Having a “domineering” husband makes my love hopeless

Using "overbearing" to describe your husband gives the first impression of being strong. It is also the peak state of machismo. They are authoritarian, self-confident, and extremely controlling. While he is iron-fisted and tender, he also appears to be soft-hearted and has a strong sense of responsibility. I just want to protect you, and I am especially willing to sacrifice for you.

When the word domineering first comes to mind, we all habitually say domineering president. Adding domineering as an adjective in front of the president shows that the president is resolute and has a capable and strong work style.

However, using domineering to describe your husband is somewhat of a show of affection. They talked about their husbands in such insinuations, expressing that they liked their husbands' domineering nature. However, due to human feelings, he had no choice but to use domineering to cover up the enjoyment in his heart at this moment. They feel overbearing by dressing their husbands in clothes that cover up warmth and sweetness. So now I will follow the 4 points summarized by my brother to identify the truly high-quality domineering boyfriend in love.

Meilan has such a domineering husband. How do they really feel about getting along?

On every day off, her husband Junfeng would take over all the shopping and groceries and pick up express delivery. He also said to his wife very seriously: "You have been working hard for a week, take a good rest, and let me do this kind of physical work?" After hearing this, his wife was very moved and said that it is great for her husband to have you.

Whenever his wife tells her something, he always completes it to her surprise. For example, when his wife bought eye cream, when he picked up the express delivery, he threw away the gift on the way. When his wife questioned him when he got home, he said confidently: "The gifts are not up to standard. I'm afraid it's not good for your skin." The wife couldn't help but smile. The domineering attitude that surprised Meilan during the relationship turned into a helpless surprise after marriage.

Meilan knows that her husband is a kind, responsible, responsible and family-oriented man. However, her husband's domineering attitude in the relationship always makes her passively uncomfortable.

"Domineering" and "warmth", these two qualities constitute Junfeng's overall aura. If Mei Lan only enjoys his warmth and blindly wants to curb his dominance. That is a requirement close to an ideal husband, but it will bring more uncertain and imposed pressure on the current relationship between husband and wife. Therefore, Mi-ran must first accept his personality traits.

Secondly, in the face of our husband’s domineering attitude, we need to communicate directly and proactively. It is much more effective than using roundabout and smooth communication. We must firmly state our stance on some issues that cannot be compromised. Don't hold on to the vague consciousness that I don't say you should understand. You can tell him directly that this gift of mine cannot be thrown away. I have other uses for it.

Meilan and Junfeng should emphasize the importance of communication between husband and wife and encourage him to discuss with you before making decisions. Let your overbearing husband make the final decision after your husband and wife discuss the outcome, and you must obey your husband's overbearing decision. This not only takes care of your feelings, but also maintains your husband's dominance.

When she met Du Mingzhe, Song Shangji was deeply impressed by his domineering attitude. Just like the domineering president in the TV series, he will do everything for himself personally and handle everything down to the smallest detail. It made her feel particularly safe, unlike her best friend's husband who was always groveling and submissive.

Song Shangji thought this was the most beautiful love word she had ever heard in the world, but later she realized that it was her husband's most domineering sweet talk. After the marriage, Du Mingzhe took great care of Song Shangji, but he only took care of her more and more. It can be as small as dressing up, as big as changing jobs or having children. The overbearing husband has to give advice and guidance, making Song Shangji feel like she is her husband's accessory. Live without any sense of self, without any initiative or choice. I can only nod and obey my husband's request without any rebuttal.

Sometimes Song Shangji also hesitates and asks herself, is such a domineering husband what she wants?

Du Mingzhe’s behavior has reached the level of suppressing Song Shangji’s ego. Under the pressure of this absolute control, no matter how hard she tried, she could not change her husband's domineering strength. He is also indifferent to the current marital status of the two people.

However, we cannot ignore that Song Shangji enjoyed this domineering feeling at the beginning. They even equate this feeling with "a sense of security."

Therefore, from Du Mingzhe's point of view, his control over his wife is "authorized".

First of all, we must understand where Du Mingzhe’s strong desire for control comes from. In his concept of marriage, the other party's loyalty means absolute control. Only by suppressing her ego can her marriage be stable. Have a serious communication. This may have something to do with his growth experience.

Secondly, Song Shangji must gradually withdraw her "authorization". This is a careful and lengthy process and is not suitable for resistance in an overly drastic way. No matter how much she looks down on her best friend's cowardly husband, Song Shangji must rely less on her own strong and domineering husband. Expectations from others will be reduced, your own growth will be strong, and the relationship will naturally be relatively harmonious.

Liu Yan and Chen Ming are such a pair.

When they were in love, Chen Ming bought Liu Yan a gold bracelet, which she liked very much. From then on, Chen Ming gave Liu Yan gold jewelry every birthday.

