Why do you say that marriage has become a lifelong burden for many people?

In the past, people could fall in love and get married, but now people get married when they are sick. This is a joke, but it is thought-provoking after laughing. People rush to marriage with all kinds of expectations and longings for a better future, but what is the final result? Marriage can not only bring happiness, but also become the biggest burden in this life. When a relationship breaks down, even if you can divorce, it is the end of a lifetime of regret. Everything that runs counter to the original intention is regret. In this regard, don't put any chicken soup in it, lest others deceive themselves. Many people say that this is a problem of marriage itself, and even think that marriage is against human nature. In fact, the original intention of getting married is not that complicated. It is a system designed by human beings.

Even if the system itself is only for the reproduction of human beings and the protection of children's private rights, marriage itself is not a problem, but a problem. People in marriage. People's biased understanding of marriage is the real reason for the abnormal and distorted marriage. Many people choose to get married just because they want to have a relationship and then enjoy it. This kind of person basically has no sense of responsibility for marriage. They always take the initiative, not take the initiative to pay. They regard marriage as their inexhaustible nutrition; Accordingly, once the marriage encounters some setbacks or faces responsibilities, they will choose to escape and seek. Betrayal, in the present marriage, seems to be no exception. I often comfort those who have experienced emotional betrayal.

You are only a member with a high probability. It is normal to meet, but you are lucky if you don't meet. Now betrayal is so common because the bottom line of marriage is too low, because people have lost respect for marriage, they flaunt another kind of freedom and independence, and even regard betrayal as a symbol of ability. Marriage is not to sit back and watch success, but to take responsibility and responsibility; In marriage, troubles and tribulations are indispensable. Traitors always think that troubles and tribulations are caused by finding the wrong person and getting the wrong marriage. Men betray women and say that women are not gentle enough; A woman betrays a man, and he says that men are not motivated enough. If you are willing to accept it, it's all nonsense. Betrayal is nothing more than putting on the coat of marriage.

Then look for satisfaction in another relationship without scruple. More and more marriages are no longer mutual adversity, but carefully calculated transactions. I cook and you wash the dishes. If I earn 20 cents more, you will suffer twice more. This is not bad. To make matters worse, it is the kind that regards marriage as a transaction. Before closing, it is a gift from the woman or a property preservation agreement of the man. Don't you feel too tired? If marriage needs to be guarded everywhere, always careful and deliberate, what marriage is there? However, if you are not careful and do not calculate, you will eventually suffer. You must also be yourself. Therefore, marriage is really a burden.

Unless you find a simple person from the beginning, and you are also a simple person. There are always people who believe that there is true love, love and marriage in this world. As long as we are together, no matter rich or poor, we can cherish each other and rely on each other. Of course, they also admit that this kind of love and marriage has become scarce enough to think about. It runs in the family, regardless of the initial intention, the original intention of getting married is nothing more than being happy together, and nothing more than being happy together. Is it difficult? In fact, it is not difficult. The difficult thing is that people are too greedy in marriage, indulge casually, give up easily and forget their original intention. The Buddha said that after practicing for 3,000 years, once the heart is heavy, it is equivalent to wasting all the achievements.