, and the dining habits of MM? Chasing MM is like fighting a war, and accurate information is a prerequisite for winning the war.

o How to collect mm’s information. The information age is so advanced, and with the technology to break through GFW to find pornographic seeds, we can get the general situation of mm through analysis of mm’s Weibo, mm’s message board, mm’s log, etc. Even if mm’s QQ space and Renren have no information, Then the least bit of information you can get is that mm doesn't use the Internet very much.

o Follow MM’s route. Once you know mm's range of activities, you can create all kinds of accidents and turn waiting around into encounters. Just like advertising, at least you can make her look familiar first, so that you won't be too abrupt when you talk to her later.

How to strike up a conversation

Strike up a conversation naturally. This part has a lot of content, so I took the time to write it in the answer section.

Communicate. Many masters of chasing girls are also masters of chatting. Chatting is the first-hand information for you to obtain information about your girl. It is also the most direct bridge for you to convey information to your girl. Use your humorous language to convey the beauty of your soul.

Interaction. Pretend to be nonchalant and find a pretty good reason to invite the other person to do something with you.

Get the people around mm

Almost every girl has one or two closest friends. You can learn about the girl through them, and more importantly, you have to use them. Convey information to mm. A few kind words from others are worth a thousand words. If someone wants to say one bad word about you, you can't handle it even if you say ten good words.

How to express love

Keep the heat. Some boys have only dated someone once or twice, and then they want to establish a further relationship. This will most likely spoil the relationship. The wonderful thing about love is that everything is said without words. It is not beautiful if it is stated clearly and clearly. If someone is willing to come out to talk to you alone, it shows that she has a good impression of you. But sometimes even she can't explain this kind of good feeling clearly, but you are eager to point it out and destroy this hazy beauty. Then don't blame others for staying away from you. Look around at the many love affairs that have died before they even begin. Many of them are caused by boys not grasping the heat.

Leave yourself the opportunity for further development. Don't express your love too directly, and be sure to leave yourself room for maneuver. Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then the girl will have no chance to "reject" you.

Use the power of language. Girls all like to hear sweet words, say what you want to say to her most, don't just say "I like you, I love you" or something like that. If your literary talent is not good, just use the simplest language. Even if it is lame, it will still be lethal enough. If you feel unsure, you can study one or two classic romance novels and movies before the battle to appreciate the language expressions in them and memorize the classic confessions in the movies.