Divorced for a year, waiting for his ex-wife to remarry and open his brother-in-law's circle of friends. Why do men regret it?

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There is a passage in The Battle of Marriage:

"If a husband and wife live, they must have an attitude of falling in love every day. Just like making a cake, you have to add some honey, sugar and cream to the relationship every day ... "< P > But how many couples kill each other's love in the trivial things of daily necessities. They forget to fall in love and that marriage needs care and care.

when there is no sugar, no honey and no cream in marriage, then your marriage will become barren and without nutrition. Many people will gradually give up marriage because they lose hope for it.

Not every relationship can last forever. The lovers we adore when we are young may lose the excitement of blushing when we grow up, and not every marriage can be a happy one.

It's no trouble to deal with feelings, but marriage is different. Marriage involves not only two people, but also two families, as well as their ideas and interests. If one of these things is not handled well, it will affect the happiness of two people, and once there are many contradictions, it will lead to unhappy marriage, and divorce will become the only way out.

Not every unhappy marriage means the end, especially for middle-aged women. Divorce requires great courage. Divorce not only means erasing all the previous life, but also needs to start over.

To tell the truth, for many middle-aged women, it is really difficult to start over after divorce, and the result is unknown. If you don't do it well, the rest of your life may not be easy.

For some readers around me, many women who encounter marriage crisis in middle age will choose to escape, and most of them choose to deal with the crisis in marriage by compromise. Many women say to me,

"After all, I have been married for so many years, just muddle along, even if he makes a mistake, but he is also the father of the child. Now that I am over 4 years old, it is impossible for me to get divorced and start over."

Everyone has different attitudes towards their marriage, so they make different choices in the face of problems. I can't give them much useful advice on their final decision, but sometimes I can't bear to watch them continue to endure loneliness, disappointment and injustice in their marriage.

If two people in a marriage have no feelings, they can still live, but the man who keeps on teaching in marriage is the most chilling. At this time, he still chooses to muddle along, and it is difficult to be happy all his life. However, reader Chang Yue has made a completely different choice from them, and even I admire her courage.

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Chang Yue is 45 years old this year. She is already the mother of two children. Two years ago, when she said that she wanted a divorce, her elderly parents forced her to be uncompromising, while her mother-in-law and ex-husband were waiting to see her jokes.

However, today's Chang Yue is living out her best appearance, and her life is getting better and better, which makes her ex-husband envious.

Chang Yue and Liu Bin have been married for 19 years and have been in love for more than 2 years. She never thought that Liu Bin would betray her one day. In her eyes, Liu Bin has always been the good man who followed her closely and was affectionate. But the reality is cruel after all. Chang Yue didn't realize the existence of another woman at first. After giving birth to her second child, she put most of her energy into her two children.

Ask yourself, although she had to become a housewife after the second child, she never let Liu Bin worry about washing and cooking and educating her children. Even in recent years, her mother-in-law was ill and hospitalized, and she ran around alone.

Liu Bin's relationship with that woman for more than three years, when Chang Yue knew it, he didn't feel like a gentleman. Instead, he looked for reasons on himself and wanted to do better to win Liu Bin's heart. Chang Yue's single-minded retention and weakness made Liu Bin determined and promised her that he would never associate with that woman again, but he didn't do it.

Once, he came out of the mall with a woman, and Chang Yue happened to meet him. Liu Bin quickly explained, "She called me, and she was in a bad mood. We have been here for so many years, so we have to come slowly for the last time."

Chang Yue admitted that her heart was broken at that moment. She didn't listen to Liu Bin's explanation at all and insisted on getting a divorce. When signing the contract, Liu Bin said to her,

"Is it really necessary for our relationship for so many years? Think for yourself. You are over 4 years old this year. Who wants to marry a woman like you? Now that I have given you such a good condition, can't I promise to accept your heart? "

Looking at Chang Yue's indifference, he said, "You don't listen to our parents? After the divorce, don't regret it, just don't beg me to remarry. "

After hearing these words, Chang Yue was very uncomfortable, and she was also very uneasy. She must be unknown about the future.

However, considering that he has been suffering and suffering for so many years, she still firmly said, "I will only have a better life without you, and I won't regret it."

