How did the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law come about? How to prevent it?

I watched the news the other day. A man committed suicide because of the contradiction between his mother-in-law and his daughter-in-law, and was later saved by the police. Indeed, a man's life in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be easy. It is said that the key to dealing with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law depends on men's emotional intelligence, which makes sense. There are several situations in which men deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law:

The first situation, which most men choose, is to protect their mothers and restrain their wives. Whether it's the culture of filial piety or the heartache for mother, most men will protect their mother when they encounter the problems of their mother-in-law. Sometimes, in order to solve conflicts, men are always easier to get along with than their mothers. If they can't, they can use violence. Domestic violence is not unheard of, but I have never seen any man attack his mother, mostly his wife. Of course, some daughters-in-law are very tough, so they are fearless and unreasonable, and they will definitely be settled. Most daughter-in-law still can't get out, not only for educational reasons, but also for moral support. When men choose parent-child relationship instead of husband-wife relationship, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will continue. No daughter-in-law wants to be bullied and resisted, and this man will be very painful. In this war without smoke, there is no good life. That's why the man in the news committed suicide because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

In the second case, protect your wife, regardless of your mother. Of course, a man who can do this will realize that his mother is just a person, and some people have shortcomings, not because he is a mother, but because he is different from ordinary people. He can also resist the secular pressure, and he is not afraid of his mother scolding him for marrying his daughter-in-law and forgetting his mother. Maybe this man doesn't have deep feelings with his mother, so he will love his wife more. Unmarried people think that a man who is good to his mother will be good to his wife. On the contrary, a man who is kind to his mother may not be kind to his wife.

The third situation, neutrality, is recognized as the most reasonable way. It is also a magic weapon to calm the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but many men don't know how to remain neutral and how well they know their mother and wife. For those who know a lot of routines, many men may be confused. People do what they do before they do it. In front of their sons, they don't know how good they are to their daughter-in-law. When the son is away, he will make things difficult. There are different faces, and many men can't tell them apart. Some people as long as they can win, no matter what. Whoever wants to win will do whatever it takes.

How high emotional intelligence does a man need to handle the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? Life is like acting, both inside and outside the play are wonderful.