When a woman gives birth, she may have to experience all kinds of embarrassment. How to deal with it?

The most embarrassing thing about the production is to expose our privacy to others without reservation. In front of strangers, our privacy is embarrassing and we can't help shouting, and our ugliest side will be exposed to strangers.

Although everyone will experience it, most women are girls before giving birth. When they are girls, their privacy is exposed without reservation when they give birth. Therefore, in addition to physical embarrassment, there is also psychological embarrassment in the process of giving birth.

The pain of natural labor is directly proportional to the degree of embarrassment, which is just a little at the beginning. With the pain getting worse, the degree of embarrassment is getting stronger and stronger.

Embarrassment shows up slightly-skin preparation

Skin preparation is the first embarrassment in the production process. I didn't do my homework when I gave birth, and I didn't know anything about skin preparation. When the nurse told me to lie down, I took off my pants and said that I wanted to prepare skin. I was at a loss, but I didn't know what to do, and I didn't dare to move or ask.

It was really embarrassing when the nurse made preparations and began to scrape the small forest with a razor. Although there was no expression on her face, her heart was already full of Ma Benteng, and she really wanted to find something to cover her face, but she still had to pretend that nothing was wrong.

Embarrassment slowly climbs to the top of the tree-internal examination

If the skin preparation is just awkward and slightly exposed, then the upgraded version of embarrassment is a positive finger of obstetrics-internal examination.

Internal examination, as the name implies, the nurse will put her finger into the birth canal to see how many fingers have been opened. At first, every time the contractions come, my heart refuses internal examination, so I can bear it. When it hurts every three minutes, I can't wait for the nurse to come to the internal examination quickly. It hurts so much that I can't stand it. I really want the nurse to keep coming to see if the cervix is fully open.

Embarrassment can be seen by looking up-breaking water with bare buttocks

By the time you reach five or six fingers, people are too painful to speak completely. Hold the railing by the bed tightly with both hands, and the nurse said after another internal examination, let's help you take off your pants. Lying naked in bed like this, suffering from contractions.

Suddenly two or three doctors came, and one of them said after internal examination: This condition is good, tall, with a wide pelvis and a small fetus, and the water has not been broken yet. I'll break the water manually, and repeated it several times: I'll do it, I'll do it, and when I finished looking excited, I put my hand deep into it, and I no longer feel pain, but I feel uncomfortable. At that moment, I really felt like an animal, treating me like a fish, and I really felt no dignity.

Embarrassment in the sky-the biggest embarrassment in life is in the delivery bed.

I was unconscious when I went to the delivery bed. I walked naked from the delivery room, but I don't remember how I walked in naked. Embarrassment has long been forgotten.

It only hurts to open the uterus, but it hurts even more when I go to the delivery bed, and I have to exert myself. Although I have been holding back from shouting, the parturient in the delivery bed next door has been shouting: No more babies, you let my mother come, I won't give birth, crying and shouting, and the doctor has stopped comforting and started to scold her.

yes, the biggest embarrassment in our eyes is the pain that we have never experienced before. It is nothing to the doctor, and it is obviously painful to death, and we have to be scolded by the doctor.

In addition to physical embarrassment, during the process of delivery, I will always hear something intentionally or unintentionally, which will eventually make people feel even more embarrassed.

That woman has no pain in giving birth.

It is very painful to give birth, and I just can't help shouting. I just can't help it. It's useless to comfort when it hurts, but comfort can make us feel that our pain is seen by others. But the reality is that it obviously hurts, and family members or doctors will say: women have children like this, so how can it not hurt? Forget it if you don't comfort me, and you will be brought back.

I want to vent my emotions because of my pain, and I have to be scolded.

You should be strong when you are a mother

The woman who gave birth next door kept crying, and the doctor said, You should be strong when you are a mother. The girl said it was my first time to be a mother, too!

It is obvious that I was a girl before I gave birth, just because I have to be strong when I am a mother, and everyone says that being a mother is tough, but many people forget that we were girls and children before we became mothers, and we have no right to cry when we became mothers. Once you act like a child, you will be scolded.

Embarrassment is really embarrassing, so you'd better be mentally prepared before giving birth.

Understand the production process and do your homework

What is the production process? What experiences will there be in the production process, such as skin preparation, internal inspection, such as artificial water breaking, the more you know, the more confident you will be, and you will not feel embarrassed because of ignorance.

It's best to wear a long skirt when giving birth

When entering the delivery room, most of the time you are naked, so wearing a skirt will be more practical than wearing pants, and remember to bring a spare one, so it's not too embarrassing to put it on and off conveniently.

Don't have frequent internal examinations

At the beginning of uterine contraction, many mothers can't help but feel pain. It's actually unnecessary to have a nurse come to see the cervix frequently, especially for primiparas. Wait until the contractions are every 3 minutes. Let the nurse look for you and try not to take the initiative to find a nurse.

