What if the child is worried about being laughed at by others?

Q 1: My three-and-a-half-year-old son sometimes says he is afraid of being laughed at by others. I feel a little surprised. For example, last night, I made a video with his cousin. He fell down and said that his cousin would laugh at him when he saw it, so he stopped talking. Usually, children are cheerful and parents don't make fun of them. What does the teacher think of children's ideas? What is the sensitive period?

A: The phenomenon you described is not in which sensitive period the children are in, but that the children are ridiculed in their communication, which brings them a feeling of anxiety and fear. Suggestion: When parents find that their children are afraid of being laughed at in life, they can listen to their emotions and help them separate things from emotions.

Baby, just now you told your mother that you were afraid (worried) that others would laugh at you, right? Would you like to tell mom what happened?

That's someone else's idea, not yours. Everyone will have their own ideas, which is normal.

Are you in a bad mood and particularly sad when you are laughed at by others? Mom knows this feeling must be uncomfortable, and she is willing to accompany you.

By listening to children's emotions, help children get out of the past emotions slowly. Parents need to encourage their children to express their emotions more. For example, I felt a little sad when people laughed at me just now. In addition, help children distinguish things from emotions and make them clear.

Q2: My daughter is 4 years old and 8 months old. She doesn't want to participate in the dance rehearsal in class. She said that she would go to her mother when she performed on stage, and others would laugh at her. I told her that it was normal for her to find her mother after she came to power, so don't worry. However, she is still determined not to rehearse, unwilling to participate in group activities, unwilling to go to any interest classes, and somewhat rejected the indoor teaching environment and strange teachers. I've only taken roller skating lessons and I'm very interested in it. I go there every day.

A: Let's first analyze where the pressure on this child to go on stage comes from. Why do you say that you will find your mother when you perform on stage, for fear that others will laugh at her?

First of all, maybe she saw other children being laughed at when she was performing on the stage, and she was worried that the same situation would happen to herself.

Second, it may be that she can't meet some requirements of the teacher during rehearsal. She was worried about her poor performance on the stage, and then used "fear of jokes" as a rhetoric.

Thirdly, there is another possibility that children of this age can't control such a large stage space. Or she feels that so many viewers are watching her, which makes her uncomfortable.

Knowing the reasons behind these, the mother can communicate with the child, understand the real reasons behind the child, and understand the real needs of the child, so that this uncomfortable feeling can flow out. Of course, the first step in this process must be listening. By listening, she can let her accumulated worries flow out normally. Children may return to that feeling, cry or express their accumulated emotions during listening. At this time, the mother must allow her children to express and admit their emotions and feelings. For example, you can say, "Tell mom, how do you feel when you see others being laughed at?" Children may say, "I'm afraid of being laughed at." The mother can agree with the child and say, "Yes, you are worried, and you are afraid to see others being laughed at.". And you hate people laughing at you, don't you? " Or "are you particularly worried that you have not met the requirements of the teacher?" Tell mom what it's like to be worried? " Children will tell their mothers about their inner worries, pressures and uncomfortable feelings.

After the child expresses, you must express your love and support for the child and say to her, "Baby, no matter how you behave, you are the most unique!" " ! You can perform according to your own ideas, and your mother will definitely support you! "This kind of listening will enable children to clean up the depressed emotions and feelings in the past and reconnect with themselves. But if the child doesn't want to talk, give her space and respect her choice.

Finally, I want to share that the principle of signing up for an interest class is that children must like it. You see, she is very happy in the outdoor roller skating class. So only what she likes and is interested in can she gain something from it.