Basic morals in life: Don’t kill other people’s hopes

I first started teaching IELTS five years ago. Half of the children in that class were older than me. I worked hard every day to maintain my image as a teacher. A girl in the class said that she had submitted her design work to a magazine, but two months had passed and she still had no response. She laughed out loud. I thought to myself that the lack of response probably means that she was not selected and not notified. In order to affirm her work, I added, "Oh, that kind of magazine doesn't even read outside manuscripts." Actually, there is no second part of the sentence. She said, "You paint very well," but suddenly remembered that I had never seen her works, and held back the second half of the sentence. I raised my eyes and met her expression full of despair but I didn't know why. I didn’t know it at the time, but what was more sad than denying a work was to kill all her hopes. If she accepted external manuscripts, she could at least keep working hard, but my words were like a valve that cut off her motivation without mercy.

She is one year older than me. Fortunately, she already has her own complete values ??and life pattern, and she continues to work hard. Three months later, she told me, "My work was published." I didn't know why she wanted to tell me this. She was busy saying congratulations, but she said with grievance, "Why do you say that they don't actually read external manuscripts?" ". Five years have passed and we have kept in touch. She now earns 5,000 yuan per picture. She has long forgotten what happened back then. I feel grateful every time. Fortunately, her faith cannot be destroyed with a few words. Otherwise, I would not feel comfortable with it. What a mistake Zhidi made.

My best friend started an internship in her senior year, because it was a dream place, and she was very happy every day even if she didn’t get paid. At a classmate dinner, a boy said, "Your company just deceives college students into working. How much money can you save by recruiting a group of free interns a year?" My best friend and I looked at each other, knowing that he actually had good intentions behind his blunt words, so we didn’t say anything. My best friend was silent for a moment, looked at me and said, "Actually, I feel that I am making progress every day. Is my choice the right one?". A year and a half later, my best friend became a regular employee and paid taxes ranging from 2,000 to 5,000 every month. None of us mentioned our hesitation at the time, but we were extremely grateful to her for her persistence.

Everyone in this world has done bad things out of good intentions, and there will always be someone who will tell you, "Oh, what you did was wrong?" "It makes no sense for you to do this." Just like "Crazy" In "Zootopia", everyone told the rabbit, "You are a herbivore, you can't be a policeman." The advice they gave must be what they think is right, but is it right? The limitations drawn by individuals only apply to themselves, but not to everyone. If you live according to their wishes, you will probably grow up like them, but do you really like how they look? Likewise, why should we force others to look the way we want them to.

There were rumors that Yang Mi would remake the Chinese version of "Gossip Girl". Although Yang Mi clarified the rumors, she said during the interview, "You should try more when you are young, because it doesn't matter if you are wrong." "Yes, you are still so young, so what if you are wrong? Besides, what does it mean to be right? What is wrong?

One of the best stories I have ever heard is "A man firmly believed that there were aliens and looked up at the stars every day to look for them. After two months, he did not find the aliens, but he cured his long-term disease." Cervical Spondylosis. "Life may not give you exactly what you want, but she will reward all your efforts in her own way.

A very good male friend has been chasing a girl for ten years, from the age of 15 to 25. It's funny to think about it. What I hate most is others dictating my life, but I have poured cold water on him more than once, and I have repeatedly persuaded him to give up with a sense of superiority that I don't know where it comes from. He never compromises, but he turns around. The moment decisively caught us all off guard. It's hard to say what is right or whether someone's persistence is worth it. He spent ten years guarding his sincerity. I asked him later, did he regret his youth? He replied that he had no regrets because he had tried his best. Yes, because I tried my best.

There is a very famous motto in the Celtics training hall: "What hurts more, the pain of hard work or the pain of regret? Which one is the pain of hard work or the pain of regret?" More pain? )” I think it’s regret. The feeling of emptiness that cannot be grasped in the midnight dream, and the regret that tells ourselves that it will never be like this again is the most fatal blow in our hearts. What we blame is our past selves. However, the kind of jokes that occasionally come to mind and say "Yes, it's a pity, but I tried my best" will eventually become the power to warm us and grow into our strong armor. The good gay friend spent ten years trying to get closer to the goddess in his heart. In order to make her pay more attention to him, he made many attempts and participated in many activities. All of these became a shining moment in his later life; He got better and didn't pursue the goddess, but he also became what we call an experienced person. Moreover, he has lived his own perfection in the long pursuit process. He does not need another person to fill his life. He is happier than anyone else without any requirements from others.

So, you see, there is no such thing as worthy or unworthy in this world; the dialectical nature of all things is that you can see different definitions when you look at it from different angles. Since there is no absolute right Right or wrong, then, why bother clinging to the current situation and interfering in other people's lives? Likewise, I hope you will hold on to what is in your heart unwaveringly. As time goes by, I hope you will not regret the past when you think about it, but be grateful for the present.

I hope you reach the other shore where you want to go, but if you go to another picturesque place, I think that is also good.