Do you still regard vulgarity as humor?

Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes.

Some people like to be quiet, some people like to be lively, some people talk softly, some people talk readily, some people talk obliquely, and some people speak bluntly, so there will always be people who like to "joke".

Jokers are rare "condiments" in life and work, and they are good at adjusting the atmosphere. But there is a kind of person who is self-righteous "humor".

Tell you a little story that happened around you.

I just joined the company at the beginning of this year and have been familiar with the new environment for a week. My new colleague is easy to talk to and get along with. Different from the previous environment, everyone is wearing several masks to act.

After a long time, I suddenly felt that wearing a mask was not bad, at least everyone showed their best side. It's embarrassing not to have a real side.

The number of people in the new company was only over 30 at the beginning, and the average age was around 30. Everyone works outside, and communication is not that difficult. But there are always one or two people who feel that they can say anything after a long time.

On this day, everyone is very at leisure. There are only a few male colleagues chatting in the office, and the topic is not taboo, without considering my unmarried female colleague.

The topic is nothing more than infidelity, affair, equality between men and women, and property issues. For example, if I have money and conditions, I must find three or four lovers, and women of different personality types have to go through it. Or who has how much money and how many predecessors. So-and-so cheated, and so-and-so illegitimate child.

I didn't interrupt or get up to leave. I don't know why, because I work here. Why should I leave? Just try to reduce your sense of existence.

Finally, when I have dinner after work, the company stipulates that I need to wear work clothes. I took off my work clothes and put them on the back of the office chair. At this time, a male colleague who was not in our department said, "Yo, take off your clothes." . I am not a white girl who just came out to work, and I am not a little girl who knows nothing. I naturally understand what he means.

I don't like to laugh at work, but I have a cold face every day. Maybe I'm usually nice to my colleagues and I haven't had any problems with anyone, so I think I'm good at "bullying".

Because the topic of their chat was too harsh just now, I replied unkindly, mind your mouth. Turn around and clock out. Leave a few of them staring blankly at each other.

So that they didn't discuss these topics in the place where I appeared in a short period of time, and they didn't say anything out of line to me again. As for work, it is a "disciplined" handover. I don't like this.

It was "calm" for a month, but someone was always mean.

"Ah, your clothes are very beautiful today."

"This is the first time you have worn this style of clothes."

"Did your boyfriend choose this skirt for you?"

"No one in the company looks better than you wearing lipstick."

"Your fingers are very slender."

Seeing this, maybe everyone just thinks that colleagues praise you normally. But think about it carefully, what a person cares about is what you wear, what you wear and what you wear every day. I really have goose bumps all over. I think this is verbal harassment.

New colleague, sweet-looking, gentle voice and good temper. One day, I was wearing a sling and a shirt. I used to dress normally, but the mean "male colleague" never changed his frivolous words and said to his face, "I wish my collar was lower." The new colleague looked embarrassed and didn't know how to respond.

Speaking of which, how old is the child married by this cheap "male colleague"? When I first met him, he was harmless and spoke politely. But I don't know if he is really frivolous in his bones, or if he regards his vulgarity as humor.

It's only been half a month, and this "male colleague" has "provoked" me again. Both of them talk like duets. Those words made me uncomfortable all over.

Colleague A smiled and said, "So-and-so (refers to me) seems to be the most beautiful here, right?"

Cheap male colleague: "Of course."

Colleague A: "It's a pity that I got married, otherwise I would definitely chase someone."

A mean male colleague: "Me too, I got married early."

Colleague A: "So-and-so is too difficult to make an appointment."

A mean male colleague: "Well, what do you mean?"

Colleague A: "Every time you ask her out to play, she doesn't care."

A mean male colleague: "If someone has a boyfriend, they will definitely not agree."

Colleague A: "Boyfriend, boyfriend is not here. How about making an appointment?"

How noble can I be if I can say such a thing directly without considering other people's feelings?

I don't lose my temper, not without it. I tolerate it, not that I am afraid. I won't argue about some topics. It's not that I'm afraid, but that there's no need to lower my quality.

You mean: the dog bit you and you want to bite back? Of course you can't bite. Just throw a brick and pat it.

Maybe my silence made them more unscrupulous.

Anytime, anywhere, as long as I am here, you have to hype for me. I can't stand it any longer.

"If I don't say a word, I think I have no temper. Is that interesting? That's enough, don't chat for me in the future, I'm not interested in your chat. "

As soon as the voice fell, the office was quiet again. On the other hand, I continue my work.

There are always people who regard politeness as a blessing. For such a person, you don't have to be polite or submit to humiliation. Girls must protect themselves outside and don't let some people change from verbal harassment to physical contact. Don't be afraid, because your silence will only irritate them.

There is no need to be "embarrassed" to refuse just because you are a colleague. But don't take over, and don't let the other party think that you are interested in these "vulgar" jokes, so as to make the next harassment. A clear refusal can avoid further escalation.