Analysis of why it is common nowadays for grandma to raise grandchildren. Is this really strange?

With the development of the times, the children of most young and middle-aged couples in China are brought up by their grandparents or grandparents, or they are raised by two families together. This is because most young people Both husband and wife have to work hard for their jobs and careers to earn money to support their families. So the burden of raising children is left to your parents.

I think this situation is not what every young person desires. After all, it is the best choice for their children to be educated by their parents, but in order to survive and for their children to have a good life, A better living environment, this is more or less a helpless move.

As for the raising of children by grandparents or grandparents, grandparents play the most important role in many families. We can look at our friends and colleagues around us to see if their families also Most of the children are taken care of by grandma?

When I went to the kindergarten to pick up my children that day, I stood at the door and carefully counted the parents of the children in the same class. 70% of the children's grandmothers were responsible for picking up and dropping off their children every day. I also thought about my colleagues and friends around me. In most families, most of the children are taken care of by their grandmothers.

Sometimes I am also thinking about this question. Don’t the grandparents in most families have the ability to raise children? Later, after thinking deeply, I discovered the "truth" why my grandma was determined to take care of her children. After understanding this "truth", I discovered that the most selfless and precious love in the world turns out to be... I will The answer to what kind of love is will be announced at the end of the article [呲呲]

People in Tianjin often say: There is a monster in Tianjin, and the daughter’s child is brought by her grandma. Since the city where I live and work is Tianjin, it is not clear who raises children in other areas. The customs are different in each area.

So let’s briefly talk about whether the phenomenon of grandma taking care of children is considered a "weird phenomenon"? What is the fundamental reason why most mothers take care of their children?

Let’s start with our own family. Similarly, as a father of a child, I read a cartoon a few years ago. I still remember it fresh and still carefully collect it. The name of the cartoon is: "There is a kind of love called Daughter's Child Grandma Belt". I Do you think any mother will burst into tears after watching it?

The content of the comic is roughly described like this (the pictures are all from the Internet):

There is a kind of love called grandma to help me take care of the children. Nowadays, there is a popular jingle: Mom gives birth, grandma raises , Dad goes online when he gets home, and grandparents come to enjoy it!

Although the words are a bit one-sided, they truly express grandma’s love.

What are mother and daughter? They were bickering and arguing one second, and walking hand in hand the next.

I still remember the night when she learned that I was pregnant, she was so excited that she stayed up all night. She calculated that the due date was in the cold February, and began to worry that I would suffer from confinement in the winter.

My belly wasn’t even pregnant yet, so she couldn’t wait to buy a lot of baby clothes, and she also took out old sheets and made a lot of diapers.

During the two months when morning sickness was at its worst, he migrated like a migratory bird and came to my home to take care of my daughter’s daily life.

During those days when I didn’t know what to eat and vomited after eating, she always thought of ways to change my three meals a day. Even if I couldn’t eat much, she wouldn’t feel aggrieved that I was in vain. Busy work.

She would often accidentally ask me what she wanted to eat, and she would keep it in mind and buy it silently without saying a word. As long as I could take one more bite, she would smile happily.

When I gave birth to a baby, my cervix opened slowly, and labor pains lasted all day and night. I was so distressed that I burst into tears. I complained to myself that if I had given birth to a son, I wouldn’t have to suffer.

The moment the child was born, when others were more concerned about gender, she was already so happy that she could not hold her tongue. In her eyes, as long as her daughter was born, she would be a treasure.

During the confinement period, all kinds of Tang monks were possessed, and they could not look at their mobile phones, wash their hair, or get out of bed...

Whenever she thought she had outdated ideas , always saying earnestly, even though you have become a mother, you are still a child in my eyes.

Occasionally, she would persuade me to wean herself, and when she would argue with her over the nutritional issues of breast milk and milk powder, she would just say lightly, "I just hope you don't have to work so hard."

In order to let me sleep more, I usually struggle to get up early to wash clothes, mop the floor, take care of the children, etc. I would rather go hungry than let me finish the meal steadily.

Her love for me naturally extends to her children. She doesn’t know what organic food is, but she will line up to buy stupid eggs early in the morning.

She doesn’t understand what parent-child reading is, but she will hold the baby and read with joy the little white rabbit is white and white...

The baby’s first Every time I raised my head, turned over, crawled, walked, etc., she witnessed everything. When the child murmured "mama", she actually smiled happier than me.

