Usually, my personality is dull and slow, and I don't do things as fast as others at work. I am always accused of making things difficult. What should I do?

Be grateful to all the people in your life, including those who often criticize you and make things difficult for you. They played a role in reminding you. Make you willing to change yourself and find ways to solve your own problems.

If everyone at work is too kind and tolerant to you, then you have no motivation to change this situation.

If we think that the world is beautiful and everyone is our life partner, then it will help us, whether it is positive or negative. Then we can meet face to face for friends, and everyone can relax. Even if they accuse us, we will not be hostile to them. Even if you can't thank him in person, thank him in your heart. When we relax and love life, we will find that many existing problems are gone now.

The world we see is filtered by our thoughts and mentality. Just like we wear red glasses, the world we see is a world filtered by red glasses. If our eyes are blue, then what we see is the blue world. What kind of thoughts and mentality we have, what kind of world we will see.

How to face others? There is a saying in The Analects that all men are brothers within the four seas. If we can face others with such a mentality, then we will not be nervous and afraid when facing others.

Education in China is competitive education. In this competitive environment, it is easy for people to form the idea that I am not good enough, I am not capable enough, others are competitors, others are my enemies, and the world is cruel. Formed such an idea, then there will be pressure when facing the crowd, and most people can adapt, but there will be contradictions and frictions between them, and sometimes there will be crazy killings and suicides. Some people, naturally sensitive, feel that they are under too much pressure and are unwilling to face it.

In fact, people cooperate and coexist. This is the truth of mankind, and others are their own partners. It is this truth that people are responsible for their own work and coexist and prosper together, so people's life thoughts should conform to this fact so that they will not have many troubles.

People should form such a life concept. I'm fine, I'm capable, others are my partners, we work together, live happily together, and the world is beautiful. If we have such a life concept, then when we face others, the pressure will be less and we can live a happy and free life.

We should have this idea when facing others. Others are here to help us live a better life. Is our life assistant. Including those who treat us with evil eyes, is also to enable us to distinguish the boundaries between people, let us define the boundaries and functions of moral laws more clearly, let us understand the dangers and horrors of path of evil, and let us firmly take the road of justice.

Therefore, we can divide life into normal life and abnormal life. We shouldn't lose confidence in a normal life just because we have experienced some terrible abnormal lives. We can take up legal weapons and defend ourselves in an abnormal life.

If you want to live a happy life, you must understand that all troubles and pains are caused by your own thoughts, which have nothing to do with other people and things, and are by no means caused by other people and things.

If a person wants to live a happy life, he must learn to be responsible for his emotions, for everything that happens to him, and never put the blame on others.

Then, if you want to reduce the troubles of life. Pay attention to separate your own life topic from other people's life topic. In other words, we should pay attention to separating our own affairs from others'. Don't interfere in other people's affairs, and don't let others interfere in your own affairs. This will cut off most of the troubles. In most troubles, you will find yourself thinking about other people's affairs, or others are interfering in your affairs.

On the basis of being responsible for yourself and breaking away from other people's life topics, establish relationships with others, groups and society.

What kind of relationship is established on this basis? It is a horizontal relationship, not a vertical relationship. Vertical relationship refers to the relationship of competition, or the relationship of high and low. Horizontal relations are equal partnerships, mutual respect, equality and freedom.

On the basis of topic separation, self-responsibility and horizontal relationship, actively establish relationships with others, respect, trust and love others unconditionally, so as to establish close and friendly relationships with others.

Why take the initiative? Because you want to build a good relationship with others? This is our own project, not others'. We must do it ourselves.

Why should we respect, trust and love others? Because only respect can win respect, only trust can win trust and only love can win love. There is no other way.

We should not only respect, trust and love others, but also respect, trust and love others unconditionally. Because building a good relationship is our own business. Respecting, trusting and loving others is our own business. Once the conditions are added. That is to ask others is to interfere in other people's life topics. Interfering in other people's affairs by yourself will inevitably bring unreasonable cutting and chaotic troubles.

Be able to love others unconditionally. First of all, we should be able to stand on our own feet. Self-reliance means not only economic independence, but also spiritual independence. Spiritual independence refers to a person's spiritual growth from a state of needing love from others to a state of giving love to others.

We have established a good relationship with others. How can we experience happiness in the relationship? That is to contribute to others. When we feel that we have made contributions to others, the collective and the society, we will feel that we are happy.

I recommend you to read two books, The Courage of Not Being Liked and The Courage of Being Happy. These two books are a set of books. This set of books subverts human cognition with the life thought of psychologist Adler, deeply analyzes the problems of life and interpersonal relationship, gives solutions to life troubles and interpersonal troubles, and points out the road to happiness for human beings.

This book is written in the form of dialogue, that is to say, it was written by two people, so it is easier to read.