After 00, the girl saw her in-laws for the first time, and the woman fled overnight. Why?

Love yourself first, love yourself first, wake up first, and wake up before since the enlightenment. If you like someone again, you must have a bottom line. Attachment to a person, also want to have a scale. Blindly please, will be despised, no bottom line, will be perfunctory.

The topic to be discussed with you today is about love, and whether lovers need to have a husband and wife in advance. A netizen once told me that he talked about three girlfriends before and after, and the last girlfriend only held hands with him from beginning to end. The girl insists that only with her husband can there be a husband and wife. He seriously suspected that the girl came from ancient times.

In fact, each of us should not overestimate our values, because not everyone's values can be consistent, and not what you insist on is correct.

There is nothing wrong with maintaining self-esteem and self-love before marriage. It can even be said that a girl is a person who looks at love very purely. Of course, we can't say that tasting the forbidden fruit in advance will bring any severe moral criticism, nor can we say that girls who accept it don't love themselves. After all, the times are progressing, and different values are still compatible in this pluralistic society.

It can only be said that girls who stick to their last line of defense know how to grasp the scale of love and maintain a cautious and defensive attitude in love. Girls who are steady but not frivolous are more likely to be respected and respected by men. Insist on not agreeing to the trial marriage before entering the marriage, not only to leave room and retreat for yourself, but also to prevent being looked down upon by the man too early.

Chu Xizi, a post-00 girl, had a love affair since she was a child, but it was that love affair that made her still concerned. She said: "fortunately, I saw my boyfriend's real thoughts in advance that day. It is good for everyone to break up early."

I fell in love with a phoenix man from a small town, and his Excellence made me feel very excited.

Girls are only sophomores this year. She grew up in a big city, with no worries about food and clothing and strict family education. Her parents taught her from an early age that girls must know how to be self-respecting, self-loving, and self-reliant, and do things in a measured way, so as not to let others see jokes.

After going to college, there are many boys chasing girls, but she only values boys in a small county. The boy was a teacher in her different years, but in the same department. He is handsome in sunshine and successful in his studies. The boy's Excellence makes learning Chinese characters very exciting. The two became lovers on campus and were finally known by the girl's parents. They neither object nor agree.

The girl's mother said to her like this: "You are an adult, and you know what to do and what not to do. But you must remember that in love, you can't do everything, and you don't have to bear the consequences after doing it. "

The girl understood her mother's subtle expression as soon as she heard it. She said that she had her own sense of proportion in her heart and would not do anything that she regretted in the future. She was surprised that her parents didn't look down on her boyfriend from a small county.

My boyfriend invited me to his home for a holiday, and the enthusiasm of my future in-laws made me feel very constrained.

During the summer vacation, her boyfriend invited her to her home for a holiday, and she happily agreed. After running all the way arrived at her destination, she was somewhat disappointed to find that her boyfriend's hometown was really different from her imagination.

According to her boyfriend's description, although the town is small, it is a very beautiful and leisurely place, surrounded by mountains and waters. However, in the eyes of girls, what they see is poverty and backwardness. She has been exposed to modern and comfortable living environment since she was a child. She didn't suffer, and she didn't experience the small environment outside the big city, so she was not used to it for a while.

The future in-laws are very enthusiastic when they see the calligraphy. They regard the girl as their future daughter-in-law, and keep putting vegetables in the girl's bowl, repeatedly saying, "My son is lucky to have a girlfriend like you." The girl was flattered and uncomfortable at the same time.

Because she obviously felt the humility of her boyfriend's family, the lack of confidence in her bones and the deliberate ingratiation. She is even a little sad and wants to be doubly nice to her boyfriend in the future.

In the future, my in-laws' deliberate arrangement for staying overnight made me flee overnight.

That night, although the girl had explained in advance that she and her boyfriend lived in the boys' dormitory and the girls' dormitory respectively at the university, they never crossed the line, meaning that they wanted to go out and stay in a hotel. They soon told their son to sleep on the sofa, but at night, they put both sets of bedding in the boy's bedroom.

In fact, the pattern of his home is two rooms and one living room, and the extra people can sleep on the sofa. It's definitely inconvenient for girls to sleep on the sofa, so I asked my boyfriend if he could be wronged tonight and go out to find a hotel to stay tomorrow. But what she didn't expect was that her boyfriend, who has always been gentle, said in a natural tone at this time: "My parents think you are my daughter-in-law. We live in the same room and no one says anything."

After that, her boyfriend lay down and felt a forced panic when learning Chinese characters. Although they didn't force her to do anything from practical actions, as far as the current situation is concerned, if she really gives in tonight, even if nothing really happens, the boy's parents will definitely think what happened tomorrow morning.

She packed her luggage at once and said she would leave at once, regardless of her boyfriend's blocking. Boyfriends are afraid of disturbing their parents. After some pulling, she watched the girl disappear into the night with her carry-on luggage.

My boyfriend's explanation is both shattered glass and ridiculous to me.

After returning to the city, the girl had a lingering fear. If she didn't keep a clear head, she would really have the first time with her boyfriend. For her, she hasn't seen the future yet. She just wants to fall in love and has no specific plans to get married. Once something really happens, according to the arrangement of the boy's parents, you can't wash it when you jump into the Yellow River.

Boyfriends called to apologize in time and explained that it was a habit in their hometown. If the girl brought home by the man for the first time doesn't live in a room, it will make others laugh and say that the boy has no quality. Hearing this explanation, Xi Zi only felt funny, but also thought that the boy was in shattered glass.

"I think I'll forget it." This is the last thing a girl says to a man. She doesn't think it is necessary to let the world know what their relationship is when she goes to her boyfriend's house. In fact, men and women don't need the reality of husband and wife to prove their love. And she has never really determined that the other person is her future husband.

The boy's parents want to tie up the girl in this big city through this incident and want her to become their future daughter-in-law as soon as possible. And the obedience of boys is actually the default. She also saw from this incident that the two people had fundamentally different views and could not continue to fall in love, so they broke up.

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What a girl meets is not a terrible person. Her love experience can only show that if you meet someone who happens to be on the same frequency as you, that is your blessing. If your three views are always out of step with the person you love, then your relationship will be very painful and contradictory.

I have to give this girl a compliment. The man's hospitality shows that they value this relationship, but the arrangement of staying at home is not appropriate. Forcing others to do things will not make people who have their own opinions feel that it is good for her, but will only make people who know how to love and respect themselves feel that it is a silent coercion. Smart is mistaken for smart, and the breakup of the two proves that an inappropriate relationship will be exposed one day.

Maybe when we meet the people we love, we can't help it. Reason is actually responsible for yourself to the greatest extent. Just like this woman's inner feelings, self-love is not pedantic, but out of careful consideration for the future.

If love is not enough to support two people to get married, then early marriage will inevitably have a certain impact on women. If women don't have mature mind and mentality to bear this influence, then it is a wise choice to stay away.

My friends, what do you think of this matter? Do you think this young woman's self-love is really out of date? Welcome to leave a message for discussion.