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After the divorce, her son was married to her ex-husband, and Chang Yue took her daughter. Fortunately, her daughter went to high school and was not at home at ordinary times, so she didn't need to spend time taking care of her, so she could spend most of her time working and improving her living conditions.

Just after the divorce, the pain after the divorce was far greater than the hope for the future. Chang Yue's life was difficult, but her daughter was more "sensible" than her and kept persuading her not to give up. Looking at her daughter's positive attitude, Chang Yue didn't want to be depressed.

Chang Yue analyzed her present situation and began to look for the right direction of life after divorce. She began to fill her life constantly and tried not to think about the past. She didn't panic when she had a job. She also took various courses to improve her study. She also signed up for fitness with her best friend, and nothing fell behind.

The first days were very bitter. Chang Yue recalled and said,

"I didn't even dare to think about the days before. I handed out leaflets, and people knelt down to wear shoes. I worked as a salesman, delivered a courier, and ran into a wall when I was looking for a job. After all, I was so old, with no face value, no education and no figure. Fortunately, I knew how to work hard and had a sincere attitude. Only when I met a good boss can I have such development now.

In the past two years, Chang Yue has been independent, making money to fill her life's frustrations, shopping to kill boring time, and fitness to get rid of her fat. Now she has changed a lot, from skin to body. She is no longer obsessed with the past, and has no time to pay attention to how her ex-husband is doing. Now her daughter's grades are very good, and she is expected to be admitted to a good university one year later, and she has also met the second spring in her life.

in the face of the second relationship, she was a little timid at first, afraid of repeating the same mistakes, but her daughter kept telling her to let go and let her be herself wholeheartedly, regardless of other people's feelings. If it weren't for her daughter's support, Chang Yue wouldn't have made a decision as soon as possible. She is a few years older now and divorced. She is very kind and considerate to her. Chang Yue is willing to be sincere with him and give up everything in the past.

At the end of last year, they got married and lived happily. Before, Chang Yue never liked to bask in friends, but now she has fallen in love with basking in the happiness of their family. Liu Bin also inadvertently turned to her circle of friends. When he saw the photos of Chang Yue cooking with the incumbent and going out to play with his daughter, he suddenly regretted it. Now he has long stopped contacting that woman, and his son doesn't want to call him dad.

Liu Bin looked at Chang Yue's circle of friends in the past two years, with mixed feelings. He even missed his marriage a little. My son is not close to him, and he often likes to run there more and more. I thought I would be better off after the divorce, but I didn't expect to end up with only regret.

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Actually, divorce is not terrible for women. Divorce is neither the end of the world nor the end of a happy life.

Therefore, unhappy divorced women must understand a truth, that is, for themselves, liberation from misfortune is happiness, and their future life is in their own hands. As long as they hold on tight, they will be able to live a good life.

As the saying goes, "Ending a wrong marriage is the beginning of a happy marriage."

It's not a shame for two people to get divorced. On the contrary, divorce is the best way to get rid of misfortune when they are unhappy and have to make do with it. Two people can cultivate again without feelings, but a man who makes mistakes one after another should not be forgiven.

since two people are divorced, they can only prove that the life they once had was not suitable for them, and the happy marriage in the future was won by themselves. As long as they walk in the right direction and make the right choice, they can re-enter the road of harvesting happiness. For women who are still immersed in depression after divorce, don't be discouraged or disappointed first, but first seize the present and spend more time planning for their future.

Please believe that a divorced woman can only prove that she can live happily without her ex-husband by making herself busy and not always immersed in the last relationship.

Just like Chang Yue, although she is very depressed after the divorce, she is still willing to live an active life, dress and work out, and live a wonderful life. It is her positive attitude that makes it easier for her to gain new life and happiness.

Chang Yue's success in reaping happiness after divorce also proves that it is either a second marriage or misfortune.

For the second marriage, the lessons of the last marriage will naturally leave a psychological shadow on themselves, but actively getting rid of and overcoming it and being honest with each other can also reap another happy marriage.

I very much hope that after divorce, women can not only maintain their spiritual independence to make themselves stronger, but also maintain their economic independence, enrich themselves with more knowledge and make themselves colorful through more exercise. Only in this way can you find a new direction in life, and of course, you must have confidence when facing new feelings!

One day, pain will become a stepping stone to your future success. This sentence is for all divorced women.