Learn more about pain relief in childbirth

Giving birth to a child also needs to do enough homework, such as how to breathe when it hurts and how to swing from side to side to relieve the pain of contractions. When Li Ai, the host, gave birth, her husband has been helping her to do something to relieve her pain. Her birth process is also called textbook-style, so mothers can learn with her husband in advance.

The process of production is really embarrassing, but there is no way to avoid it. We must strive to be strong inside.

It's already very cold in the northern cities in November. There are still six days before the due date, and there is nothing wrong with my stomach. I still buy some puerperal daily necessities in the shopping mall. In the afternoon, I went to another hospital with my husband to see the environment, because the affiliated hospital of this medical university was overcrowded and the beds were tight. Although I have acquaintances to help me, I always feel too busy, so I consider changing hospitals. When I went back at 6 o'clock in the evening, I found running water below: "It can't be that the amniotic fluid broke. "So the family picked up the maternity package and went directly to the hospital.

when the medical staff heard that the amniotic fluid was broken, they were also very nervous, so they sent it directly to have a prenatal examination such as B-ultrasound, and asked her husband to go through the hospitalization formalities. The result came out soon, saying nothing and needing to give birth. Mine hasn't arrived in the delivery room yet, so I need to open three fingers before I can enter the ward. I will lie down and rest on the bed in the ward. There are 6 beds in the small room, and all of them live in the expectant mother. Plus my family, I feel that the house price is very chaotic. I didn't feel strange at this time, but my embarrassing journey began.

one: the loss of appearance, crying and cursing caused by painful contractions, and the good image was swept away. At 9 o'clock in the evening, my stomach began to hurt, one after another. At first, I was able to hold on and see if one or two of them were crying. They felt so delicate when they scolded their husbands, so I must not lose my temper, and then I snorted slowly. By about 1 o'clock in the morning, I couldn't hold on, started crying, and then I wanted to swear. Although the nurses who came from time to time told me to be calm, not to cry and shout, it took effort to save energy and have a baby. Anyway, I don't care about the eyes of other family members around me, so I want to cry and call names. I have kept the image of a lady and my kindness for many years, and I am no different from a shrew.

second, the scissors hand of the male doctor gave me a finger check when there was a room full of people. At eleven o'clock in the evening, a doctor and a nurse came on duty, put down a curtain on the side of the hospital bed to cover it a little, so they gestured to me, and the nurse said they would have a finger check. The nurse instructed me how to take off my pants, then lie flat and bend my legs. I was extremely embarrassed. The doctor was a male doctor and was the only one on duty at night. I feel humiliated and a little painful. After the finger examination, the doctor said, "relax, we have to wait." "My husband asked the nurse," What is the situation to go to the delivery room? "The nurse said," you can't arrange to go to the delivery room until you have three fingers. You've just opened your mouth. Wait, don't shout. If you're tired after a while, it's boring to have a baby. "

three: when shaving off the lower hair, people will see it all, and there is a male doctor not far away. When it was one o'clock, the doctor came to check his fingers again. It has not been arranged to enter the delivery room. By 2: 3, the doctor said, "Go into the delivery room." I feel a little comforted. However, after entering the delivery room, under the arrangement of the midwife, I stripped off my lower body clothes. And I was arranged to lie on the operating table and shave the hair below. I suddenly felt that I had been seen, and I felt ugly for a while, so I said, "Can you keep him away?". "I mean the male doctor. The midwife elder sister smiled and said, "OK, as long as you are successful, it doesn't matter if you don't want him. "Then he said to him," Dr. Yang, you go to the next room and have a rest. I'll ask Xiao Zhang to call you if something happens. "The male doctor went away. Leaving only a midwife and a little nurse. They treat people very well and keep chatting, so as not to make me feel too embarrassed.

four: I gave birth to not only a baby, but also a lump of shit: at 5 o'clock, I felt that I was going to give birth. Under the guidance of the midwife, I tried my best to breathe as she asked, but I still couldn't help but gasp. The stomachache turned out to be worse, and the midwife told me to exert myself evenly. It's going to be born soon. She said that it's 7 fingers now. If you hold on, you can give birth at 1 fingers. Then I was naked on the hard operating table until almost seven o'clock, and I felt like pulling. The midwife arranged for me to inhale and exhale and exert pressure on my abdomen. The nurse said that the child's head leaked out and then told me not to push hard. To tell the truth, I have no strength. At this time, I just felt like taking a shit, and suddenly I felt relaxed: the baby was born. I subconsciously looked under me and found that the little nurse was cleaning up something like poop. I thought it was placenta: don't throw my placenta away. The nurse said, the placenta hasn't come down yet. This is your Baba. Suddenly an indescribable embarrassment made me feel ashamed. The midwife smiled and comforted: You are a very good mother. You see, we were born without a doctor.

