How to become a calm person?

1. Get rid of the problem of speaking without restraint.

Before speaking, use your brain first. If you say something like "I don't know when it's inappropriate to say it," just don't say it. If it's too cold, warm it up before saying it. If it's too intense, say it calmly. . Before blaming others, think more about whether you are qualified. When you say crazy, nonsense, or evil words, it is just a joke in the eyes of others.

2. Don’t make promises easily, always do what you say.

When someone asks for help, think carefully before agreeing. Don’t agree all the time only to screw up in the end. Don't borrow money easily, and don't lend it out easily. If you must borrow, agree in advance when you will pay it back, and give others some compensation when the money is due.

3. Insist on review.

Regularly examine your emotions and behaviors so that you don’t look like a completely out-of-control beast or Lin Daiyu. Reflect on the points where you lose control of your emotions every night and find some reasons and countermeasures.

4. No matter what happens, control your emotions first and then solve the problem.

Don’t make the first step in solving a problem a venting of emotions. Don't dwell too much on things that are a foregone conclusion, accept the reality and immediately think of countermeasures to solve it.

5. Figure out what your responsibilities are, whether at work or in life.

Don’t comment on matters that should not be exceeded at work, and don’t pass the blame on matters that are your responsibility. You must shoulder your responsibilities in life, don't be a good baby who still acts as a parent at an old age, protect and take care of your family, don't let them worry, and don't vent your emotions to your family.

6. Before saying something important, make a draft.

Express your thoughts logically, orderly, hierarchically, clearly and clearly, making it easier for the other party to understand what you are saying. This is the minimum respect for a listener. Avoid the awkward situation of speaking in a hurry before you have thought carefully about it, resulting in an awkward situation where the first words and the last words are inconsistent.

7. Stay confident.

When someone infringes on your rights, speak up for yourself bravely. After being bullied, don't feel aggrieved, depressed, or timid, and fight back as soon as possible.

8. Dress appropriately and behave appropriately.

I won’t wear clothes that others think are weird just to attract attention. You won’t shake your head, sit crookedly, and squint your eyes, you won’t swear, you won’t tell dirty jokes to strangers of the opposite sex, you should be open and generous in your interactions with others, and you won’t be sneaky and picky.

9. Don’t argue with others over trivial matters.

Don’t be a fan support group, and don’t argue with others over hot-button issues that have no beginning or end. Everyone lives in their own prejudices, and the more experienced people are, the calmer they will be.