██If a person grows up like Wang Shuo, who enters day care after 56 days, and is still in full day care, and is released at school age, how can he make himself feel safe when he grows up?

There is a hypothesis in this question: the lack of security is due to entering a care environment without parents at 56 days old. There is some truth to this assumption, because a baby's sense of security often comes from thoughtful, warm, almost responsive care, preferably from a confirmed, fixed caregiver. However, adults' sense of security cannot be generalized based on their experiences in infancy. After all, what is left in infancy can only be called the shadow of childhood. In psychoanalysis, it is believed that it will have an impact on a person's later growth and personality formation. This is scientific. The truth is supported by certain cases, but everyone is an independent individual and the conclusion is not absolute. The judgment of security must always be based on the current case, that is, the entire growth situation of "this" analysis object, and the most important "current" to make a more complete and objective judgment.

For adults who have grown up with such experiences, it may be somewhat one-sided and unfair to self-study psychological knowledge to determine the reasons for their lack of security without in-depth understanding and analysis by a psychologist. subjective. With all due respect, I always feel that the friend who asked this question is not really worried about the lack of security, but because of the difference in the love and upbringing of his parents compared to others, which makes him feel emotionally insecure. Regret, loss, even anger. "Why don't you want to take care of me yourself instead of sending me to full care?" However, this negative emotion did not receive reasonable comfort and explanation in the later period, which is related to the later parent-child relationship of the parents or caregivers.

If possible, I hope that this person who feels insecure and wants to find a kind of strength to better support himself can add a rough growth process in the question, which will help to make it more perfect. Analyze the source of your own sense of security.