Parents have a bad temper and always talk about their children. What should I do?

Empathy: I understand how you feel. I believe you have tried various methods to educate your children, but they just won't listen to us, which makes you very depressed.

Second, concretization: Can you describe in detail how big the child's temper is? And how do ordinary parents communicate with their children?

Third, discuss the causes of the problem, and make a concrete analysis:

A "tantrum" is effective: no matter whether the attitude towards children is soft or hard, children already know that "tantrum" is effective for parents, so they will use it again and again.

Solution: If parents don't pay much attention to these behaviors, whether they lose their temper, play a small temper, or cry, then children will naturally not respond with such behaviors. But not paying attention does not mean that it is completely "indifferent." Parents should also maintain relative concern for their children, and then discuss with them what to do and how to do it after their "emotional troubles" are over.

B often uses negative language in teaching, which leads to children's rebellious psychology: if parents in the family evaluate and criticize their children too much and don't give them the opportunity to express their ideas, they will also lead to children not communicating with them.

Solution: reduce direct evaluation of children, reduce negative language criticism of children, communicate with children on an equal footing, and build trust with children first.

C parents are too strong and controlling: whether it is "soft words" or "hard words", parents just want to tell their children "you have to do whatever I say", which makes them feel very bad.

Solution: Accept the child and allow him to express his views. Even if his parents disapprove, give him the right to express his views, admit that he has his own ideas, and then discuss how to solve the problem.