How to tell a man's motivation to approach you?

Let's talk in detail. This should be very important. -first of all, you have to be clear about a psychology, that is. But you don't know him well. Secondly, you should be clear about the fact that no matter what the purpose of this man is, as long as he wants to get close to you, he must like you. Then under this premise, you should keep a clear head and not objectively analyze the facts just because you like him. Why does he like you? What qualifications do you have to suit his taste? What's his purpose? Meanwhile, don't forget to analyze yourself. Why are you attracted to him? What do you admire and like about him? A man who wants to get close to a woman by other means than introducing his date begins by trying to be an ordinary friend. It doesn't matter who appreciates you or the gardener. Therefore, how to judge this person's motivation requires time to observe his words and deeds. According to your question, I will analyze it from different purposes. 1, because I want to be an ordinary friend. Generally speaking, such people are more inclined to appreciate your ability, character or courage than your appearance. They can learn a lot from you that others can't. They will be proud to be your friends. But they don't have any personal intention to you, that is to say, they don't have a strong possessiveness to you, but they just feel happy with you. Therefore, under this psychological premise, men with different personalities will have different performances in the face of women they admire. If an extroverted man appreciates some of your qualities, he may praise you directly, and the tone you can hear is sincere appreciation. For example, "You did a beautiful job." "You said this sentence with great strength and momentum." "You are always so considerate." Wait a minute, if you listen, it contains appreciation. Introverted men seldom take the initiative to praise you. But they will show their appreciation for you with their actions. For example, nodding your head, smiling admiringly at you, or saying some short compliments: "You are really great, you have done a great job." Wait, you can also hear that they appreciate you. And these direct compliments, compliments, approaching you actively and talking to you mean that they are willing to be friends with you. This kind of person will keep the most common relationship with you because they are not possessive of you. They will text you, call you and tell you some privacy. They won't say anything ambiguous to you, do some ambiguous actions or expressions. The expressions are natural and peaceful with you, and their eyes are open. Often everyone talks all over the world, even when it comes to emotional problems, they stand on their own point of view. When you are together, he won't care about you. On the contrary, if they always really appreciate your looks, praise your looks because they want to get close to you. Or comment on you in a tone of suppressing disdain to attract your attention, then you should know that they really want to be friends with you not because they appreciate you, but belong to the latter two. It's all for sexual purposes. The most obvious difference between ordinary friends and the opposite sex who have a purpose for you is possessiveness and sexual attempt. Whether people who love you or gardeners are sexually interested or attracted to you, they are the original motivation to pursue you. 2. Be interested in you and pursue it. This kind of person will certainly find some aspects of you satisfactory to him, which makes him possessive. It's often your appearance or what makes you special in his eyes. Then in order to pursue you, he will definitely do something to please you, attract your attention and make people move. The most common performance is to contact you often, or simply appear in front of you often and do something that moves you, makes you happy and romantic to attract you. They will ask about your family, your circle of friends, especially your friends of the opposite sex. They will pay attention to your hobbies and do what they like. These people, they will show their excellent qualities in front of you, so they will not be vulgar easily. But they like to show their abilities or knowledge. So I often spend time with you and listen to their bragging. For example, I am very capable, have a bright future, can bear hardships, have ideas, and can boast that I know astronomy and geography. If you can't play, I'll talk to you about a deep topic. Many women with limited knowledge are easily confused by them. After meeting, if they really fall in love with you, they must ask for a stable relationship. One characteristic of this kind of man is that he is very patient with the woman he likes. They are loyal and single-minded. They can wait. Even if you let him wait for one year, he can wait for two years. They are eager for your sexual attempt to be stable for a long time. There are two kinds of gardeners who are only interested in your body, or only interested in certain interests. So the gardener can also have love for you, but he can have love for everyone. Their lifelong ideal is "to make the world full of love". Gardeners all have the same psychology, that is, the more women like him, the better. He is open to everyone. Therefore, under this psychological control, they either have many female friends or want to have many female "friends". Gardeners also have the same characteristics, that is, they understand women's psychology very well. Therefore, I am good at controlling women's discretion. They often have an obvious trait that can attract the opposite sex. Such as handsome, humorous, considerate, knowledgeable and so on. Due to the development of modern social network, more gardeners have been created. In the past, when we were young, there was no internet, so if we want to be gardeners, we must have two conditions, either outstanding appearance or special poverty. These two types of people are most popular with women. Such as movie stars and crosstalk performers. So there were not many gardeners at that time. And there were few introverted gardeners at that time. But it's different now. The Internet provides an exhibition world for introverted gardeners. These introverted gardeners have a common feature, that is, they can't talk in real life, but they are very sweet on the Internet. Furthermore, the network ignores the first appearance selection factor. Therefore, some gardeners with poor appearance and poor personality have been achieved in reality. On the one hand, it may be because some introverted men are introverted, thoughtful and romantic, but if you want him to behave in reality, he can't. On the other hand, for a gardener with no connotation, although he can't write beautiful sentences, he can just copy and paste them. So, the girl at the other end of the network saw the happy love story, maybe he copied it from other websites. Either a 20-year-old master once fell in love with her net friend, or what the net friend said was particularly romantic. As a result, when we met, the other party was a boy of 13 years old. The child said that everything he said to the girl was copied from other websites. There is also that if women are attracted by a man's inner nature, they tend to ignore the importance of appearance, which is also caused by the different requirements of women and men for the appearance of the opposite sex. Men will fall in love at first sight when they see their long-cherished ugly girl online, while women are disappointed when they see their long-cherished ugly man online, but it is not easy to fall in love at first sight. Therefore, the illusory nature of the network has created more gardeners. Many naive girls have been cheated. An online gardener is more dangerous than a real gardener, because you can't know his true identity. Another feature of male gardeners is that three sentences are inseparable. In the process of attracting you, they will talk about sex intentionally or unintentionally and test your reaction. So that he can master the strength and speed of the attack. Real gardeners have no patience to wait. So the best tool to judge whether the other person is a gardener is time. They can't deal with a woman for long. Otherwise, you are not a gardener. Therefore, if you see a man always trying to attract the attention of women, trying to attract the attention of many women, and he is in a hurry, then he has the potential to become a gardener. It is not difficult to distinguish these three types of people. The first one is not possessive of you and will not keep "intimate" contact with you. Belongs to a friend of a gentleman, and has no desire to control with you. Second, possessiveness will keep close contact with you, control you, but be loyal, patient and able to wait for you. The third category, possessiveness, will maintain "very close" contact with you in a short time, and is extremely eager for "close contact". Some people are controlling, others are not. No loyalty to you, no patience to wait. So the best way to distinguish the second category from the third category is time. Therefore, it is impossible to get to know a person without enough time. Also remind female friends to pay attention. This time must be real time, not network time. It is possible for a gardener to keep 10 years online with you, because it does not affect his real life. Therefore, it is important to keep realistic communication time. Observe its actual performance, not its network performance. ) Comments (0)