How to save my ex-girlfriend, what message should I send?

First, find out the real reason why she left you.

What girls say most when they break up is: we are not suitable, I have no feelings for you, but is this really the case? In fact, this is just a kind word she said to you, just to make your heart easier to accept the decision to break up. When a girl breaks up, it is often the result of many problems in the process of love. Common reasons for breaking up are: Have you given her enough care, consideration or comfort in love?

Have you fulfilled your responsibility as a lover? Don't think that it is enough for you to meet her material needs, but you should also meet her spiritual needs, and love is one of them. There are enough data to show the forms of love that women need, including care, understanding, respect, loyalty, consideration and comfort.

Second, keep a proper distance from your girlfriend.

You may have saved your girlfriend with "gummy candy" before, and you have been around your girlfriend all day, asking questions and being attentive. Obviously, that has no practical effect (otherwise, I wouldn't be looking for inspiration here). Then, from now on, you might as well keep a proper distance from your girlfriend, don't always contact her actively, just greet her from time to time every day, and don't stick to her all the time. Change the inherent impression and reorganize the mode of getting along. Of course, keeping your distance is not to make you disappear, but to chat with her in a different identity and mentality. In other words, you were eager to win back your girlfriend's favor as a suitor before, but now you have changed your identity and become her ordinary friend, which is not easy to arouse her disgust, but is conducive to your further approach.

Third, change the inherent impression and reorganize the mode of getting along.

In the breakup stage, girls need some space and time to repair their hearts, and they need to use this time to forget your feelings. So don't entangle at this time, otherwise it will only aggravate her inner trauma. Then during this recovery, you should have something to subvert her thoughts, so as to break your inherent impression of her psychology, change yourself in the most direct way, and move closer to her favorite direction. At this time, it needs to involve changes in self-image and lifestyle.

In fact, saving love is a short-term goal and a long-term goal. After all, everyone's time and energy are limited. It is most important to grasp the existing love and not let it burn because of trivial matters. Now that fate has arrived, let's get rid of those unnecessary contradictions and work hard for a better future.