How can I send the most effective message to my ex-boyfriend?

I bet if I ask you, you will remember what you looked like before your date, perfect details. What you wear, what you say, where you go, maybe what you eat.

Do you remember when you started talking?

I bet there will be a lot of awkward silence, small talk, even when you don't talk.

You know "before time"

"Previous time"

Think of it as old times.

Before your date. Erase yourself from your partner's mind. The less you expect, the easier the process will be. No, I'm not saying it's negative. I didn't think it would work, so I gave up.

On the contrary, I hope you understand that your partner no longer owes you anything.

They don't need to text you or call you, and they don't need to reply. When you can accept that the anxiety at this stage disappears. If you say, "Wow, they are responding, it will even help. This must mean something. "

Now you just treat this person as an ordinary person or a girl you are interested in.

The only difference between an ex and a crush is your history. But in fact, your history is your advantage.

Now that you know him, it's easier to participate, unlike other unrequited loves. But because of your history, it is also more difficult than other girls. Let the former catch up with you and build a harmonious relationship. One of the common ways to establish a harmonious relationship is to send short messages.

Now, to build a harmonious relationship, you must talk about it. You can't send a lot of words and have nothing to say.

Do your research and start building a topic library for discussion.

I suggest considering the interests of my predecessor. Start making a list of things they like and dislike. This will make the creative juice flow.

I don't recommend texting unless you have something to say, because then you can't control the conversation. If the conversation has no direction, it may go bad quickly. Your ex may bring bad memories, maybe you will.

Maybe you will slip and become emotional.

The key is that we need to put on a face and prove that we are the unacceptable girl we know.

Now, this raises an interesting question.

How do you control the direction of the conversation?

Simple! This is your first article!

Go fishing with a good hook and bait.

When you are texting, you will find yourself thinking,

"I want to send a text message to my predecessor so that he can join the conversation?"

The truth is, you already know the answer. As the former, one of your advantages is knowledge. You know what your predecessor likes and dislikes, which helps him to speak.

Now when texting, my ex regards it as a game or fishing.

Now, even a city resident like me knows the concept of fishing.

You throw the hook and bait into the water and wait patiently for the bait. Of course, we don't know when the fish will bite, but that's why patience is the most important thing.

Now, use your topic as bait to lure fish. You want a topic that your predecessor is interested in talking about.

Think about what you used to like, even what you used to like.

I know what you are thinking. "Why should I text my ex about something he hates?"

Listen to me. Imagine when you meet a friend and you happen to mention the place you have been. Your friends say they used to hate it there.

Remember how many details they passed on? They went on talking about how bad it was.

Now, because your friends have been continuing their terrible experiences, you are scanning the room to escape.

At this point, you have said goodbye to them four times, and there is no sign that they have given up.

You gave up your life and accepted your fate, and now you will never leave the frozen area.

Make plans a, b, c.

When I am texting, I usually draft a few short messages before sending anything.

All drafts will have a similar format, with a good hook and something that can attract him. I also tried to get some of them to talk about the same topic and some to talk about completely different things.

I often come across an example where I ran to talk to someone, or I noticed that they failed in the conversation. So what would you do? One more topic! I know what you are thinking. "What should I do?" This can be traced back to the original principle of the short message stage.

Think about Sheldon in The Big Bang Theory!

When he hears a song and someone stops singing in a passage, he will finish the song by himself.

That's why it's very important to end the conversation first.

If you have good communication with your ex, you will eventually want to stop in that communication.

It makes your ex want to end that conversation.

Now let's play. You sent your first article, and then you attracted him. You two walked back and forth for a while.

However, you notice now that after the conversation, he is not so sensitive.

Now it's time to strike!

No texting. In fact, you won't text for hours. You may have failed even before you reach this point. This will have a greater impact on predecessors, because it will drive them crazy and you haven't finished your story yet!

Now, if you are like me, you may use technology to serve yourself.

If you don't think you can stop texting right away, I suggest arranging a text message. Today, Android phones can arrange messages according to the time and date you want to send. Third-party apps for iPhone can do the same thing.

To reduce a lot of anxiety, you can arrange to send messages, so you don't have to think and worry.