Sure enough, this year’s birthday gift is also a zodiac pendant of more than 30 grams, plus a very thick chain. Even his 8-year-old son found it ugly, but Chen Ming didn't care at all. She also said proudly: "How generous, this proves that I am willing to give it up."

Liu Yan knew that she had to accept this gift, and she had to accept everything her husband gave her unconditionally. In the eyes of outsiders, Chen Ming loves his wife very much and buys her brand-name bags when he goes abroad. Liu Yan has said many times that I don't like these famous brands, as long as they are comfortable to use. But he said: "Wife, you don't need to save money for me, I want you to become the happiest woman."

Liu Yan was very confused. Although her husband was overbearing and narcissistic. However, he is very devoted to her. Even if it is a social occasion, he will never act for the occasion. She always misses her husband, can she take more care of her own feelings?

When a person turns caring for his wife into a kind of showing off, this kind of good may only exist in the narcissism of the giver. It was obviously the child who was reminding me, but my wife refused again and again. The narcissistic husband regards his family's understanding as a way of showing off his success. Because he is afraid that others will see his true emotions.

Perhaps in his understanding, not being needed is a very insecure thing, especially for his own family. Liu Yan can help her husband build a sense of self-confidence. The more you think you are a good person to others, the less you know what your own strengths are. Therefore, Liu Yan wanted him to see that there are many kinds of care for a person, and the best is what the other person needs the most.

As for Liu Yan, you have to use love words to slowly influence him. For example, "Husband, you are very dedicated, and I feel relieved when you are on business and social occasions." Warm words of love like this can make the husband temporarily put aside his vulnerability and get closer to his approval.

A domineering husband is always declaring his existence and his sovereignty. Explain to others his ownership of you. You must know that all his behaviors are to gain your approval. You can provide him with more approval by complimenting him in a way he likes. As you keep moving, he'll have some quality couple interactions. Use a curved approach to save your relationship as a couple, thereby avoiding the edge of a domineering man, and you will gain a different kind of joy and happiness.

First of all, re-understand your relationship as husband and wife in marriage.

Everyone has his own answer in his heart. From the perspective of Brother Cicada, every kind of person is worthy of being loved. If you like a domineering husband, it must be because his domineering feeling in this relationship attracts you. It satisfies your need for strength, and his domineering personality makes you full of mysterious expectations for your married life, giving you an impulsive desire to break through.

During the period of love, his domineering strength and unreasonableness make you both like and desire to conquer him. After marriage, you continue to explore with curiosity, why is this domineering husband so strong? What has he experienced in the past? Do you have such values ??and ways of doing things? In the end, you even saw the vulnerability and extreme lack of confidence behind his dominance.

Domineering men have never been seriously loved and cared for by their parents in their native families. Therefore, they long to be seen and recognized by each other. Your curiosity can satisfy his inner need for attention, which has a mutually healing effect in the early stages of improving the marital relationship. Because everything he does is to attract your attention, which is not the original intention of a domineering man.

A domineering man is also a passionate man. Your enthusiasm is like water and can make him melt the ice and snow.

Because your warm love words can make up for the differences between you and reduce unnecessary conflicts.

In daily interactions, you remind him tactfully with warm love words. You are different and will have different personality differences, feelings and needs. Then choose marital conflicts that are not serious in nature, connect with self-expression ability, and enhance his psychological endurance.

For example, domineering men are used to handling problems in an arbitrary manner, and sometimes they are very extreme. You can express your opinions and feelings to him repeatedly. Although you can't change his mind immediately due to your insinuation. However, at least he received new information and found a new balance.

A flexible relationship between husband and wife means that each other can expand and contract freely. I can present my true thoughts and then integrate your opinions. As long as the differences after neutralization do not affect our relationship, it will be perfect. In this realm of marriage, a domineering man cannot meet your expectations quickly. However, don't give up your right to self-expression just because of his strong refusal.

Faced with a domineering husband, we need to find out more clearly, what do you want in this marriage?

There are some things we can rely on from a domineering husband, which is why you like and admire him in the early stages of your relationship. It is also the reason why you entered into marriage through love, and we can accept some of his contributions. For things you don't like, you should gradually communicate and then change slowly. There are some things we can look for elsewhere. Even, don't accept his contribution.

In the process of getting along in married life, we all need to figure out the different needs in our hearts and how to satisfy each other. Create a sense of boundaries around your differences so that your relationship can be comfortable. Only by giving to each other can we make purposeful choices, and the final contribution is what the other party really needs.

A domineering husband will often cross the line. As long as you have enough patience, you can fully integrate his domineering behavior. If you are not patient enough, practice your self-expression skills over and over again. As long as your attitude is firm and you have enough patience, the domineering man will work hard to grow. Your relationship as husband and wife will also grow stronger and stronger through mutual growth.