Man: Wife, ask your parents for some money when you buy a house. In-laws don't pay to buy a house, should the woman's parents pay?

1. Put yourself in others' shoes. In a family, everyone should put themselves in the other person's shoes, not just know what the other person pays or wait for the other person to pay. This is no good, because in every family, we should be a big group and work together to build a warm family.

Qin Doudou is a pet of his parents at home. Parents spoil Doudou very much, but Doudou knows his position and will not be lawless because his parents spoil him. Instead, he knows that it is not easy for his parents. It is his own happiness to spoil himself as a daughter, but he knows how to cherish this kind of pet. No matter what his parents say about himself, he always listens to his parents carefully, not against them.

Such peas have good friends everywhere, so at the age of marriage, two people who knew Abin were friends at first, and soon became boyfriend and girlfriend. Doudou is a devoted woman, and what must be determined is eternity, so her communication with Abin, like ordinary couples, goes with the flow and falls in love for a long time. Naturally, it is necessary to enter the wedding auditorium. Doug calculated that he and Abin would be in love for five or six years.

When getting married, according to the current marriage requirements, the man must have a house, but the situation in Abin's family is different. I have a younger brother at home, and my parents don't mean to be rich. Abin's own job is stable, but he is still reluctant to buy a house in full, but Doug doesn't mind, just saying to get married first and then work hard to buy a house together. Abin said yes, as long as the husband and wife are United.

In fact, before getting married, Doudou's parents said that they would give Doudou money to buy a house, but Doudou refused, saying that only one daughter would give her money to buy a house. What if her parents are sick or need money in the future? It will be bad if she can't get the money. Parents didn't say anything about Doudou's filial piety, but in the past few years after marriage, Abin's job was unstable and his salary was not as high as Doudou's, so he gradually became negative, but Doudou encouraged him.

I often quarrel with Doug. Even the house that two people were optimistic about was originally intended to be bought with money. However, how can Abin have the heart to buy such a house? Even my mother-in-law said she couldn't understand Abin, saying it was too tight. In fact, Doug didn't force Abin, but Abin put a lot of pressure on himself. Even when buying a house, Abin said to Doudou, "Wife, buy a house and let your parents pay some money!" "

4. Doudou agreed with Abin before marriage that he would not rely on his parents, but Abin went to say so and answered Abin, "Why, your parents didn't pay", so Abin felt that the ability to buy a house now must be a burden, so the more Doudou encouraged himself, the more impatient he became, which led to his unwillingness to do anything. On the contrary, he prefers plain. Looking at Abin like this, Doudou doesn't know what to do, and he wants to do it for himself.

5. Conclusion: Doudou is a family-centered woman and Abin is a man, so it is more important to understand each other. Many times, after a man gets married, there are often many negative stages. At this time, he likes to blame himself. He doesn't think he has made progress, but blames the stress on his wife. More importantly, he feels that the present situation is very good. In this case, even if Doudou has an idea, he seems very weak and doesn't know himself.

So how should married women communicate to solve the current situation when they meet such a man?