The pampering of parents makes their children the "head of the family". Who will regard him as the "parent" after leaving the house?

Once a child achieves excellent results, parents will publicize it so much that they want the whole world to know about it. On the other hand, if their children have any shortcomings or mistakes, their parents will never talk about it. Even sometimes when others kindly bring it up, they will retort, saying that this will easily hurt the child's self-esteem. You know, if you keep shielding your children like this, it will be harmful to their growth.

I once heard Guo Degang tell such a cross talk joke. The teacher asked the students: "Who burned the Old Summer Palace?"

The students said they didn't know, and their parents immediately came to the rescue and said, "If it's burned, just burn it. Can't we pay compensation?" Although this was just a joke. , but it also shows from the side that no matter what problems the children have, some parents always take the initiative to take responsibility for their children. However, children will eventually grow up, and we will grow old day by day. It is impossible to take responsibility for them for the rest of our lives.

The article "The Empress Dowager Zhao of Touching the Dragon" said: "When parents love their children, they have far-reaching plans." It can be seen that the true love for children must make long-term plans for their future and care for them. Responsible for your future life. So from now on, if a child does something wrong, parents can neither condone it without principle nor beat or scold them at will. Instead, patiently help them analyze, let them understand what is right and what is wrong, learn lessons, and take warnings.

Rules are rules, no one can have privileges. One weekend when my son was in kindergarten, the school arranged a parent-child activity and invited my husband and me to attend. With more than 30 students and nearly 50 parents, the scene was spectacular. My son, contrary to his normal behavior at home, has become a little leader, arranging "jobs" for me and his father, and we are happy to cooperate.

Halfway through the parent-child activity, the teacher divided all the children into 6 groups, with 6 people in each group, and asked them to play the role of adults. My husband and I sat aside to rest. After a while, I realized that something seemed to be wrong with my son’s group. I only heard one of the children shouting: “You all must listen to me!”

Including my son. The other five children, including the other five, ignored the angry child. I continued to observe curiously. Seeing that everyone was ignoring him, the child quickly called his parents. The child's parents were nearby. When they heard the child's call, they quickly stepped forward and asked, "What's wrong, Pengpeng? Who bullied you? Tell your parents quickly."

The child pointed at the other children angrily. The five children said: "They all bullied me."

Before the children's parents could say anything, the five children said in unison: "We don't have any."

It turned out that the division was good. After forming a group, the teacher asked them to choose a group leader, and then the group leader assigned roles to other students. Everyone is discussing with great interest who should be the more suitable team leader. But the child named Pengpeng was unhappy. He thought that he should be the team leader and everyone should listen to him, otherwise they would not cooperate with everyone in playing this game.

After Pengpeng’s parents understood the situation clearly, they discussed with the other five children: "Children, you are all obedient and good children. Can you do your uncle and aunt a favor? Let Pengpeng be the one." The group leader, my uncle and aunt invited everyone to go to the amusement park after the activity, okay?"

One of the children immediately refused: "No! We can ask our parents to take us to the amusement park, but You must listen to everyone’s wishes for activities.”

Seeing that the children were unwilling to cooperate, Pengpeng’s parents changed their strategy: “Why don’t you listen to the adults?”

Children 7 They kept talking, "Why don't you ask Pengpeng to listen to you?"

At this time, the parents of other children also passed by, and Pengpeng's parents turned to beg the adults: "Please Tell your child, just promise us Pengpeng this time. When this child is at home, we will rely on him for everything. He is used to it. "

One of the mothers looked sad. Yue said: "Our children are loved by grandpa and grandma at home, and there is nothing I can do about it."

Pengpeng's parents continued to beg other children and adults in a low voice.

The adults were too embarrassed to refuse too obviously, so they all used children as an excuse: "Now is the time for children to play, and we can't force the children. Let the children decide for themselves!"

As a result, several others The children all expressed their unwillingness to play with Pengpeng. Pengpeng angrily lost his temper at his parents: "I want them all to listen to me! I want them all to listen to me!"

His parents were coaxing him: "Pengpeng is good, mom and dad are both." I listen to you, and my grandparents will listen to you when I get home.”

Finally, the teacher came over and let Pengpeng return to the team, but the children were obviously not willing to play with Pengpeng. The group looked lonely. The teacher told Pengpeng's parents that Pengpeng was not sociable at school and the children were unwilling to play with him. Parents should pay attention to family education. Although Pengpeng's parents nodded repeatedly and said they would pay attention, I felt from their expressions that this might be their usual reaction, and it would definitely be the same when they got home.

It is not difficult to see from the attitude of Pengpeng's parents that Pengpeng is definitely the "head of the family" at home, and the whole family is subject to Pengpeng's will. In fact, this problem is common in modern one-child families, but some are milder and some are more severe. Pengpeng is obviously a more serious case.