Boyfriend chats with other girls.

Whether you continue to be with him or not, in order to master your future happiness, you need to learn the ability of self-emotional control and debugging urgently, and provide enough emotional value for your future partner.

According to your own description, your mood is in an unstable state. When talking to the opposite sex, you will lose your temper and break up, not to mention that you have always been cold to him.

Your lack of security has seriously affected your ability to judge things emotionally.

Maybe you have to say that I have been hurt so much before, so I can't help it. If a person likes me, he must like all of me. But if you put yourself in the other's shoes, your request is not like asking the house for a bride price, and you can get it at once.

In a man's mind, he will feel that if he has to face such a big emotional burden all his life, this kind of pain is like having an unhealed wound on his body, and he will bleed and become inflamed at both ends in three days. So no matter how attractive you are in other ways, it is difficult for him to consider you as the object of marriage.

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In the early days of love, both parties are willing to pay attention to the advantages of attracting each other, but once the relationship changes from the early days of love to a long-term and stable relationship, both parties will pay more attention to the shortcomings that the other party can't stand.

In a sense, just like Kanekin's law, this obvious shortcoming greatly drags down your value in the emotional market.

In this information age, at this age of marriage. Everyone may give themselves more choices when facing marriage. When you take this short board to find your other half, you have to regret to say that many girls who feel that their conditions are not as good as yours will be more sought after in the marriage and love market.

Your previous performance can be regarded as a dead end, but he still chose to restore normal contact with you. Prove that you should have some objective value to satisfy him, so he didn't choose to stay away completely. But this does not really solve the problem. If you can't prove that you can solve your emotional problems, your relationship is likely to linger at the current stage.

You left too many negative memories in his mind. If you want to restore the relationship to the previous stage or push it further, you need to fill in the hole you dug before-from the perspective of input and output, it may be more cost-effective to find a new relationship.

Of course, if you have a firm determination to recover, you need to adjust your emotions, stop transmitting negative emotions to him, maintain a good existence of being at arm's length, and at the same time enhance your value and start attracting him again. Advance your relationship steadily according to the scientific rhythm.

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My ex-boyfriend and I work in the same unit and meet every day. It's been a year since we broke up, and the company occasionally has activities and parties to attend together. We haven't talked much since we broke up,

He never contacted me again. Occasionally, when we approach or pass by on the road, we can always feel the corner of his eye watching me. But I don't think it makes any sense. I took the initiative to care about him several times last year and got a thank you. On the last day of last year, I contacted him again and he said that he had put me down.

I feel so stupid. I really regret being with him. Otherwise, we may speak freely, and now we can't even say hello to ordinary colleagues. I found that he has been close to another girl in the company recently. Sometimes I really hope not to see him again, but I have to.

Now this job is ok for me, the salary is ok, and the pressure is not great. I want to get out of this state completely this year, so I got a fitness card, practiced yoga on New Year's Day, went out to get together with friends, and participated in outdoor climbing in clubs.

In recent months, I have also contacted several boys, but none of them are particularly suitable or like them. I just want to ask the teacher, what kind of attitude do I need to face my ex-boyfriend so that I won't be bothered by his mood swings?

Now I feel that he and that girl are going to be together or have been together. I really don't know what expression to face him with. Please find a way!

The instructor's answer:

You want your emotions not to be bound by your ex-boyfriend, and the most important thing is to learn to enjoy life.

From your description, you took part in yoga, partying and mountain climbing, all of which were crustily skin of head. You do it for the sake of doing it, to distract yourself, not really like it, not from your heart.

If you really like yoga, partying and mountain climbing, why do you have so much energy and mind to pay attention to your ex-boyfriend? Your energy is on him now. See if he looks at you more every day and talk to any girl in the company. Others can perceive your state. Only by learning to really enjoy life will your whole state be different.

Psychologically, you should let go of your ex-boyfriend completely and don't care about his life or death. Deep down, you still want to save it, and your attention is on him every day. Pay attention to his performance is that you will often look at him, and if you look at him, he will look at you. He always looks at you and you haven't changed. You can't attract him.

You really should start a new life, think about how to improve yourself and focus on how to find a new boyfriend. You should expect a better man in your heart, and then your mentality will be fine. When you can really accept another man, your attitude towards your ex-boyfriend will change completely. He can feel your change, and only in this way can you be attractive to him.

A person's aura is emitted from the inside out. What kind of mood you are, others will see what kind of you are, embrace life and make yourself wonderful, and others will feel a wonderful you.