Why are middle-aged divorced couples still willing to pretend to be in love and go home together to celebrate the New Year?

It is said that one day brings a hundred days of love to a couple. Many middle-aged couples, even if they are divorced, still pretend to be in love and go home to celebrate the New Year together for the sake of face.

Some people may ask, why is this necessary? In this way, isn't it causing trouble for oneself? Two people who obviously no longer love each other still pretend to be in love and pretend to be a happy couple in front of their family and friends.

In fact, the purpose of their doing this is not only for themselves, but more for the elderly and children at home, not wanting them to bear the strange eyes of outsiders.

Middle-aged couples tend to think more carefully and comprehensively about things. They are not like young couples who do things without thinking. They just let themselves do whatever they feel comfortable with and live a relatively independent life.

As for why middle-aged divorced couples do this, we conducted an interview and concluded that the reasons are nothing more than these three points. It was inexplicably sad to see them, since they are not If you love, why can't you live your life bravely?

It turns out that the older you get, the heavier the burden on your shoulders becomes, and the less you can live your life to the fullest. There are too many things involved, and there are too many aspects to consider and balance.

1. For the sake of the elderly, I don’t want them to live in isolation

Some middle-aged divorced couples just can’t get along with each other, but the elderly in the family still get along very harmoniously. . For the sake of the elderly and not wanting them to live in isolation, they will still pretend to be affectionate even though they are divorced.

My cousin is 42 years old. Because the couple spent less time together and separated more, and the uncle’s personality was more paranoid, various reasons combined together made their marriage unable to continue, so they had to divorce. .

After the divorce, they did not look for each other again. They just lived separately and were not unrelated. When my cousin needed help with something, he would always ask his uncle for help.

As a man whom I have loved before, my uncle will naturally not shirk the responsibility. As long as my cousin has needs, he will satisfy them one by one. I was joking with my cousin that it would be great if we got divorced and got an extra servant for no reason.

My cousin laughed and wanted to hit me, but that was all he was good at. The two of us couldn’t live under the same roof, and they would definitely quarrel, and it would be a life-and-death quarrel, which was very embarrassing. Although our relationship is gone, the elderly at home are still kept in the dark and don't want to make them sad.

We have been pretending to be in love and going home to celebrate the New Year together for several years. I think this is good, as it avoids the trouble of spending the Chinese New Year alone.

When the old man gets well, the family will be truly well off. Besides, the old man is getting older and he doesn't want them to suffer hardship for the sake of their children's affection. It's really unfilial to do so.

2. The New Year is so big, and having a good New Year is more important than anything else

Imagine that the family used to be happy and go home to celebrate the New Year, but now because of the divorce If you get married and everyone goes back to their own homes, then this year will be less lively and more deserted.

In the eyes of many middle-aged couples, they feel that they are getting older and living a good year is more important than anything else. The reason why they think this way is because they are influenced by traditional concepts.

If the year has not been good, then the new year will not be any better. This seems a bit unscientific, but some middle-aged divorced couples are still willing to pretend to be in love in order to live a good year.

My neighbor Xiufen has been divorced from her ex-husband for many years. She usually takes care of her daughter by herself and never sees her husband. It is reported that her husband has not married yet, but he has a regular lover.

But even so, every New Year, he would ask her to go home with him, pretending to be a loving couple, and celebrate the New Year happily. For this reason, I am particularly curious that Xiufen will cooperate with her ex-husband's performance.

She told me that her mother and daughter were relatively deserted during the Chinese New Year. When she and her ex-husband returned to their hometown, they would only stay there for three or four days, saving them the trouble of cooking and having a lively celebration as a family. Year, this is also good.

Xiufen’s ex-husband is a businessman and pays more attention to celebrating the New Year. He believes that only if the New Year is well celebrated, the new year will be good. Regardless of these things, for middle-aged divorced couples, living a good year is indeed worth pretending to be in love.

3. For the sake of face, don’t want outsiders to know that you are divorced

Logically speaking, middle-aged couples should take face lightly, but there are still many divorced couples. For the sake of face, they pretended to be in love and went home to celebrate the New Year together.

I have a colleague, Meizhen, who has divorced her ex-husband. Neither husband nor wife has remarried. Although they don’t have much interaction or contact on weekdays, they still agree to pretend to be husband and wife every year and go back to their hometown to celebrate the New Year. .

Meizhen didn’t agree at first. She was already divorced and had to cooperate in doing this. However, when she thought of the desertedness of celebrating the New Year alone and the gossips of outsiders, Meizhen became angry. shudder.

She felt that as long as the couple went home to celebrate the New Year together and stayed at home for three to five days, their family would not know about the days they spent away from home. For the sake of face, Meizhen agreed to her ex-husband's request.

Because she felt that she didn’t want to remarry. It was better for the couple to go home to celebrate the New Year together than to spend it alone. Her ex-husband was also a good person, so she didn’t want to go home alone.

Since both parties have needs, they have no choice but to act like a loving couple and go home together to celebrate the New Year.

After hearing these answers, some people may wonder why they pretend to be a loving couple and torture themselves like this since they are already divorced. They are really asking for trouble.

Of course, this is just what we outsiders think. The parties involved do not think so. The fact that they do this shows that they agree with it and do not think it is inappropriate.

In any case, it is not a bad thing for couples who have divorced in middle age to spend the New Year happily. Finally, I sincerely wish everyone a happy family and a happy reunion!