I believe that mothers who have experienced childbirth should know that they have to go through many embarrassing situations before and after childbirth, which makes them very shy and dissatisfied. If they know in advance that they are fine, they should at least be psychologically prepared, but many people have no idea how uncomfortable it is when it comes to embarrassment. Today, let's take a look at what embarrassing situations they have to go through before and after childbirth.

First of all, the expectant mother has to go through the "internal examination", which is actually to judge whether the prepared uterine opening is open and suitable for normal delivery. Generally, doctors will use their fingers to go deep into the vagina of expectant mothers to check the size of the cervix, vaginal elasticity, softness and hardness.

This makes every expectant mother feel shy and embarrassed. If a male doctor has an internal examination, it will be even more embarrassing. I dare not tell my husband about this kind of thing. In fact, there is no good way to deal with this. If your husband is a doctor, he can help with the internal examination. Otherwise, pray that a female doctor will do the internal examination for you. In addition, the anal examination is similar.

The second is "skin preparation", which means shaving the hair outside the vagina of the expectant mother, mainly to avoid scratches or infections on the skin of infants and young children, and secondly, it is very helpful for the suture and healing of postpartum wounds. This is also very embarrassing. Be prepared in advance, pray for a gentle female doctor, or cover your face.

There is also the fact that if you are a male doctor during childbirth, you will be very embarrassed. In the delivery room, you will have no privacy, so you can only wear a sick suit and be completely exposed to the public. It is also very embarrassing and shy to achieve such a success, but you should forget it at that time, because it is very painful, and you will not think so much. What I can do is to be prepared for this and know that such a thing is going to happen.

Finally, there is the problem of defecation. I believe many mothers have this experience, trying hard to let the baby out, but what comes out is defecation, which is very embarrassing, because the intestine is squeezed by the fetus, which will make people really want to get into the ground, so it is necessary to urinate and defecate in advance to reduce the embarrassment during childbirth.

After reading so many answers, I feel that I am the most unfortunate person. All the bad things have happened to me, such as male doctors in obstetrics and gynecology, naked eyes and incontinence. God, I still have the courage to live in this world.

Last summer vacation, I finally ushered in the landing of my second treasure, which fulfilled my second child dream with my husband. But what happened in the delivery room is still vivid today.

On that day, I felt the obvious delivery of the fetus, because I knew that the delivery of the pregnant woman meant delivery, and it was the due date, so I was sure that the fetus was eager to meet us. I called my husband who was still at work. I took a taxi with Dabao and rushed to the hospital that I had contacted in advance. My brother worked in the hospital, so he quickly arranged a bed for me and had a checkup. My husband also arrived at this time.

For some personal reasons, only cesarean section can be performed, and doctors also say that cesarean section has the highest security factor for the lives of adults and fetuses. Soon the doctor made an arrangement and scheduled the operation at 6: 45 pm. However, the embarrassment began from the moment I received the notice of operation.

Embarrassment 1. Skin preparation

In a short time, several nurses and sisters pushed their cars to my bedside and said that they wanted to prepare skin, and all the male family members of my husband, children and other beds in the ward were driven out. I don't know if they say the same thing everywhere. I was prepared by an elderly nurse, who explained the essentials of action to the nurse next to me while doing it. Oh, my God, I know you are medical students and have seen everything, but have you ever considered my feelings ... < P > Embarrassed second, the male doctor in obstetrics and gynecology < P > I was lying on a stretcher and pushed into the obstetric operating room by two nurses and my husband, and Dabao followed me all the way and looked at me with a strange look. He knew.

When I entered the operating room, I was completely blinded. Besides three female nurses, there were three male doctors: an anesthesiologist, a surgeon and a doctor's assistant. What a shame! The anesthesiologist is my husband's middle school classmate or an acquaintance. How can I meet anyone in the future? If I can, I'd rather not have an acquaintance than a male doctor, which is too shameful.

I tried my best to make myself feel calm and not think too much. I closed my eyes slowly and kept breathing at a constant speed. After I heard the doctors discussing the operation, a nurse disinfected me, and finally I gradually lost consciousness under the effect of anesthetic. In a blur, the doctor held the child's leg and told me that it was a boy. I glanced at the child, with a white and wrinkled face. If I hadn't given birth to a child, I would have been really scared.

Embarrassment III. Urine incontinence

This was told to him by my husband and classmates later, and I didn't tell him. For this reason, my husband laughed at me for a long time. I was incontinent when I was just anesthetized and didn't insert a catheter ... I think this may be because of frequent urination and urgency recently, and I was nervous when I went to the operating table.