Gradually, the child grew up and went to kindergarten, and she picked him up and dropped him off in all weathers.

When the child was older and got rid of the trouble of peeing and pooping, she returned to her home and told her grandfather about the interesting things about raising children. Her thoughts about the child never stopped and she called from time to time. Call to ask for help and remind you to add clothes.

Every time we go home, the sumptuous dining table is like setting out wedding wine, urging our children to eat more, and serving us food as warmly as guests.

Looking back on the journey of helping me raise my children, I once criticized her for dressing up her children in a tacky way, having old-fashioned ideas about parenting, and being overly spoiled, while forgetting her original intention, which was to simply hope that her grandson would be healthy and happy.

When I go to work, I can go about my business without any worries. When I hold my husband in my arms, I can enjoy sweet time together. When I went on a relaxing vacation with a few friends, I sincerely sighed: Fortunately, I have her at home to help take care of the children.

As parents, we have to be grateful, because no old person has the obligation to help you take care of your children. When she is willing to help despite her thin hair, this is love.

At the same time, we should also teach our children to be grateful. There is a saying: Your grandson is your grandma’s “dog” and will leave after eating.

I want to say: Dear baby, when you grow up, please remember to honor your grandma. She loves you even more than me. She doesn’t care about you. She is so tired that her back aches just because you can Grow up healthy.

I think all grandmas in the world are almost the same. I wish them together: peace, health, longevity and happiness!

The years are ruthless and the only thing we can do is to spend as much time and love with grandma as possible, and grandma has to wait for too long.

We have finished reading the text in the comic. I wonder if everyone has touched your soft heart after reading it? Whether you are a mother or a father, do you find it very difficult to be a grandmother?

It is true that grandma is indeed a very difficult person in this big family. The most fundamental reason why grandma takes care of people of the next generation is actually to love her own daughter and to reduce the work and workload of her daughter and son-in-law. Life pressure is a common misconception that sensible people know.

Just like a mother-in-law loves her son-in-law, the most fundamental reason for loving her son-in-law is to make her daughter's life happy.

After all, the human heart is made of flesh. No one is blind or blind, just how much you have paid will be seen and remembered in the heart. And those who know how to be grateful will naturally not lose money to those who have really worked hard for this family. This is a normal happy family way of doing things.

Perhaps the way these families deal with things cannot be deeply understood by younger couples. When your own children have children and you become grandparents or grandparents, you will You will truly understand this principle of not knowing the kindness of your parents if you don’t raise your children.

Think back to the people around you. For example, when a relative gives birth to a baby, when I go to visit, the grandma is waiting on the daughter and the grandpa is cooking.

A colleague had a baby. When I went to visit, my grandma was busy pouring hot water for her daughter, and my grandpa was doing housework.

Every time I go to visit someone who wants to be a parent, I can almost see the woman’s grandparents serving her daughter attentively at her home.

This is the love and care that grandparents have for their daughters. This kind of love cannot be accurately expressed in words.

Why does grandma have to take care of her daughter, children and grandchildren herself? Only when you become a parent can you slowly understand. Because after all, grandma takes care of her daughter through her own mother, who is the most careful in taking care of her daughter. She can usually say anything, and there are not many taboos about what she says. Her daughter will not let her down even if she speaks deeply or superficially. Remember grudges, as the saying goes.

No matter how capable a grandmother is, if she takes care of her daughter-in-law every day, conflicts will arise sooner or later. Of course, it is not absolute, because there are also very reasonable and reasonable relationships between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This is the delicate family in our country. relation.

In fact, having said that, whether it is grandma taking care of the children or grandma taking care of the children, I hope that your life will be better and better, and that you can create a perfect learning and living environment for your children in the future. Parents sincerely hope that their children will have smooth sailing, less frustrations, and more happiness. When our children grow up, we will naturally treat our own children with the same love as our parents took care of us! Pass on this "glorious virtue" from generation to generation.

So: It is not a strange phenomenon for a grandma to take care of a daughter’s child, but a completely normal social phenomenon, and it is also a virtue of traditional Chinese families!

So what kind of love is the greatest? The contribution of almost all parents is selfless and the greatest, and this kind of love is the most unique love in the world.

Finally, I wish all the children to have a happy home and a good grandma who is "all-powerful". I hope that when you grow up, you will not forget the heavy love she once had for you. love......