What's the difference between making friends with old diplomatic friends and China people?

The differences between making friends with old diplomatic friends and making friends with China people are as follows:

1. Ways to establish and maintain friendship.

China was very cautious in the initial stage of establishing friendship. They spent a long time communicating with each other and found out whether their interests and hobbies were the same. Even after suffering, they would confirm and accept each other as friends. Maintaining friendship requires constant interaction, which may involve all aspects of each other's work, life and family.

In the initial stage of establishing friendship, the western psychological defense line is very low. When they will become friends, with the further development of friendly relations, their psychological defense will gradually increase, because he should be wary of whether you will touch his "privacy" and "independence". This is just the opposite of China people. China people have a high psychological defense line in the early stage, but they have a low or no psychological defense line in the back.

2. Friends present different content.

From China's description of friends, we can see that friends are not only people who share happiness, but also people who can face difficulties and life and death together. So friends are promoters, sponsors, supporters and consultants, and sometimes even collaborators.

The west supports each other emotionally and spends time together. To put it bluntly, everyone supports each other mentally and emotionally, and we can play together and share the fast east when we have time. Therefore, friends are limited to spiritual or emotional support, and can also play and entertain together.

Friends have different expectations.

China: I have high expectations for my friends. I hope I can help you in the snow and do my best. West: The expectation of friends is low, because there is not much substantial help between friends.

Changes in social outlook on making friends.

China always wants to talk with old friends, while westerners prefer to make new friends. In a word, there are great differences between Chinese and western views on friendship. However, with the passage of time, today, under the erosion of western culture, the concept of friendship of most people in China has changed to some extent.

In this context, some westernized people in China regard making friends as a tool to gain benefits, which makes many people "cheated" by their friends and makes the society lose trust in their friends, thus causing many social problems. It can be said that many bad social phenomena and problems are directly related to the evolution of culture.