Life is peace and self! cannot get/go through

In life, many people are "there is no room for a grain of sand in their eyes", so they just love the truth and distinguish between right and wrong. But life is not a matter of judgment, not everything can be clearly separated from right and wrong, telling the truth. Therefore, it's better to be confused, as long as it's not a big deal, just laugh it off. If you take even trivial things seriously, isn't life very tiring? So, take it easy and be open-minded, which will not only make others willing to associate with you, but also make them live comfortably. Why not?

I have seen such a thing with my own eyes, just because I love each other more seriously, and my neighbors or colleagues who have a good relationship have become irreconcilable contradictions because of a trivial matter or a joke. Although they live or work in an environment, they bow their heads and see each other, but they are strangers to each other. Such a state, no matter who is on both sides, will definitely not be comfortable in my heart. After all, it's really hard for me. If both sides can take it easy, it's just a joke or a trivial matter. Let him go, and it won't come to this.

to err is human. What you need to get along with others is not "observant", but mutual understanding and tolerance. Only in this way can you have more friends and create harmonious interpersonal relationships. Otherwise, others will stay away from you, and no one wants to associate with people who haggle over every ounce.

Dale Carnegie, a famous American success master, is an "old hand" in dealing with interpersonal relationships. However, when he was young, he also made small mistakes. One night, Carnegie and his friends were invited to a party. At the banquet, a gentleman sitting on Carnegie's right told a humorous story and quoted a sentence. The talkative gentleman also specifically mentioned that the sentence he quoted came from the Bible. However, Carnegie found that he was wrong. Out of a serious attitude, he carefully corrected the other party's mistake and pointed out that the sentence was from Shakespeare's works. The gentleman retorted at once, and Carnegie's reminder made him embarrassed for a while, and he couldn't help but feel a little angry. Fortunately, Carnegie's old friend Frank was sitting beside him at that time. Frank kicked Carnegie under the table and said, "Dale, you are wrong. This gentleman is right." On the way home, Carnegie said to Frank, "Frank, you know that sentence is from Shakespeare." "Yes, of course." Frank replied, "But dear Dale, we are guests at the party. Why should we prove him wrong? Will that make him like you? He didn't ask your advice. Why not be tactful and save his face? "

People often say, "You can't take everything seriously, and you can't take everything too seriously." Whether a thing should be serious or not depends on the occasion. We should pay more attention to seriousness when studying knowledge, and pay attention to seriousness when facing the problem of right and wrong. However, while not forgetting the general principles, we should properly let go of some insignificant minor mistakes, and there is no need to correct them; For some things that don't hurt the overall situation, ignore it and don't care too much. If you don't look at the object, regardless of the location, you will often hurt others, but also put yourself in an embarrassing situation and be passively blocked everywhere. Therefore, being serious is actually giving yourself a hard time. If you can lighten up a little, take a step back rationally and take it lightly, life will be more happy.

"When the water is clear, there will be no fish, and when people observe it, there will be no disciples". Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others in order to get along well with others. Blindly demanding will make everyone avoid you.

when Zheng Banqiao said "it's hard to be confused", he didn't mean that we were really confused, but that we should be mature and calm after knowing the world. It is a high spiritual realm to be confused rarely, but to be indifferent to fame and fortune and laugh at grievances. Life should be less serious and fussy, more intelligent and confused, and more understanding and understanding, so that we can certainly gain more.